I Try To Resist

   Go back to your husband, don't bother, and he can scratch your scabies. '

   Well, if you want to be with your lover so much, divorce your husband and go! Then no one can tell you anything !! But you women, because you like to be insured and first find a lover, fuck him and finally if you feel that it's work, then you decide to divorce! This is BETRAYAL and from the lowest! Either talk to your husband, or get a divorce and do what you think is right!

   If one day the heart ... True, Milena, listen to this song ... and do not deprive yourself of what you will one day regret!

   According to the law of karma, the fairest and fairest thing for everyone would be to talk to your husband, to tell him how much you value him, but that you are in love with someone else. That you ask him for forgiveness, but you go to the other. He will suffer, there is no way. But this suffering will be fair, not a lie. And if your new love happens to fail, don't go back to it. You have no place where you have opened such a wound. Leave him, let him find a Woman who deserves it and who will heal her with his love. Except I don't believe you have the strength for these only right actions. You don't look like one.

   Falling in love is like an hourglass full of heart emptying your head. These chills, chemistry are temporary work. People only appreciate something when they lose it, so stay with your husband and don't deal with him.

   He's not my lover, that's what I'm explaining. There is attraction between us, but I pretend I don't and that I only look at him as a friend. Every time he tries to approach me, I block him. I just sit and wait for my passion to pass. I don't want to divorce, I want to oppose until my feelings for this person disappear. But it's hard sometimes.

   I didn't understand something - first you write that you have been in love with this man for two years (which I understand as love), and then that you want to scratch your scabies (supposedly you only want sex or you have some emotions, but not love). If you truly love him, it means that you do not love your husband, but simply feel respect for him. In this case, I think it's right to be honest with him, because he thinks you love him and lives a lie. Or he could be with a woman who really loves him. It is better to separate and each seek happiness separately. And it is better for the child than to live with an illusion and to be left with the impression that love is rather indifference and ends with the habit of two being together. If it's just instinct and emotion, you better not do it. Take this as the price you have to pay for your family happiness. These almost one-off relationships are from day to noon and often bring only pain. Love is what is real. Will it be pleasant for you tomorrow if your husband and daughter spit in your face with disappointment, pain, sadness and disgust for you, written on their faces? Do not think that if you indulge in emotion, everything will be fine. Then you will have other torments. So in both cases you will pay a price, but if you do not give up, at least you will not be responsible for the suffering of other people, incl. and your child. And don't you think it's possible to talk to your husband about permission to go out with the man in question? Sorry if this doesn't match your understanding, I'm just suggesting it as an option. In principle, if you are more liberated, this can allow both the lamb to be whole and the wolf to be full. Love is what is real. Will it be pleasant for you tomorrow if your husband and daughter spit in your face with disappointment, pain, sadness and disgust for you, written on their faces? Do not think that if you indulge in emotion, everything will be fine. Then you will have other torments. So in both cases you will pay a price, but if you do not give up, at least you will not be responsible for the suffering of other people, incl. and your child. And don't you think it's possible to talk to your husband about permission to go out with the man in question? Sorry if this doesn't match your understanding, I'm just suggesting it as an option. In principle, if you are more liberated, this can allow both the lamb to be whole and the wolf to be full. Love is what is real. Will it be pleasant for you tomorrow if your husband and daughter spit in your face with disappointment, pain, sadness and disgust for you, written on their faces? Do not think that if you indulge in emotion, everything will be fine. Then you will have other torments. So in both cases you will pay a price, but if you do not give up, at least you will not be responsible for the suffering of other people, incl. and your child. And don't you think it's possible to talk to your husband about permission to go out with the man in question? Sorry if this doesn't match your understanding, I'm just suggesting it as an option. In principle, if you are more liberated, this can allow both the lamb to be whole and the wolf to be full. sadness and disgust for you written on their faces? Do not think that if you indulge in emotion, everything will be fine. Then you will have other torments. So in both cases you will pay a price, but if you do not give up, at least you will not be responsible for the suffering of other people, incl. and your child. And don't you think it's possible to talk to your husband about permission to go out with the man in question? Sorry if this doesn't match your understanding, I'm just suggesting it as an option. In principle, if you are more liberated, this can allow both the lamb to be whole and the wolf to be full. sadness and disgust for you written on their faces? Do not think that if you indulge in emotion, everything will be fine. Then you will have other torments. So in both cases you will pay a price, but if you do not give up, at least you will not be responsible for the suffering of other people, incl. and your child. And don't you think it's possible to talk to your husband about permission to go out with the man in question? Sorry if this doesn't match your understanding, I'm just suggesting it as an option. In principle, if you are more liberated, this can allow both the lamb to be whole and the wolf to be full. at least you will not be responsible for the suffering of other people, incl. and your child. And don't you think it's possible to talk to your husband about permission to go out with the man in question? Sorry if this doesn't match your understanding, I'm just suggesting it as an option. In principle, if you are more liberated, this can allow both the lamb to be whole and the wolf to be full. at least you will not be responsible for the suffering of other people, incl. and your child. And don't you think it's possible to talk to your husband about permission to go out with the man in question? Sorry if this doesn't match your understanding, I'm just suggesting it as an option. In principle, if you are more liberated, this can allow both the lamb to be whole and the wolf to be full.

