He and I have been together for 3 years. We met very interestingly and fell in love suddenly at first sight. After a few months we lived together and everything was perfect, beautiful and unearthly. There was no one who did not envy our relationship. For two months, however, things have changed. He began to pay less attention to me and emphasize his work. Texting became less frequent, our conversations diminished, and so at one point I began to ask myself, "What's going on?" When I asked him, he kept saying that everything was fine, but at the moment he wants us to part. He needed a break and didn't have the time to pay attention to me. I am totally fragmented and for 2 weeks I do not know where I am. I get sick and I feel like I'm going to a hospital. Apart from depression, I don't eat or drink because I can't sleep. I just can not believe it, that our wonderful love will disappear at any moment. Inside, I feel that things will get better, but all my acquaintances advise me to get rid of him. Even his friends tell me to give up ... And I don't want to, because until 3 months ago he was madly in love with me and kept repeating it to me. How is it possible that his feelings suddenly change so much?
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Most likely there is another person on the horizon. Fuck, alcohol, hunger and depression because of a man, oh no. dear no man deserves such suffering. Take matters into your own hands quickly and live your life, men, as much as you want, and more.
Number one is right!
Find someone else, don't fall at his feet, have respect for yourself. He ate and fell asleep. There are much bigger problems in this world.
Author: There are much bigger problems, but now this is my problem. Squeeze your thumbs to make things right - I see hope somewhere out there. And in his horoscope it says that the period is strange and confused for him, but he will soon understand everything. He may have had an interest in another person, but I know there is no place for her in his life. He and I were so entangled in life that we couldn't leave things without a fight, but I wanted him to fight a little harder.
Enough with this unnecessary optimism, author ... It's a complete nonsense. What will you sit and hope does not make sense, I say do not waste your youth on some fools who, seeing a new alternative and forget the happiness they had before, for which they are also fought. Leave him like this to break his head, everyone should be happy enough and not hope for someone else! No horoscopes, nothing, after another week / month you will laugh at it :) Only forward and up
Something is missing somewhere, author. You were too in love (and still are), apparently this blinds you and prevents you from looking at the situation soberly. Just calm down, in the end, it hurts, yes, but it's not the end of the world. In life it happens sometimes. Your naivety and blindness (I'm not saying this badly, we've all experienced it) prevents you from understanding what's going on. Think about it, because all your friends will advise you the same thing? !! Once you want an explanation so much, look for him and tell him that you have the right to one last conversation so that you can move forward calmly. But don't force things. When someone no longer wants to be with you, accept him with a proud head held high, have dignity ..
Author, your man said things softer to affect you as little as possible. the truth is, he obviously doesn't want to be with you. for you the relationship may have been "perfect, unearthly and beautiful", but for him it was not. Accept things, it's for your own good. No matter how much you don't believe it, you will experience it.
Disgust !! He can't do that to you !! Is he your friend or not !! Think about how things got here, realize how you can REALLY influence him and act;) SUCCESS !!!
Even if he returns to you, what guarantee do you have that his horoscope will still not turn after 2, 3 months. Don't waste nerves and days! Apparently he doesn't respect you, what's left to love you! I advise you to forget him and even if he asks you not to pay attention to him to learn how to behave!
The love lasted between three months and three years ... There are other things left ... I guess ... I don't want to discourage you, but it happened to me almost like that with small differences: seven years of marriage, five years of relationship before that , almost seven years old son, pregnant with a second desired child ... The same words, the same hopes on my part. The result: another woman in his life. He left us after my miscarriage. It's been five years since our separation, a month since our divorce. And he is with the next woman and they are expecting a baby. Life is colorful and quite unpredictable. My advice is: the sooner you get your hands on it, the better. The positive thing here is that you have no children.
I'm a man and I've been in your position recently. So the change is not from 3 months. The reasons are at least so far back, not to mention more. Yes, the people next to us love us, promise us that if there are problems, they will share them to solve them, etc. Welcome to the real world, even loved ones lie, the tension builds up until the soap bubble bursts. I hope you are luckier than me. For me, the situation was this: I crawled on my stomach because of her, but I got the standard answer "I've changed, my feelings are not the same, it's not your fault, I just don't love you anymore and I want to separate." I'm not telling you to you despair. I just kept persisting, digging to find out why. I just made things worse. In the end, she cheated on me and didn't even hide enough (because we were still "giving each other a chance"), just to break me. To show me that her decision is final and I have to stop fighting. And now the pain is many times greater. I tell you this because it is very important to feel when it is the right time to stop persisting so that you do not hurt yourself again. There is nothing worse than begging your loved one, again for a little tenderness, and there is nothing worse than him giving it to you out of pity. How long will this collection last 2-3 months, until it boils again. For this, feel the soil. If you see that there is room for compromise and he hesitates, talk. Find the reason for the change, there is 100%. If it's really just in him, you've lost him anyway. Don't persist, you will hurt yourself and him - even if his feelings have changed, believe me he is not happy to watch you suffer. I tell you this because it is very important to feel when it is the right time to stop persisting so that you do not hurt yourself again. There is nothing worse than begging your loved one, again for a little tenderness, and there is nothing worse than him giving it to you out of pity. How long will this collection last 2-3 months, until it boils again. For this, feel the soil. If you see that there is room for compromise and he hesitates, talk. Find the reason for the change, there is 100%. If it's really just in him, you've lost him anyway. Don't persist, you will hurt yourself and him - even if his feelings have changed, believe me he is not happy to watch you suffer. I tell you this because it is very important to feel when it is the right time to stop persisting so that you do not hurt yourself again. There is nothing worse than begging your loved one, again for a little tenderness, and there is nothing worse than him giving it to you out of pity. How long will this collection last 2-3 months, until it boils again. For this, feel the soil. If you see that there is room for compromise and he hesitates, talk. Find the reason for the change, there is 100%. If it's really just in him, you've lost him anyway. Don't persist, you will hurt yourself and him - even if his feelings have changed, believe me he is not happy to watch you suffer. again for a little tenderness and there is nothing worse than him giving it to you out of pity. How long will this collection last 2-3 months, until it boils again. For this, feel the soil. If you see that there is room for compromise and he hesitates, talk. Find the reason for the change, there is 100%. If it's really just in him, you've lost him anyway. Don't persist, you will hurt yourself and him - even if his feelings have changed, believe me he is not happy to watch you suffer. again for a little tenderness and there is nothing worse than him giving it to you out of pity. How long will this collection last 2-3 months, until it boils again. For this, feel the soil. If you see that there is room for compromise and he hesitates, talk. Find the reason for the change, there is 100%. If it's really just in him, you've lost him anyway. Don't persist, you will hurt yourself and him - even if his feelings have changed, believe me he is not happy to watch you suffer.
My manifested a similar defect - as at 12 - at the end of our 6th year together, about 6 months after the birth of our child. Let's call it "Suddenly Disappeared Love Syndrome" (SVIL). Of course, this was not the end of the story ... The problem requires more time and space. Every day this syndrome takes new innocent (or not at all) victims! Shall we make a separate topic?
Author: Thanks for the shared opinions and stories! I feel stupid that I am afraid and desperate, and I'm not even married to him. I guess time will tell the truth, and I just have to keep one thing in mind. If anyone is interested: he saw my poor health and decided to give our relationship a chance for general health. I also started to try harder and be careful with our relationship as if I was getting to know him again. This is not a very natural attitude on either side, but sometimes effort and compromise are required.