Hello! I am a 17-year-old girl and I have a friend who is also 17. We are with him in different schools and we met at a party. He is a very good boy, he introduced me to his parents and they liked me very much. Sometimes we go to them to watch a movie and his parents are very nice to me. Not a day goes by without seeing each other. We had an argument once (we were both guilty) and I was just wondering how to apologize to him when he called me and asked to see me. We talked, got along and everything was just great! After 2 days we were with them again, his parents were at work and we started kissing. He became more and more insistent, he wanted to undress and so on. He kept saying that he was very afraid of losing me, that he always wanted us to be together, that he loved me! And he wanted us to have sex to strengthen our relationship. We are both virgins, but he wants it very much. He keeps saying he wants me. And I don't know what to do, because I'm very afraid that my parents will find out somehow. Otherwise, I want it too, but I just can't decide. He has shown me many times by his actions that he loves me. Please give me advice !!!
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You are not ready when you are worried about your parents. Otherwise, sex itself is not a scary thing, even if it is the first time. At the beginning it is a bit unpleasant, the feeling itself is strange, it does not necessarily hurt, and shortly after the first time it starts to like you. It is not something that should scare you of pain or danger, it is just a responsible action and one should be ready for it. You are not small, you are of normal age, but you can wait until you turn 18 if you think it will be better. Your parents have nothing to do about it. Sooner or later you will start having sex. Once that happens, they can't go back in time and change what happened. Even if they get angry and punish you, it will be too late, they know it themselves and that is why they sang to you at the time that you have to wait and be careful. It was to avoid making a mistake when you were little and unaware of things. The decision is yours, but if you're worried your parents won't understand, you're not sure enough.
If you keep pulling, you'll lose it, just get scared and that's it.
Your boyfriend wants to melt the pepper and that's it. In general, I have serious doubts that he has feelings for you beyond the desire for sex. Do you know why? Because a relationship is not strengthened by forcing someone to do something they do not want. Deny him firmly and let him know it won't happen until you feel ready. Only then will you know if there are feelings or not. If he tries to blame you for the state of your relationship - do not bond. He's very likely pretending to put you to bed, and he's hardly a virgin.
From the author Many thanks to everyone for the advice! I talked to him. I told him I wasn't ready and he agreed to wait for me until I felt safe. Don't push me! To number 3 - I'm 100% sure he's a virgin. He told me himself, and so did his best friend. Besides, he's not that kind of boy!