Hello, for starters. I am writing here in the hope of receiving some advice or different from my view on the matter. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 years, and before that we were boyfriends for almost 2 years. For some time now I really want to talk to him on this topic ... I want a baby, but so far I was afraid, maybe of his answer. We talked before and then he told me that he wanted too, but now is not the time for me to be silent, because just then we had a hell of a lot of problems .. with our home, with his parents .. there was something to do works and I supported him, I didn't tell him I want it now, right away. Tonight I was afraid to raise the issue again, because I was looking at pictures of friends with children and I felt very sad and somehow ... you know how it feels when you want something with all your heart, it's always in your mind and tears well up in the eyes ... A man noticed that it wasn't me ... and asked me what was going on, after a while of silence and considering how to approach, I told him that I wanted to have a child, and he didn't help me by not telling me what he thought about it and it all ended there. . He went to a business meeting, and I was left alone at home with my thoughts ... Give advice on what to do? What to think? What am I wrong? I do not want to scare him, but I have a right to know what he thinks about this important issue for me.
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give him some time to get used to the thought .. I assure you that very soon you will do it this baby .. do not worry about nonsense ..
He's obviously embarrassed to talk about it, but in any case, once you call him a "man," you may be married and you shouldn't have done it if he doesn't want you to have children. You have to be scared and insist on having this conversation. You have the right to know, at least because every woman deserves a chance to have a baby, and if you want it, you have to have it.
First, do you have a private home and good finances to raise? Second, how old are you?
Try to tell him that you are pregnant, see how he will react .... I don't know if it's a good idea ... Talk, clarify, he needs to understand you ... good luck ..
Is that all that's left? Is that the only thing you think will be useful to society and people? Why do you think that with a child everything will go well with honey and butter? Look, I'm not judging you, but I'm always he believed that having or not having a child is an idea, a fully meaningful process in the context of the universe, and not the realization or emphasis of one's own ego. to try. Most great personalities useful to society and significant in evolutionary terms did not have children. This does not make them any less useful, does it? On the contrary. And the weaker or cowardly a person is and is not aware of his place and its purpose in the world, the more frantically it seeks reproduction. I know that now I will receive a mountain of insults, but this will only strengthen my conviction that I am absolutely right.
My advice - don't do it. You will give birth to him and your husband will enslave you to stay alone at home to watch him, and he will have fun. At the moment I am like that, but I did not want the baby, but my husband. And what was the job. It is not the woman who binds the man to the baby, but the opposite. Remember it.
Well, how to tell him ... When you go to bed in the evening, tell him what excites you and what you want and he will see what he thinks about it. 3 years together are not a little time .... this decision.
Thank you all. In answer to your questions, to have a home in which we live independently and we have the opportunity to take care of a baby. I don't want it to happen at any cost right away. 5. No, it's not just that, but I don't see anything abnormal in it when you love someone to want to create a generation with that person. And yes, you're right ... maybe a lot of great people who didn't have children, but for me it's not, I wouldn't deprive myself of that joy
He may have an illness and not want to talk about it.