I am 25 years old and I have the most perfect person next to me. We understand each other a lot, he considers me for everything, he asks me before he makes any decision. It's just that everything is perfect. He is the man of every woman's dream. He has a great body and all women drink it with their eyes, but it's just mine and I'm sure of it. But enough for him. We have been together for 6 years and I am very happy. I've never looked at anyone else, let alone kissing someone or cheating on them. There are a lot of men around me - that's just my job and I see that I'm very wanted, but I've never been tempted to look at anyone. Here's the problem, I recently met by chance a boy with whom we had a lot of fun. I realized that he is also from my zodiac sign. So my feelings for my boyfriend changed that I can't control myself. I'm constantly exploding for small things and I can't recognize myself. I rarely meet the boy in question, but I never allow myself to even smile at him. I get up thinking about him and go to bed thinking about him again. I can't go on like this anymore, it's been going on for 2-3 months now. At first I thought it was something momentary and it would pass me by. But this ball does not pass in my stomach does not disappear. I wait every moment to see him, wherever I am I look for him in the crowd. When I meet him I lose my mind and my words and if I look him in the eyes I see him looking at me with a gentle look and my stomach turns. I don't want it that way, my man doesn't deserve it. He is the most beautiful in the world and he never flatters me, he adores me, and I hate myself for what I feel. How to get out of this circle - I've never felt this way before. I don't want to hurt anyone and that's why I keep it all to myself. Thanks for the advice in advance.
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Complicated situation. It must be really hard for you. In principle, I always find some advice (good or bad) for everyone. Everyone decides for himself what to do with his life. But in your case ... It's very difficult. On the one hand not to hurt your loved one, on the other - yourself. Maybe your relationship needs to pass this test. You love him, it's obvious. In general, I would say try the other. But in your situation I can't. Try not to think about him. Who knows? In words, everything is easy. Dear girl, I wish you a lot of happiness and make the right decision, whatever it is. You seem to be a good person. Think about the situation from everywhere, do not rush the decision. Let me just add here that you have known your friend for a long time and you think he is perfect. And from this (thrill) you do not know what to expect. He may not be your type at all ... Be careful !!!
Babe, look at your boy, I know what kind of scoundrels there are, only in the end you will regret it. And I have a 6-year relationship, I love the boy, once I left him for another and I ate so many slaps from the other that with tears in my eyes I rushed how he accepted me, I don't know that he forgot him and finally mine never forgot the incident and to this day after 4 years it teases me but I'm to blame and no one else.
I have a serious 2-year-old who also loves me, but I was in a similar situation. To cheat a little ... I was sure this was the right decision to find out exactly what I wanted. But the circumstances were such that I realized, without having to cheat, how much my friend meant to me. I'm calm now and I don't think about the other one at all. It was a temporary attraction ... But with you ... I don't know .... Love is madness ... it has nothing to do with perfect relationships, nor with material ones ... or comfortable ones ... Very often people make mistakes. They forget love and look for the benefit .. Talk to your pr..l .. tell him that you feel confused in your feelings .. Give yourself time to think things over. And do what your heart tells you ...
Don't be fooled by the apparent: he looks like this, like that, I feel like this, like that ... You will meet many more men who will impress you. Will you behave this way every time? Think about the important things in your life, what you want, where you are going. Think about the person next to you, his feelings, expectations of you, the trust between you, your love and respect. Is it worth it because you want some fleeting thrill to ruin what is between you and your friend? Do you want to hurt him? Is it worth ? THINK! Success! He who sows winds reaps storms!
I understand you perfectly - and that's how I feel when I'm in love ... but it can be just a thrill and then you realize that it's not what you think and understand how much more your friend means. Maybe you should try to get to know the other in order to be disappointed, and to understand exactly how you feel. It is quite possible that your feelings for your friend are affection and love, as for a relative ... but you can also be mistaken, simply because the other person attracts you to think that he is something more. My advice is to approach him in order to draw the necessary conclusions, but WITHOUT cheating! If it comes to the point that you want him more than your man - then do not lie to him, but part with him, but keep in mind that then there is no going back. He may be the man of your life and you may lose him for a short-lived passion! Follow your heart!
HELLO, DO YOU KNOW THAT FOR MEN ALL WOMEN ARE K., THEY HAVE THE ATTITUDE THAT EVERYONE CAN BE IN THEIR BED. THE ONE WHO MEETS WANTS TO CHALLENGE YOU, TO PROVIDE THIS TO YOU AND HIMSELF. AND A BOY LIKE YOURS, YOU ARE LOOKING FOR YOU WITH A MAGNIFIER ... HELL, THEY ARE NO LONGER. AND DO YOU KNOW THAT ONCE IN YOUR LIFE THE CHICKEN LANDS DOWN, DO YOU RELEASE HIM ... FOR A LIFETIME. LISTEN TO PATILO! SUCCESS! AND THINK!
I want to ask your friend if he is the first in your bed, if so - break once and realize that all men are the same, but without understanding your man. I'm for the fleeting flirtation, but without deepening, everyone needs a little variety, so if my husband breaks me and things between us remain the same, it's a big deal. If I am given the opportunity and I will do it, it is another matter that I do not feel the need to do so.
It's not my first in bed, I don't need sex, I feel sexually satisfied. Why does this happen, I do not want to experience and feel these things, I do not want to think and experience such things at all, but there is no logic in anything. I am infinitely confused; (
Girl, your situation is really not easy at all, you know it yourself. You will probably hear a lot of opinions on the matter, but you know best yourself, and it is best to decide for yourself what is better for you, I will not give you advice, I will just share with you what happened to me, my history is the same as yours. I had a friend who I loved very much, he was everything to me, I didn't even think that I could ever cheat on him, and I, like you, did not complain about male attention, my friend trusted me completely, once I was at a disco without him, there I met a boy who I don't know why and what he got under my skin, and I, like you, started arguing with my boy about nonsense and constantly looking for the look and smiles of the other boy. Over time, we became closer to the other, I couldn't stand it, I gave in, I cheated, I ruined my relationship, the other dumped me in the first month, and my friend doesn't want to hear about me, how come I didn't try to get it back, I just didn't have a chance, now he's happy with another, and I keep shedding tears , because of a huge and unforgivable mistake. I hope you make the right decision.
How does this happen with a fleeting flirtation? I want to baptize once and then I don't care. But this is more appropriate for men. I can't start something without feeling anything. I must be dumb ...
Sure ...
Thanks ! I think so!