   Up to 6 (author) How do you wait for the feelings to disappear, haven't you had them for 2 years? If they haven't disappeared in 2 years, then they will hardly ever disappear or at least not until you consume them. Apparently it's not just about scratching scabies. In my opinion, the real question that should excite you is whether you love your husband. Because if you don't love him, it doesn't matter if you're in love with someone else or not. And if you don't love him, you have 2 options - either you lie to him all your life that you love him and harass him internally, or you share everything with him and consume your feelings with the other. But you will not do it because you do not have the courage. And if you think that by harassing yourself all your life and "protecting" everyone, someone will appreciate it and hang you a medal, you are wrong. Rather, one day in many years, when your husband realizes that you did not love him, he will be many times more hurt and offended, than if you're honest with him now. Because then he will realize that all these years have been lost to him, he has lived in a big lie and he could really be with a woman who loves him. And to live in denial all your life is not a job. So I think you're acting immoral if you're inactive, not if you tell him everything. Will you be pleased on your deathbed to learn that the man who swore love has almost never loved you in his entire life? Think about it. Will you be pleased on your deathbed to learn that the man who swore love has almost never loved you in his entire life? Think about it. Would it be nice on your deathbed to realize that the man who swore love has almost never loved you in his life? Think about it.

   I do not see it as a desire of the heart, rather these chemicals and fires direct me to other organs:) ... I have not experienced such passions for absolutely anyone and therefore I am hardly the best advisor, but isn't it good to think why your attraction to the other is so strong? What do you really miss? Can't you get it otherwise?

   By the author I love my husband. I feel a strong attraction to the other, not knowing exactly what it is caused by. He likes me very much, and I pretend to accept him only as a friend, but inside it boils and boils and I often can barely stand it. I can't leave my husband just because someone grabbed my attention. Maybe I mispronounced, this is not a desire of the heart, this is a strong attraction that is hard for me to resist. I keep thinking, it will pass, I will overcome it, but somehow it doesn't work out. My husband is my life partner, my spiritual partner, my great love. The other is my thrill, maybe everything missing between me and my husband after years together. Sometimes I have the feeling that this will not end until it is consumed, but it would be so simple. However, neither of them even suspects my internal conflict. And no, my husband will not teach his deathbed that I never loved him, because he and my daughter are my two favorite creatures in life. Isn't it possible to love more than one? Or like more than one? Or want more than one?

   This man is either your colleague or your family friend. I just hope he's not your boss. Otherwise, in the above two cases, if you want to, you will still find ways to avoid it.

   Number 11, don't you know me? Or just with a lot of insight? In fact, this man is all three of me - a colleague, a family friend and the head of the department I work for, well, not my direct boss, but something like that. So hit the top ten :( Complete drama!

   I'm number 11. My insight comes from a story like this. I am committed and I have feelings for a man who is my colleague and boss, but not my direct one. I have been fighting with myself for more than a year. At the same time, my friend is wonderful and loves me very much. But this is the situation, we cannot command our heart.

   I had fallen in love with a girl and 3 years. I had to overcome it. She had a boyfriend. He finally cheated on him, but not with me. I hated her, then we became friends again. It had a great negative impact on my life, a scar that I will carry for life. Although it has long been forgotten. She has always been friendly with me. But when a person loves, a look from his beloved is enough for him to think - maybe. Whether two people can love each other at the same time, I don't know, it happened to me, but for a short time. In general, if there were only two of you, you and your husband, it's easy - the other pleases me more, or I'll go with both, and you have time until you learn. However, it is worse for the child. What if you go to the other and the man? learn this, you will feel very bad, and divorce may follow. I would choose to be with my family, without love, than to part with my partner, and I have a child. It is true that a lot of effort you have to put in to calm down. And most likely you will submit in the end, irreversible events will follow. But what you can do is fight for as long as possible. That's not what he wanted to hear, but he can't support you if you have a child (how old is he). Because if he is over 18 years old. The situation is different now. I understand you, I know it's hard for you, but there's nothing else you can do. Here, in my opinion, it is not about you, your husband, your lover, it is only about the child. but I can't support you if you have a child (how old is he). Because if he is over 18 years old. The situation is different now. I understand you, I know it's hard for you, but there's nothing else you can do. Here, in my opinion, it is not about you, your husband, your lover, it is only about the child. but I can't support you if you have a child (how old is he). Because if he is over 18 years old. The situation is different now. I understand you, I know it's hard for you, but there's nothing else you can do. Here, in my opinion, it is not about you, your husband, your lover, it is only about the child.

