Hello, I'm a 15-year-old girl. Last year I was in 7th grade and they made fun of me a lot. When I went to high school, this problem disappeared and no one made fun of me anymore. I found many new, good and real friends. Everything went for the better. There is only one problem - I do not stop underestimating myself. Many people, classmates, friends tell me that I am beautiful, smart, etc. Sometimes these compliments improve my mood, but most of the time I am very ruined. Constantly, when I see a girl more beautiful than me and I say to myself "She is more beautiful than me, boys will not like a girl like me" and so on. Tears begin that I am not good enough, beautiful, smart, etc. This is the main reason why I can not find a friend. Many boys have talked to me and written to me, but for fear that I am not good enough for them and I repel them. If you can give me some advice to boost your self-esteem, I'm already going crazy. I will ask the moderators to publish the story, although it is insignificant. :)
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Darling, I tell you this with the best of feelings - not that you underestimate yourself, but that you are envious. And from that envy, which will "eat" you, if you do not learn to look at yourself, and not others. Not that way. It is one thing to like something / someone and to want for yourself, it is another to pretend that others have it, silence. You have your good, respect yourself and like yourself as you are. And ... be careful that your new friends don't get bored of your (constant?) Need for compliments.
Keep telling yourself this and you will not have any self-confidence. And your problem is rather the lack of any self-confidence and confidence. Don't look at others - you are beautiful and UNIQUE. Start taking care of yourself in the best possible way. Put on light make-up if you want - emphasize your eyes with an acne line, if you have a pimple or something you don't like on your facial skin, you can always cover it up. Very light makeup will transform you and make you feel better. I speak from personal experience. Make a nice hairstyle, for example. Also play sports! It will help you !!! Good luck, darling!
Sit alone in a quiet place one day, think about what you really don't like about yourself, and from those girls you like so much - see what exactly you like about them and take an example, apply it to yourself, kind of get an idea. With these complexes you only hurt yourself, I've been through this.
I bet that in time this will pass when you meet the right boy. The boys will be with you for what you are. Just be patient and with your head held high. Everyone is beautiful and special in their own way. Where, where there are bigger problems than yours.
There is no such thing as a "self-confidence trick". You are not confident enough and you want that to change. Sign up for sports. For example, dancing or martial arts. Often the sport builds confident people who do not have such problems. Another option is to write on a piece of paper your good and "bad qualities". And try to clear the bad list every month. And when you are confident, you have found your environment, your surroundings and your smile, you will get along with the boy you like because why not. Head up, remember that you are smart and beautiful, smile and everything will fall into place.
hello, let others judge if you are "beautiful" enough :) ok?