Hello friends. I am a 17 year old girl. My boyfriend (23 years old) and I have been together for 3 years and 6 months. Our relationship is already at such a stage that we do the same things every day, there is no variety, we do not go anywhere. The problem is that I am 17 years old, I am young. He is the first and only one I have been with so far. I want to live, to try new things, to be with different men. I know that it doesn't make sense to be with different people all the time, but I'm still young, it's normal to do such things. But on the other hand, I know that if I leave him, I will suffer and we will never get together again, and I am used to him ... He is waiting for me to grow up for another 2-3 years to propose marriage to me. His attitude is that we will be together forever, but I'm not sure that's what I want. He doesn't take me anywhere anymore, he doesn't want us to go out, and I want to go to discos to have fun. and we only stay at home with him. I am afraid to leave him, because I know that I will not find another who will love me as he loves me, but I also do not want to lose my best years in this relationship and not experience anything in life. Please tell, what do you think I should do and what is your opinion? !!
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At the age of 23, he can't do it ... Wow. In my opinion, if you don't care as much as you left him before. You are only 17. And if you think that there are no more perfect than him, you are wrong. There are wonderful new and new men. Don't think about him. Think of yourself. Live your life as free as you can. Change men. There is nothing wrong with that.
You were still a child when you left. What does a 20-year-old have to do with a girl who was 13 .. it was completely illegal as we think. Even if you were 14 .. it is still not normal at all. Leave him, who knows how he manipulated you and continues. And what a marriage in 2-3 years ... you have yet to be a student.
Break and live. You will overcome the separation. It's a little early for you to get married, man.
I also think you should leave him. Explain to him that your interests diverge. I personally can't imagine getting married at 19-20. Maybe to 23, to 26. Live your youth. When you turn 50, you will not be warmed by the fact that you had a boring and unexperienced youth, but you have the "best" man next to you.
The author does not know what she wants, in fact she has not made a living, she wants to try with others to be sure what she wants and to make a living. Ok, she's young, but sorry at number 1, but where's your mind ?? The first few lines make sense, but we come to "Change men. There's nothing wrong with that" - here I can safely commit suicide by listening to you. First you say "Don't think about him. Think about yourself" - the author did not say that the boy does not behave ok., And you advise her to be selfish, to look only at herself and to think only about herself . This is being a self-made man, when a person behaves well, why should you look only at yourself? If she doesn't behave well - I understand, to look after her life, she is young, but in this case you advise her to be selfish, who only cares about himself. As for "change men," she is 17 you are not a pimp or a broker? There is a serious boy, and you advise her to change them - but wait a minute, aren't these handkerchiefs or underpants? It will not be deleted, but how can I change them? Do you give advice on how to turn a girl from a level into a failure in life? With a lot of men, you don't go to bed with the right advice, what advice do you give at all. Author, you are confused when you are young, but only you know what it is worth. If this boy cares about you, doesn't do nonsense, etc., and you see that he loves you - he doesn't do nonsense, for one thing to try, I'm young is definitely not worth it. It's not worth losing a person who knows he wants you just because you're not sure. If he loves you, stay - there are few who will love you, most of them are only * ex. It is normal to want, to try, but think about whether it is worth it. One more thing to number 1, but Well, if the boy is right, he won't bully in the disco very clearly, he's obviously not like everyone else. And you, author, don't judge him for that, if you want to live - live. As for number 2 with the statement that she will be a student since the time of my parents, my mother gave birth to me at 21, married at 20 and completed 2 master's degrees with me, including my father. Not bad, as long as they love each other.
After the first two crazy comments, why don't I write something crazy - no need to part with the current one, do you know how comfortable you are for many others who will never propose to you. In short, what prevents you from fucking others, fall in love, fall out of love, ride your horse, donkey or whatever you have on hand, do not take into account the opinion of others, do not care that someone told you that you are a whore - the important thing is to make a living, to scratch your job and to be happy, but very happy.
"I'm afraid to leave him because I know I won't find someone else to love me the way he loves me, but I also don't want to lose my best years in this relationship and experience nothing of life." -You can learn a lesson from the wise folk saying - "Butt rubs his head" !? If you are smart, you will understand the saying, if you are stupid, you will rub your head! Proverbs are the thoughts of wise people!
Number 1 - you're as smart as two dumb pimps. Number 2 is your competitor, but it can't be smeared on your little finger. Great opinion from number 6 and even more great irony from number 7. There are less and less decent people in our dear homeland.
Changing partners will only provide you with a path to suffering that you do not imagine, but who am I to influence you so "old-fashioned" and patriarchal. And for someone to make a living is just a unique wisdom, remembering that I would have written it some time ago ...
It reminds me a lot of my first relationship. Again, as your friend the author, I was naive, and we were both virgins before. At the age of 2, she told me that she wanted us to break up because she wanted to try with others. She is now 31 and has no serious boyfriend, and her psyche is not at all right. In my opinion, even if you break up, look for another friend for a stable and serious relationship, and do not become a cheap prostitute.
Where is this world going? Author, listen to number 1 - change them, give more and more scratch this scabies from below, where it is chasing you. No wonder tomorrow, not knowing who you are expecting a child from, no wonder, getting into a brothel, nothing that you will be a cheap girl with whom everyone will have slept. But, what's wrong? Come on, no one will take you to their house tomorrow, but what's the problem? You will have a lifetime to try - this is the purpose of your life. They will ... and they will leave, they will not call again, but where is the bad - you will try. Well, I hope you come to your senses, and number 1 definitely lacks one, I will ask him to keep his idiocy, for himself if possible;)
"Best years" means they are meant for many men?
Yes, the opinions of 1 and 2 are quite stupid, the surprising thing is that there are quite correct opinions that refute them. Before, as far as I remember, it wasn't like that, such topics were full of stupid women's advice on how to live your life, change men, and have fun before you settled down and made a living. Apparently they have already realized that with such a lifestyle and with similar advice aimed at turning young and disoriented girls into light women, then "sitting down" becomes very, very difficult.