   I apologize a lot for my meticulousness in the following lines, but one thing that bothers me can't fit in my head. So forgive the tone in which I will allow myself to speak. You have a man, you have gone through all kinds of difficulties with him over the years - emotions, ups and downs ... He gave everything for you, as well as you for him. You say * he and my daughter are my two favorite creatures in life * and yet you look for a thrill after a while in another place wherever you go - then you realize how much you have done wrong. It is awful to stand in front of reality, to look it in the eye and, judging by the experience of others, to realize that every second love loses its spark over time, be it from human incompetence or something else. How many stories are there? How many more will fall into the trap of their own illusion? What an example you are for others, who will be the first to face life? Is this what awaits most of us - an illusion that there is something completely real and permanent in this world that is worth fighting for with all one's might? 2000 years AFTER CHRIST, and people have not learned what love is and how to keep it forever. Congratulations, you have despaired of a 19-year-old boy who is getting more and more confused day by day.

   From the author I thought not to write more in the topic, because I received enough comments, advice and recommendations and thank you all, because each of you in his own way managed to help me :) But the last two comments, and especially the words of number 15 made me more once I try to explain the situation. To number 14 - my child is 4, my husband and I have been together for 8 years, 4 - as boyfriends, from 4 - married. I repeat, I do not want to leave my husband, and I do not want to indulge in my attraction to the other person. My call for support was driven by a desire to hear "Do the right thing by not indulging in forbidden feelings and passions" rather than "Do it! Cheat!". And, in general, my desire to release the topic was dictated by guilt. I feel guilty that this happened to me and that I have feelings for a man other than my husband. I just wanted to pour out those feelings and, yes, maybe brag a little bit that in a world where everyone looks at themselves and their own pleasure, I at least try to preserve my values. Well, we are vain sometimes, we want to show ourselves :) Lastly, and in conclusion: I DON'T WANT THIS TO HAPPEN TO ME AND I'M SORRY IT HAPPENED TO ME !!! Now to number 15. Boy 19, if you feel overwhelmed and disillusioned by "every second love loses its spark with time," judging only by what you see in other people, do you ask me how I feel? provided that this happened TO ME, here and now. Do you think that I did not live with the same faith that true love is eternal? And do you think that I have consciously and deliberately set out to trample everything, what did i believe in I'm not looking for a thrill elsewhere, I don't miss anything in the family, but still the thrill found me. After all, the whole topic is written for this, to relieve at least a little of the guilt. This is what happened to me, this is what I am telling. And I'm sincerely sorry that my story has disillusioned you. I feel the same, but in tenths, because for you this development of things in love is hypothetical, for me it is a FACT. And I hate that fact! At least there is a chance for you to find the eternal, the real and the strong one, AND TO KEEP IT. Not for me, I failed, I defiled it and defiled it. But I'm not, and I won't get to the end! that my story has disillusioned you. I feel the same, but in tenths, because for you this development of things in love is hypothetical, for me it is a FACT. And I hate that fact! At least there is a chance for you to find the eternal, the real and the strong one, AND TO KEEP IT. Not for me, I failed, I defiled it and defiled it. But I'm not, and I won't get to the end! that my story has disillusioned you. I feel the same, but in tenths, because for you this development of things in love is hypothetical, for me it is a FACT. And I hate that fact! At least there is a chance for you to find the eternal, the real and the strong one, AND TO KEEP IT. Not for me, I failed, I defiled it and defiled it. But I'm not, and I won't get to the end!

   Author, you are doing the right thing by not giving in to various feelings and passions. Here - he heard it. And now do even more rightly and give your soul and body what they long for.

   From number 15 to the author: I don't know if you will read it, I will not write it after all. I understand you somewhat and I apologize for my initial reaction. You are here to seek advice, not to be judged. Who am I so and so to do it. The problem is that I have seen too many such events and somehow at one point I am exhausted from hopelessness, but you are different. Congratulations on the tremendous effort you are making to make the right decision. You are definitely an intelligent woman who appreciates what she has - that's why I believe you will find the best way out of the situation. I am really sorry that this happened. You don't deserve it, considering the way you fight in spite of everything. I wish you all the best. Think of your child and those you love. That is where your heart will guide you to what is right.