The problem is that we have known each other for several years, he liked me when he saw me. Of course, me too. He only admitted it to me this year. He has a girlfriend of 3 years, I know he loves her but at the same time he writes to me constantly, he wants me to visit him (but in the city where he works, otherwise we will meet the chick in his hometown if he called me there). He talks to me all the time, nice, nice, he was soon in the city where I study (at work). We went out, we had a good time, we kissed ... he didn't mention his girlfriend. After another day we went to a hotel for one night ... and you remember ... He tells me that he wants to be by my side, to hug me while I sleep, you thought about me all the time. And I'm telling you, he invites me to visit him ... But I don't know how much to trust him and whether this has a future. Will he leave a three-year relationship for me ... or am I just one of those ... (he claims that he has not been with many women). And how to proceed is the question
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If he can't turn his back on his old relationship, then what you are doing has hardly a future ... If he can't break the old one, then there is something in him that is vital to him, even without realizing it, even denying it. and "hate" her. As far as trusting him is hardly insincere with you, he is rather unaware of himself. Sometimes a person needs a little "diversity" in his life, a "fresh crumb" in his intimate relationship, but in such a period it is best to find someone with similar to his search, and not with someone who is thinks of a common future, of a family and of children ... One willingly embarks on a new relationship, thinking that the good will be eternal and will become better and better; take out a loan, thinking that his financial situation will always be flourishing and it will get better ... and very few realize what happens to> 90% of these relationships and loans ... and then they come to cry ... If you accept that this relationship has no future, you will be able to fully enjoy the thrill. If by chance her "future" consists - this will be an additional and big bonus. If you give it up right now, you will most likely save yourself a lot of frustration and pain, and you will most likely miss something very good. In this case, however, you lose the experience that this experience will bring you. The choice is yours! Ray If you give it up right now, you will most likely save yourself a lot of frustration and pain, and you will most likely miss something very good. In this case, however, you lose the experience that this experience will bring you. The choice is yours! Ray If you give it up right now, you will most likely save yourself a lot of frustration and pain, and you will most likely miss something very good. In this case, however, you lose the experience that this experience will bring you. The choice is yours! Ray
Doesn't the fact that he's lying to you both bother you? If he's so sure, why is he hiding you from his girlfriend? Winnie the Pooh
Think about whether you want to be a mistress! If he wants to be with you to be! Let him leave his girlfriend as soon as he "wants to be by your side". You need to know that this way you will never get what you want. If it can't be completely yours, you better not have it! Meg *
we don't know what he tells you and what he promises to give you advice on whether to trust him. You only shared that you know he loves his girlfriend. my advice is to get numb, I don't think that's where you belong. I am in such a situation, but the boy was 7 years old. relationship.leaved his girlfriend, convincing me that I was not the reason, just between them, everything was over, and out of habit, and has long been looking for a reason to separate.we were together for about a year, but things somehow did not work out, the first few months of great love, and then only nerves. After about a year I accidentally found out that they started seeing each other again, and we broke up. And then I realized that they are together again and trying to fix things. Not a week passed, and he again he started calling me and telling me that he loved me, that he wasn't going with her, and he left her again, they had become very different, and he wanted me too. we didn't get together again,
He may end his relationship with the other girl, but it would be better not to get involved in such triangles. It will cost you a lot of nerves and whatever the outcome: with you or with her, you will eventually be exhausted. PP: I'm more of a reader on this site but I want to say that I'm impressed by two people: I like Ray's worldview, and I really like Winnie the Pooh. Winnie the Pooh, if I ever need advice, I would look for yours!
Oh clear. He didn't have many relationships, he wanted to live, but he couldn't leave his girlfriend. Ha to leave her first and then look for you. Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either. You are purely his mistress and nothing more. You will see in time how the jester will beat you. And by the way, tell her, didn't you ask him what his intentions were for you, but for his? If you learn more about him first, then get into relationships that you want to be serious. And one more thing - well, if he wanted to be with you when he liked you, when he saw you, then he would have done it. Why do you think he will do it in three years? It smells. Think a little. Good luck, I hope I'm wrong :) Write how things are going :)
I think Ray and Winnie the Pooh are really right. I want to be with him - I see in him what I want to see. I think that when I visit him I will understand exactly what he wants and either it will be or it will not be be ... Until now I have always been with people my age (21 years), but I feel that I need something more mature. And I'm telling you I see in it everything I need - attitude, attention, hugs .. ..and more and more .. which he gives me. And if things don't work out, I will try not to put it on my heart and I will experience it - I'm not afraid of that, because I have a strong character and I hope this story beautiful or not to break me :) Thank you for the advice, as there is a solution I will write :)
You act mean ...... If his girlfriend finds out (and this will happen sooner or later), how will she feel? Put yourself in her place ....... I hate such actions, that's how lower women act ...
Ray: If you give it up right now, you're more likely to save yourself a lot of frustration and pain, and you're less likely to miss something very good. In this case, however, you also lose the experience that this experience will bring you. "'AMAZING COMMENT, Ray, CONGRATULATIONS! I like it!
OO, whatever you do, don't listen to n 8! You don't have to comply with anyone - there are no rules in love and war, why comply with his girlfriend? Just because she met him before you, you have to just don't talk to me about selfishness, because it's more selfish to try to keep someone who has no feelings for you to make you sick
Number 10, in any case I will not listen to number 8 :) Number 8 to tell you that nowadays there are NO unattached men over 24 years of age. So you have to win them. And since he has feelings for me, why let's not try what will happen ...
Well, it is normal for a man to want to diversify after 3 years of relationship. And you do not mind ... Your dream is to be his mistress or something I did not understand? Because now all the girls are happy to wipe some uncle and wife, and die to boast everywhere of this fact.
I don't want to be his mistress ... I don't know if I will be able to keep him with me ... I will try!