Hello, dear readers. I can't say that I have a problem, I'm worried about the fact that I don't enjoy sex. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, I do not deny that there were good intimate moments. But most are utter sorrow. Am I wrong, tell me that at times I longed for the caress of another, I wondered if he would be better than my friend. Am I wrong that I want to see what really passionate sex is. Yes, I love him, but sex is also important. Is it my fault or he, why doesn't it work. Tell me, should I look for what I need elsewhere or should I leave things like that?
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Honey, I'll recommend something that helps me a lot - first to start licking you, to start stroking your breasts, to slide your hand lower and lower until I reach your vagina, then to climb on you and if you are both already tempted to start doing it, you will like it. and before that you can even start undressing slowly in front of him, it can tempt him, if he is one, a person who is tempted by such things. maybe if you even want to take a picture and then watch it together and while watching it to kiss and start doing it again! that's what I do! Victoria, 18 years old
It sounds like a cliché, but it's a fact - all problems in a relationship are solved in the bedroom. Talk to your friend. Maybe you didn't hit YOUR pose. Maybe you need extra stimulation. Maybe it's easier for you to cum with oral caresses. Experiment! For example, I can reach the end in only two positions (not counting the oral). The truth is that we haven't delved much into the experiments, but we've only been together for a few months. Otherwise we have sex anyway. Well sometimes it doesn't "light up" me, but my friend doesn't leave me unfinished :) Besides, when he stimulates my nipples I explode. Literally. When he makes oral love to me, sometimes a light stimulation of the anus works wonders. It all depends on the mood. There is something else - I have noticed that the more I try to finish, the more the cherished moment slips away from me. That's why you have to be calm, relaxed and devoted to sex, without passing through your head thousands of thoughts per minute. The most important thing, however, is to talk and try. Tell him that it is difficult for you to get to the end and that you would like to try some techniques, stimulations, something to help you. Be careful though - he won't like it if it sounds like "honey, you're not in bed at all". F27
And before you look elsewhere (sooner or later it will happen when you have no pleasure) why don't you try to h .... h you? !! You can even tie his arms and legs in such a way that he cannot touch you. you can also blindfold him, so you will. he will not see, but he will feel more strongly. Don't worry, I know it's not about his displeasure, it's yours! And you will be able to experiment experimentally, to show / say what you like, how. Next time, change places, set him a task, half an hour you can do everything without ... being inside. To fantasize, to "play", experiment and he, with words or sighs, tell him / suggest what you like. The bigger problem is if it ends quickly. I dump him like that without thinking (well, it depends on the year, still, but if I'm not the first one and he hasn't learned ... I'm running away :)))
What exactly is the problem, lack of sex, small member, few poses? Share more!
You're not wrong, at least for what you ask. It's most normal when you're not happy to think about how it would be with others. If these are just the opportunities you've seen so far, ask him outright if you can't experiment anymore. Some men are like trees in bed, but that may be because they don't know what you like. If this thing doesn't work out soon, don't bother. Leave it ... there are so many men who will give you the sex you want.
Indulge in passion and don't think about anything else, you will see that it will work, and if you want to have sex with someone else, share it with your friend ..., then write what happened.
