Hello, I am a woman of almost 21 years and I want to have a little man next to me, to whom I can give the love, attention and care that I am capable of. I don't have a brother or sister and cousins, no matter how much I prayed, over my 30s my mother went through 2 miscarriages. My parents had me when they were my age, they are still together, they hold on to each other, they have succeeded professionally and thanks to them I have never missed anything. I have 4 failed relationships behind me and after all the disappointment I have experienced so far I do not know if I will ever meet a partner with whom I can build and if that happens I will be able to relax and allow myself to be attached. I am a student abroad, I work, I study languages separately and I am ambitious to succeed professionally, but I am afraid of what will happen to me personally. Motivation, hard work and determination are leading factors in my professional development, but it all depends on the circumstances to start a family. My parents tell me that I am young, I look good, from a nice and wealthy family and I myself have a lot of achievements so far, but my fears are growing with each passing day. I know it's not normal for my age, so I'm asking for advice. I am constantly making plans for how, if I don't succeed in a few years, I will marry someone I don't have this type of attraction to or I will be fertilized in a specialized institution. I'm afraid that my mother's problem may be hereditary, that I was recently diagnosed with mild cervical dysplasia (I follow the doctors' instructions and feel good, but my anxiety has not gone away). At my age, I'm supposed to have fun, to make a living, and I burden my mind with all these fears and unnecessary backup options. Please spare your offensive comments, no matter how inappropriate it may seem to you, and I would be grateful to hear opinions and advice!
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Your thoughts are like a country girl's. Your only biggest goal is to get married at 21. If you are really a student abroad, you will have a much broader worldview, you will dream of becoming a worthy and fulfilled person before you get married and locked up at home with children. As for your answer - wait for the person from whom you will want children, and do not look for someone who will just make them for you.
You're so young, and you think that way. The family is a very important part of human life, but it is not everything. Study, travel, meet new and different people. Change, because believe me you will. The best is yet to come. I am 28 years old. and I still don't think about family. Not that I don't want it, but not now. I am now independent, professionally realized and full of energy to get to know the world even more.
You are completely normal ... That's how you feel, this is the most normal thing in the world. Leave them these gains. I hope everything happens as you dream. Here they even got 'unworthy', God forbid! ... You will have time for everything, don't worry. ;) Ж22
Number 3-We didn't make her "unworthy" but immature. Sounds like "I want a puppy" She is bored, she wants something defenseless and sweet to take care of and she has decided that she is a baby without realizing the responsibilities and how much more maturity is required. There are many stories of such confused girls whose children are raised by grandparents and whose mother blows the flag. Come on health and smart!
I share the opinion of n. 1. You do not want offensive comments, but which comments do you find offensive. If someone tells you, like No. 1, that you sound like a country girl, is that an insult? You are 21 and studying abroad, and why should you work when you have a well-off family. Why don't you just rely on the teachings. You are not embarrassed to say that you have cervical dysplasia, and you do not mention in which country you study and especially what are your great achievements at the age of 21. You had to point this out so that we could judge you better and get more adequate advice. I hope you understand what else you have to say about yourself.
Open your eyes, don't open your legs!
How many times will you play this topic? She still can't take care of herself and mom and dad still support her baby wanted! This is a responsibility for 18 years ahead darling, because from the little creature you have to raise a good person, not to hurry and at one point regret that you did not get used to blaming him for it and knocking him on your watch. .