I'm 28 years old. I have been married for three years and have a 1 year old child. I loved my husband very much, but over the years he has changed a lot - he always insulted me and teased that I do not earn enough money, that without him I can not cope, and I have a university degree and earn decent money. And so the days after marriage turned into scandals, sleepless nights bathed in tears ..... We stopped talking and had sex no more than once every two months. In the evening, when he returned from work, he always complained about life, how he was not doing well, how the money was not enough / and we are very, very well materially / And all I wanted was to hug me and show me that he loves me ... ... When we went out together, he always looked at foreign women, forgetting that I am beautiful and I have always had many suitors ... Even in another scandal, he told me that he would leave me .........
I began to feel emptiness because my parents and my girlfriend did not know about the situation, and I did not want to leave it because of the child. And now I want to reveal why I chose the section Love and Infidelity .... At the beginning of the pregnancy a new colleague joined the company. After I stopped working in the office, he would periodically call me on the phone to ask me how I was feeling and how the child was, or just to talk. After I gave birth she even visited me in the hospital and congratulated me and my husband. I was glad that he was interested, but I always declined his invitations to see him because I found this interest unfounded, if you will, I tried to distance myself, because the colleague in question is a very attractive young man, sensitive and delicate. And I didn't want to make my husband jealous because I still wanted to save my marriage .... But one day, my colleague called me at home and told me that he had registered on Skype and offered to talk to me. This time I accepted .... And so day after day, little by little I began to feel the joy of communicating and I can to talk about something other than the topic of money, cars, etc. And the strange thing is that I never revealed to him about the problems with my husband, I never complained, I even hid the truth and I said more than once that I am happy in my marriage .... But last night he sent me a jazz song called "Woman of Gold" and he told me that he reminds me of him, he also told me that in his eyes I am a gentle, intelligent woman who also has a character, which plus has a wonderful little child ..... ..I was speechless and cried in front of the computer and jokingly added that he should be careful with such women, then I added,
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Do it. No one has the right to judge you. To love to be loved is the greatest happiness in the world, and you deserve it. What does your husband offer you - nothing good, right. And the other - all you need - LOVE. Be happy. I used to be - and a lot, but not now, because my love replaced me with another.
I saw that I could leave my shit to you. I wrote you. Call if you want.
When you meet such a person who treats you well, your life changes. The shortcomings of the husband come to light, you start to compare them and this will confuse you even more. But try and do not bind yourself to the words of the colleague that you may get hurt. These flirters forget about you very quickly. I tried and now I have a broken heart.
Don't hurt yourself, your colleague wants sex and after he gets it he will forget that you are a woman of gold. Those men who are looking for a mother with a child are rubbish. They are afraid to have a family, let alone to look after another's child.
DO IT!!!! THERE IS NOTHING BETTER THAN TO FEEL WANTED AND LOVED. TO ME, THINGS SIT THE SAME WAY - OFFENDING HUMILIATION AND ONLY THE TOPIC OF MONEY. I DID AZGO AND I DON'T SORRY BUT IT'S BAD WHEN YOU GET USED TO ATTENTION AND WANT MORE AND MORE .... SUCCESS
It hurts me a lot that this is the image of a large part of Bulgarian men. I have been in such a family environment for 12 years, my soul has melted. Do it, BUT DON'T EXPECT ANYTHING as an engagement from your suitor. Just live the moment!
I agree with number 4 that a man who is courting a married woman with a child mainly wants sex and is afraid to create something of his own and real - like a family. Experience your adventure with your colleague to feel alive and real again. But try not to feel until you are convinced that the other party wants you for much more than sex.