He is obviously not good enough or there is simply no passion between you. What will help you is to drop it and find another one. But if you don't want to take risks and still have feelings for him - get used to the idea that you will not be sexually satisfied until you break up. I can't love someone who doesn't satisfy me completely .... sorry but this is torture :(
Try to find the problem in yourself, but do not leave the boy in any case ... if you have children, your family should not think that non-stop you will be satisfied with so much care and obligations, take it more seriously
Number 9 is absolutely right !!! But if you are so hesitant, it is better to really leave him ... It is unlikely that such thoughts will settle in your mind if you are madly in love with this person. Think about it ... And sexual gratification is definitely not the most basic thing you can get from a relationship. ;) Unfortunately, there are such insensitive creatures as the women from the previous posts, but there are "passengers for every train" .... So I personally think to catch another train. :)))
Honey, don't worry. It was like that with my previous friend, there was no passion, nothing. He tried anyway, but I never made it to the end. With the one I am at the moment, he knows what I like and I reach the end calmly, but only orally. Somehow I've never been vaginal before. I thought to try vibrators, masturbators - there is a great abundance in sex shops. I recommend you dig around the internet and order a vibrator if you are ashamed to go to a sex shop. Try it for yourself and get to know your body. Dude, maybe he's not good at sex. There is no such thing, he is not good, he is a tree, he is not - the whole world is having sex, just by being skeptical about this "problem", his caresses will be annoying, you will be tense, and these are bad factors. Try masturbation, I don't know how old you are and have you tried, but try, find your clit if you don't know where it is and the next time you have sex, tell him you want to lick you, show him your clit and he should know what to do with it. Take your time. At least 15-20 minutes. When you start to feel good, tighten your abdomen and vaginal muscles to finish faster. P. P You don't need a man to satisfy you, a woman can do it alone. All you need is one finger.
There are couples who just don't get it. They love each other, they like each other, but there is no chemistry and there is no full-fledged, passionate, strong sex. Be sure, darling, that as it is with you, it is with you what you think and he thinks it. Try another to have a basis for comparison and then think. Youth is short. Act, no one needs to understand. Good luck. F43
You are both guilty. Talk to each other, share who likes what, about your feelings, about your fantasies ... There is nothing shameful. However, it also depends on how old you are and what sexual experience you have. But to tell you the truth, I had an extremely passionate relationship right at the beginning of my sex life. I also had desperate situations many years after that. So it's all chemistry ... but not only that. Guide your friend, teach him. Show him what you like if you need a longer love game.
In women, up to about 30 years, and in some cases a little more, due to high levels of estrogen in the body, the walls of the vagina are thicker. This makes them less sensitive and that is why many young women reach orgasm more easily through clitoral massage than through vaginal penetration. After this age, estrogen levels decrease and the walls become more sensitive and the pleasure of penetration is complete. That is why it is said that a woman's sexual life begins at this age. Until then, when penetrating, massage the clitoris with your finger and before that, he should spend a little more time and prepare you well with his tongue and fingers. If you are interested, I can describe to you how it can lead you to scurrying, where you will climb the wall for fun. Success!
Number 15, not called "estrogen", the word is estrogen. Not yet reduced estrogen makes a woman sexier or more enjoyable, but quite the opposite. If for one reason or another hormone levels are lower, it immediately reflects in a negative sense on the desire for sex and pleasure from it. Most of the women after a certain age do become more sexual, but the reasons for this are different. A woman is already gaining experience over the years, she knows her body well, she knows what and how she likes it. It is also basic that over the years he no longer worries and many inhibitions fall. It is normal for an experienced woman, already acquainted with pleasure and her body, with fallen worries to look for and want more sex. Also, an elderly woman knows that she does not have many years left to enjoy sex, this is no small incentive for many. Over the years, estrogen decreases, as does testosterone in men. The desire for sex inevitably decreases with age in both sexes. If a mature and more experienced woman, who already knows her body and no longer has prejudices, could rejuvenate by the age of 20, she will certainly experience much greater pleasure during sexual intercourse. K-Man
Until №16 - Wank-Man I wrote "estrogen" because I didn't know how to pronounce it in Bulgarian. Despite everything, I see that you understood me very well what I meant. The information I have given is very correct, unlike yours. At least that's how they study at English medical universities, but in the end, what do they know? Of course, they could in no way be compared to Bulgaria, which is a world-renowned leader in the world of medicine.
and it's not called "squirting," but SQUIRT, but squirting is even less, and even more, achieved by women, and to achieve it, after her boyfriend can't overcome her in any other way, I don't believe at all. he managed to get her to squirt. You need a "master" for your skin