Hello. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We are both the type of people who have difficulty making social contacts. We were both overweight and both were overwhelmed by it. Within a few months, I was able to get in shape and it came to the point that she told me in a roundabout way not to tame me a bit, and that she liked me fluffy. That was reason enough for me, and I stopped. It wasn't long before things changed. She set a goal to lose weight and the plan was implemented quite successfully. With the weight loss, her self-confidence appeared and she started doing things she had never allowed herself to do before. Her style of dress has changed radically. She started to put on make-up, put on artificial eyelashes, got a tattoo. He began to look at the world completely differently. He started going out every day, etc. Of course, there is nothing wrong with that. I have no intention of depriving her of this at all or telling her how to dress and where to go. The thing is, I had fallen in love with this modest, silent, irritable girl she had been until a year ago. I liked every part of her body in a natural way. Externally and internally, she was my ideal.
Currently, neither artificial eyelashes attract me, nor the weight of makeup, not to mention the change in character and behavior that has occurred. Until a year ago, I was the most important thing to me. He really demonstrated it, as I did. As my vision changed, I suddenly became a victim of her neglect. For some, this may be normal, but I take it hard. I still love her, but I don't like her anymore. On the contrary. I despise her appearance and her demeanor and her attitude. I'm sure I couldn't fall in love with this girl if she was when we met. For these reasons, there are constant quarrels, because sometimes I don't keep quiet and I start to get annoyed, because she decided to go out with friends instead of me, or because when she puts on make-up and nakonti like a muffin, she disgusts me. I also get annoyed by continuing to take these weight loss pills. I still love and wish this modest and quiet girl of mine, who was until recently. I experience this metamorphosis of hers extremely hard because I continue to love her. I tried to try but I just can't. I can't take it that way. I guess the old one and "I" is a thing of the past and will not return. It's new and I can't stand it. I just don't know what will happen to us. And that makes me feel terrible. What do you think? that I couldn't fall in love with this girl if she was like that when we met. For these reasons, there are constant quarrels, because sometimes I don't keep quiet and I start to get annoyed, because she decided to go out with friends instead of me, or because when she puts on make-up and nakonti like a muffin, she disgusts me. I also get annoyed by continuing to take these weight loss pills. I still love and wish this modest and quiet girl of mine, who was until recently. I experience this metamorphosis of hers extremely hard because I continue to love her.
I tried to try but I just can't. I can't take it that way. I guess the old one and "I" is a thing of the past and will not return. It's new and I can't stand it. I just don't know what will happen to us. And that makes me feel terrible. What do you think? that I couldn't fall in love with this girl if she was like that when we met. Because of these reasons, they constantly quarrel, because sometimes I don't keep quiet and I start to get annoyed, because she decided to go out with friends instead of me, or because when she puts on make-up and nakonti like a muffin, she disgusts me. I also get annoyed by continuing to take these weight loss pills. I still love and wish this modest and quiet girl of mine, who was until recently. I experience this metamorphosis of hers extremely hard because I continue to love her. I tried to try but I just can't. I can't take it that way. I guess the old one and "I" is a thing of the past and will not return. It's new and I can't stand it. I just don't know what will happen to us. And that makes me feel terrible. What do you think?
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The breath of provocation, not from a man, from a woman author ... There are strange people here.
You have 2 options: 1. and you get in shape and become a cool dude. 2. You break up and find a new girlfriend who is like you - overweight, modest and silent. That she managed to lose weight is great. It means she is disciplined and takes care of herself. In my opinion, the problem is in you - why are you looking for such an unassuming girlfriend? Don't you think you deserve some naughty babe? This shows a lack of self-confidence - you kind of say to yourself "if it's uglier and closed, it will only be mine, because no one will want it". Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know you both, but that comes to mind first. Also, you deserve a fight to eat because you stopped training and regained your weight because your girlfriend almost didn't let you. You shouldn't have listened to her.
Well, dude ... since she's more beautiful, she has a bunch of suitors every day ... it's normal for her to be different, now she takes it off all the time, and this is new for her ... it's normal for her to go out to parties, etc. .. I don't see how you will keep her by your side, she hasn't made a living and will still have the pleasure of going out in the evening with companies, etc ... that's why I'm trying to catch a nice girl, but not quite so beautiful that otherwise the whole city takes it down
I suggest you run while it's time. Usually such people forget where they came from, and believe me, sooner or later things will get rough, and you will be the victim. It is enough for me when I read that you have stopped changing (something you may have wanted all your life) because of her, and accordingly she does not return the gesture. It doesn't work much for me, it can't work for you, I don't see equality in all this work. The moment will come when your horns will stick, and it will tell you that you are no longer physically attracted to it because you are fluffy. It is your fault to get here, advice from me, never, never sacrifice yourself for someone, because people are selfish and will not appreciate it when their turn comes.
She didn't want you to lose weight so that you wouldn't have the same change and attract the attention of other girls! I will say it brutally, but it will be true: From the fat girl that no one liked and did not want to go out with her, now she becomes a chick and can not get enough attention, because she always wanted him, which is 100% high school complex. My advice - sit down and talk to her and even if she behaves arrogantly then, it is clear that you are no longer for each other. One shows one's true nature when one begins to receive attention or money! If you are no longer happy in this relationship, you conclude that you will break the question is when?
God forbid a blind to see again! Get up and start training! But not for her sake, but for herself. It is not healthy to be overweight. From there comes low self-esteem, low libido, lowered criteria and a spiral of depression. Get out of this state as soon as possible and the world will seem much better to you. Whether your florist will fall in love with you again is not so important. Grandpa Torbalan
Grandpa Torbalan is right in my opinion. You shouldn't have stopped training like she told you to stop. Train for yourself. I was also over 100 kg at a height of 180 and with training I reached 80 kg and the difference in how I felt was huge. I'm 90 now because I get bored and I only go twice a week, but it's still much better than 100. I train for myself because I feel better, I'm healthier, and training raises endorphins. and I'm in a cool mood after a workout.