Hello! I am a 28 year old woman, I have been living with a man on a family basis for 3 years. From my first marriage I have 2 girls aged 10 and 7, who are with my father, and the man I live with has 2 boys from my first marriage at 16 and 11, they are with us and a girl from my second marriage, who is to his mother. I want to have a child, but he doesn't want to be 41. I really want to have a child, but he says he doesn't care that his time has passed, that his children have already grown up. I tell him that I want to have his blood, he knows I love him very much and I want a child from him, but he doesn't. I think about it every day. I told him I would leave him, he said he couldn't live without me, that he loved me but not an idx child. What to do, I feel inferior that we are not a family. Most families have their own children and want to. Is it worth leaving it for that reason. Otherwise I am happy with him, we love each other very much. But I really want to have a child
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Ole, maleeee .... with this spelling it's hard for the children, sorry for the question, but are you of Bulgarian origin? With so many children and want more and do not believe that financially, you are especially good.
reading the story, you have no children for nothing. let's sort the facts: you started giving birth at 18, you have 2 that you don't care about, your husband also has 2, and you want 1 more. In principle, it's normal to have a child together, but do you have enough money, space, at all growing conditions? Do you work, will you get enough motherhood or will you ask on forums when NOY translates motherhood? and if you don't take care of the two children you already have, what is the guarantee that it will be different with the third? all this concerns the technical details. There is also an option for the person to simply not want another child and you can either respect his decision, or separate if you care so much about the child and not the man.
Most families have children and are happy. ??? He has 3 children from his previous two marriages, and you have two children from your ex-husband. This makes a total of 5 children. You really want a 6th child, which is your responsibility, but this time a common one. With the birth of a new child, the other 5 are not erased from the picture, even if they are not always around. You still have to spend money and attention on them, even if they visit you twice a month. You want a third child for you and a fourth for your friend. This is a huge responsibility. As good as you are financially and over time, there are many important issues to discuss and many stones along the way. I do not find the creation of new life rational here. If he does not want this baby, even if you get pregnant, you will not be filled with happiness at all and after birth it will not be a fairy tale.
And why did you give your own children? How can you not be ashamed to leave them for some man, even if you want a child from him? What if you split up? Will you slap him so that he is alone with three children? !! Don't be crazy! But you definitely are. You are not a mother to want to be again!
Leave him! It is full of men who want children, contrary to what is worn as a myth.
Why do your two daughters live with their father? Did they "decide" like that? You will cause confusion with this explanation and I am personally interested, if you have two children, why don't you look after them, but they are with your father? And how will the man you live with seriously perceive you when you don't look after yours? In case of separation, you will eventually give the child to him and sing to him - to the next father. Here's a reason why he doesn't want a child from you.
You have children. Does he not accept yours as his and you his as his own? Your difference is big. Understand it.
It just shook me. You abandoned both of your children with their father. Now you want a third from this man. If you break up with him, will you leave him the third child and give birth to another man's fourth? And how do you imagine supporting a total of so many children. Now they are 5. And if they become 6? Or do you not pay child support?
Go and pick up your children if you want to have a child! What do they do with the father, and you wave your rags, whatever you do, you think.
If you want children, start looking at the ones you already have!
I'm shocked. You have created a lot of unhappy children and you want to create more?
Don't be angry with him, you are not a defective or bad parent. I understand that one of his children will be independent in 2-3 years, the first person will not start anew. I understand your desire to have something beautiful and common, but you both already have 5 children and they require a lot of time and money. You know for yourself that a child does not keep a man if things do not go well. Should you leave him? This is your decision, if you believe that you will meet another who will be better than him and will want you to have a joint generation ok, act.
A woman of 28 and now your life is a complete mess. Whoever tells you anything here, if you do not realize that it is not abnormal for a mother to abandon her two daughters with their father, nothing personal against the fathers, but two daughters of this age, and not only daughters, should be with the mother , and the same to "live" the unconscious life with an equally disoriented other man, nothing good awaits you.