I do not agree that men who deal with married women do not want to start a family. Very, very individual. My situation is also complicated, but I am on the other side. I am a woman of 24 years, I am in love with HIM, and he is divorced. Not because of me. When we met, we became very close with him and two other people. We became an inseparable company in literally two days. On the third night we drank more and he told everyone that he was going to file for his wife's divorce. There was an awkward silence, because what was shared was definitely too personal and he seemed to understand. He changed the subject, but later, when there were only two of us left, he told me that he was just not happy, told me the long story and his arguments were quite convincing. I couldn't help but agree with him that he had to divorce, so I just wished him luck. Yes, however, something obviously happened between us from the first moment we met and to this day we are together, for the seventh month. He is on a mission in Afghanistan, so he still can't get a divorce, but his wife knows, everyone knows, and he has made the final decision that he deserves happiness. I think you need to check if this man is worth it and if so, be happy with him. It is better for your child to live with two separated parents than with two who are unhappy together. Believe me, I was a child like in the second case ... It is better for your child to live with two separated parents than with two who are unhappy together. Believe me, I was a child like in the second case ... It is better for your child to live with two separated parents than with two who are unhappy together. Believe me, I was a child like in the second case ...
I will advise you to catch your husband first so that you can take your child and not be hated by everyone that you are the sinner and he is the righteous. It is not good to cheat, if you do it you will regret all your life that you betrayed your child mostly. Do not lose your child, it is much more important than sex, men and everything. Personally, I don't want to cheat on my partner, even though I'm a 23-year-old man. with me too. Don't lose your child, don't have any sex with your husband, if you can, and take some evidence against him, because sooner or later he will betray you, if he doesn't treat you well, he won't lose his dignity and the child
I understand your difficult situation at home and I sympathize with you very sincerely. But my advice is - do not cheat on your husband with a colleague. Nothing good came out of these love affairs right at work ... believe me. You will only confuse your life. I know what it's like to be in love, but if you give in, it will get worse. After all, the decision is yours alone ...
I'm number 9. I read the above tips and I can't help but say that I don't agree with some of the things. Like I told you, my friend is divorced. He was just never really happy with his wife. They got married because she got pregnant, but the two are radically different and practically strangers. Before that, they only went out for 3-4 months and did not know each other well. He says he never got the warmth and attention he needed. He tried to give her some attention and possibly ignite some warmth and sensuality in her, but alas, she answered all his questions in one word and rarely showed any affection at all. On the other hand, her criticism did not stop and she only talked about money. They became so foreign and unhappy that he started working in 3 places, only not to see her. At the risk of being hated and booed by the people around them, he told her he wanted a divorce. And because we've heard from each other quite often since we knew each other, she understood and decided that we were together and that he was "abandoning her with a child" because of me. And then we were not together at all in the true sense of the word. We just heard each other and felt very close. Indeed, everyone around him thought he was terrible and spat on him because you had a mistress, etc. But he still wants a divorce. From the position of a child in such a family, I can tell you that three times in my teenage years I used to gather and beg them with tears in their eyes not to divorce. I'm sorry I did. They stayed together "because of the children" and now I see two people who are strangers and complain in their minds, and sometimes out loud lost years. I know them and I know that individually they could be happy and calm people. Instead, they quarreled and teased for years and felt like they were in prison because they had children and could not divorce because of them. Internally, I even feel guilty for not seeing the truth as less. If you want advice, it's mine not to stay with him because of the child. Your child will be much happier with two separated and calm parents than with two unhappy ones who are sometimes even very difficult to bear. As for the other gentleman, the Bird of Happiness lands once on his shoulder. Of course, there is a risk of being hit by society, but think about who you want in your life - HIM or society? Think about what you will regret in 30 years - that you chose to be happy and angered your husband and the society in question for a while (because then it passes) or that you never cheated on him and didn't understand if this was the love of your life? Just be careful not to get caught before you make a final decision on anything. Even, as they said above, do everything possible in a possible divorce case that the decision is in your favor and the child stays with you or at least to have large enough rights over it. Be happy!
Why will you fall in love? And I send jazz songs to various women and? Am I breaking their hearts? To stop? That doesn't mean he sent you a song. Well - if you run into him he will not refuse, but because a woman was not denied. How do you know he has a special relationship with you? You're just talking. This is nice, because your husband is obviously a rude person, but this is your dear destiny. And no one escaped her. All our lives we try to escape from our queue. But it is not happening.
number 9, do not give advice, which is better for the child - to be separated or unhappy parents together looking only from their own bell tower. If this isn't your child's play, we're separated now, hop we're getting together now. When a decision is made to separate - it is final. As long as people live in one place, there is still a chance that something will go well for both of them and the child. If the car turns - a lot of roads.