Hello, I want help from people who have already experienced separation from the child's husband and father. Separation of 5 years after that several unsuccessful attempts on my part to get together. Problems and misunderstandings, I allowed both of us into our lives and other people and I created many difficulties for our child. I admit that I was to blame because I broke up. And then to give myself a chance to recover and reunite my family, I failed again. And this summer I lived together again for 3 months and he not only ruined everything but the child felt close to him as a child, because his behavior is that of a carefree and angry man. He has never been the father he should be, he wants a woman next to him first of all the child has appeared later and is not the most important to him, he does not know how to deal with her. She is already 10 years old. in a difficult period she got used only to me and he had to enter her life with care '. A mature man of 34 years. I think he needs to understand that he was missing in the child's life and instead of attention he wanted to establish himself as a strict father and even she if she could have given him her place and he gives more important to me and not her. It was a nightmare and a war and problems, he was angry with me that we were separated for a long time and insulted even the child. I don't know what to do now, he wants another chance, it's still better and I still feel guilty and I want the child to be with both of us. But I am afraid again of problems and new wounds for the child. That's why I broke up with him, he was carefree at 29, now he's unstable at 34. I wonder if we have a chance ... I think he needs to understand that he was missing in the child's life and instead of attention he wanted to establish himself as a strict father and even she if she could have given him her place and he gives more important to me and not her. It was a nightmare and war and problems, he was angry with me that we were separated for a long time and insulted even the child. I don't know what to do now, he wants another chance, it's still better and I still feel guilty and I want the child to be with both of us. But I am afraid again of problems and new wounds for the child. That's why I broke up with him, he was carefree at 29, now he's unstable at 34. I wonder if we have a chance ... I think he needs to understand that he was missing in the child's life and instead of attention he wanted to establish himself as a strict father and even she if she could have given him her place and he gives more important to me and not her. It was a nightmare and a war and problems, he was angry with me that we were separated for a long time and insulted even the child. I don't know what to do now, he wants another chance, it's still better and I still feel guilty and I want the child to be with both of us. But I am afraid again of problems and new wounds for the child. That's why I broke up with him, he was carefree at 29, now he's unstable at 34. I wonder if we have a chance ... I don't know what to do now, he wants another chance, it's still better and I still feel guilty and I want the child to be with both of us. But I am afraid again of problems and new wounds for the child. That's why I broke up with him, he was carefree at 29, now he's unstable at 34. I wonder if we have a chance ... I don't know what to do now, he wants another chance, it's still better and I still feel guilty and I want the child to be with both of us. But I am afraid again of problems and new wounds for the child. That's why I broke up with him, he was carefree at 29, now he's unstable at 34. I wonder if we have a chance ...
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No. Look ahead. Better alone and calm with the child. Without a man you can, without joy and balance - no.
At 45 it can also be stabilized. Then you will be more stable. Patience!
По-добре недей! И сама знаеш, че нищо няма да се получи и пак ще се нараните взаимно и най-лошото е, че ще объркате и нараните и детето. Да, най-доброто за едно дете е да живее с двамата си родители, но когато е видно, че нещата не се получават, най-добре е да се разделите окончателно. Помисли си от тази гледна точка. Ти си малко дете. Какво предпочиташ? Да живееш само с мама, която те обича и се грижи за теб. Или да живееш и с двамата си родители и да си свидетелка как всеки ден се карат, нараняват те и накрая баща ти те пренебрегва? Така, че спри да нараняваш и себе си и детето си и продължи напред! Достатъчно пъти си опитвала да оправиш нещата, никога не се е получило, защо вярваш, че този път ще е различно? Повярвай ми, няма да е!
No chance. If he did not take advantage of his second chance and give him another 20, he will still remain the same. Forgiveness encourages vicious behavior, it does not eliminate it. Look for another man who is serious and can be a real father to your daughter - she deserves it and doesn't have to make up for your mistakes.
No, no way!
Hello. I know you want the opinion of people who have experienced it is I am but I am in the place of your daughter. I'm getting together now, I'm already 19 years old, but believe me, from a young age we didn't understand each other, separated a thousand times, had terrible events, this is a terrible stress, especially for children, we experience it the most. And this had a terrible effect on my self-esteem. I have always been insecure precisely because of this, because when we are children our family is the biggest support, and when it is not stable, believe me, it is not pleasant at all. I know you want the child to grow up with both of you, but since I have lived with such a family and still live, I recommend that you do not do it. I'm old enough now and I think that if they had separated some time ago I would have grown much happier. Good luck
Do you know what is unfortunate ... about this mentality that the child is the most important child or that they love each other the most ?? !! Do you love your husband as a child? Do you love the child as a sexual object? Do you perceive your mother as a sexual object? This is a different love and that is why it is wrong to put one in front of the other! That's why many families are separated, it's ingrained in people's minds! Yes, if one or three of you die, you will save your child, but it is completely different, you are responsible for this child and I would save the child in front of someone else! I recently read such a story exactly who, who loves to read it and you child, father, mother! The other thing is that you can't demand someone to feel what someone is saying to you, the father certainly loves his child, but you can't tell him that he must be just like you!
author, you will never be happy with anyone. You're just one of those people who likes to impose their opinions on others. You broke up with your husband because of you, now you broke up again because of you, because you want him to think and act like you again. Well, there is no such thing, people are different. Either you accept the other person as he is, or you live alone. Just because your husband seems frivolous doesn't mean he doesn't love his child. Just because he wants to be stricter because he saw that you turned the child into a mother's child doesn't mean he's bad either. It is because of women like you that marriages are ruined, then you roar that he was not serious and that's why you broke up. Swallow your ego and reunite and just accept the person as he is. If you can't do that, you will live alone for a lifetime.