Hello strangers, I hope you help with advice, I will introduce you to my problem. I'm a woman in my 30s, I've had a friend for a year, we've been together, everything is going perfectly, (But everything can't be 6). I have had a hearing problem since I was a child, I can't hear well. And that kills me ... And that's where it all starts. He's a dream man, I don't deserve him. He was probably advised that I was not for him ... To find a healthy girl. And as you can guess, because of my problem, I avoid going to them often, going out with his friends. We love each other, but until when should I avoid meeting people. I want to somehow make him leave me. I don't want him to regret over time that he became very attached to me, or for example that we are a family. I do not have the courage to tell him, nor would I show what is written here, I do not want him to suffer. I just want it to end on its own. A little about our relationship - We didn't have any problems. We understand each other, we give each other space. We are not jealous. There are also no dissatisfied in sex. Our parents know each other, I make sure that he is more often with us. It took a little while but I had to explain. And to add that we are the same age. I expect you to share from me, apart from being cooler to him, what else should I do We have a lot of acquaintances in common, I don't want them to gossip about me. I will follow and comment, be healthy everyone. what else should I do? We have a lot of acquaintances in common, I don't want them to talk about it because of me. I will follow and comment, be healthy everyone. what else should I do? We have a lot of acquaintances in common, I don't want them to gossip about me. I will follow and comment, be healthy everyone.
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And you plan to sit alone all your life because of hearing problems? There are people, the blind, the disabled, the terminally ill, who still have connections and start families. He has accepted your problem, but you obviously cannot accept it. Instead of wondering how to get him to leave you, work on your self-esteem. Do not isolate yourself, even learn to joke about your problem and all his friends and relatives will accept you. After all, he has a relationship with you, not you. So even if someone doesn't like you, you don't care at all.
I am the author. It is a pity that no one writes and I need advice. Please say what you think. I can't, I still refuse to meet theirs ... But I'm really uncomfortable not hearing sometimes. They know about my problem, but I'm still ashamed and I feel out of place .. I can't talk to him openly, that's why I don't want to be sorry, in this case to cry the most .... I'm very sick , difficult and uncomfortable. Many times I have wondered why God punished me.
Look, author. I will tell you not to look for ways to leave him, because the person has accepted you as you are. It will hurt him more than the fact that you have a health problem bothers you. Support yourself instead of leaving him because you can't hear so well. Good luck. Garo
Because you don't want him to suffer, you decided to kill him all at once ... Typical female logic. In a relationship, everyone has to accept some imperfection, some difficulties ..., there are no ideal cases. The only thing you can do is not hold him back if he feels that you are in trouble and decides to leave you. But if you're both good together? .. There was a boy from Australia, Nick Vujicic, without arms and legs (he arrived in Sofia on April 11, 2020). And he is married to an incredible beauty, completely healthy! https://uznayvse.ru/images/content/2017/2/uzn_14866339942.jpg Well, is he an unscrupulous egoist, is she crazy? No, because love is most important. They are both infinitely happy, and the whole world knows them. They have two children. If you do what you set out to do, are you sure that he will find happiness in the future? Or will you make him unhappy for life? This will teach him to choose the easiest path, and it does not lead to success. On the contrary, if you wish him well, you will make sure to work on yourself so that every minute you are together can fill him with joy, trust, energy and optimism.
Thank you all very much. Be healthy, and I have no self-confidence, precisely because of my problem. I wouldn't say I'm ugly or up and down. Long before we met (we know each other) .. but I refused But then I looked for him myself and I am grateful for everything .. I want to make him happy, but I think he may regret it in time .. For now everything is ok .
Look, if you love him, there is no point in parting and people's opinion should not excite you in any way. Once you are happy together, there is no room for doubt. I have some acquaintances and they were both about 30 years old, who had a long-term relationship, they loved each other a lot, but he had a problem ... he had leukemia. His chances were not great, but in spite of everything and everyone and of course because she loved him insanely much she stayed with him and even had a baby .. unfortunately the disease won and he died .. she experienced it very hard, but through the child she will always possess a particle of him. So my idea is that when a person loves, you should never give up your loved one and be happy, just because of some human opinion, and so on. In order for this person to be with you, then he loves you, do not betray him, but let yourself be happy!
People don't answer you, not because they think your problem is insignificant or because you don't like it, but because they don't think there's a problem. There is a female trait, when there is nothing wrong with a relationship, to invent it so that we have something to suffer for. So do you. He has accepted you as you are, with all your pros and cons, and that's called love, so stop filming, relax, and just love yourself. What his parents, relatives and friends think doesn't matter, what matters is what he thinks. And he has already shown you that your condition does not matter to him. Besides, his parents have nothing against you. The only thing normal parents want for their children is to be happy. So if he is happy, they are happy too. Accept yourself as you are, and also that you are both the best for each other now and forever. And no, God did not punish you, you punish yourself. Even when something looks like punishment, it's just to show us what you're capable of. I hope I don't sound harsh, but sometimes I have to say things directly without hesitation, and of course I don't have any bad intentions at all.
The author. Thanks again for the comment. But we Bulgarians (most of them) make fun of and make fun of people like me. Number 7, you say that my problem is not insignificant and that there is no problem. I didn't understand it a bit.
If you start telling him that, "look, I'm not for you, you deserve more ...", blah blah blah ..., it will mean only one thing: not that you are sacrificing love for him, but on the contrary - that you fell out of love with him and are looking for an excuse to dump him. This is a famous female number.
From 7. I say that in my opinion there is no problem, and you invent it (imagine, create, etc.), but in reality there is none. Just stop thinking about what you are and what you are not, what others think or say about you and you as a couple. Just live your life. You have more than a lot of people on this site - you have parents and especially a friend who loves you and is with you. Read the other stories, then you will be convinced that you have no problem. There are many topics about fathers who have abandoned their children and their wives, such as rapists, gamblers, gamblers, women for whom infidelity is nothing, those who have given birth to children just to tie a man. There are also many single people, people without jobs and income. You have everything they don't have and you keep imagining you have a problem.
Don't punish yourself. People have been looking for their soulmate for years, and you want to send her away. If he had a problem with your condition, he wouldn't go with you or leave you at the beginning of your relationship. He obviously loves you and you love him, so he doesn't make you both unhappy. Do you want him to be happy? Make him happy. And I think you're already doing it. Just keep going. If you are worried about communicating with people because of your hearing, tell him, talk to him, he will surely support you and help you overcome it. Don't tell him that you're uncomfortable going out specifically with his friends and relatives, because what would they think, tell him you're uncomfortable going out with new people in general (which I guess is also the case), so you share about the problem is that you don't emphasize the part with his relatives so that you don't hurt him, or that he thinks you're hinting, that the guilt is in them, and hence in him accordingly. Good luck and don't think nonsense. Love and let yourself be loved. Many people can only dream about it.
They told you very well above, Author! The problem is in yourself, in your head - fear, despair, exaggeration, etc. Your hearing problem does not lead to a love problem - you create it ... If you know what my story is ... you will not believe and you will smile like an angel which is rewarded ... And no, it's not a disability! It didn't stop me from having or looking for a chick! But it prevented me from having an income. And you women on the subject of money are .... Come on, say hello and give him a whistle as a gift! And calm down ...
The author summm. I have a question, I'm not experienced and I decided to ask. For now, we use condoms, and that's it. But when he finishes his hand, does it have to be (and movements up and down). And another to ask, which is worse when a man cums fast or slow. In a sense, sometimes I get tired and he still isn't. But I'm happy and we keep going. I suggest you share what you like and what you don't. And for my problem I try not to think much about it. Be healthy...