Hello. I am a woman, 22 years old. I have a small problem, or rather not a problem, but an unclear solution, which I hope you will help me with, because I cannot solve it alone. I like a boy who is 6 years younger than me. We met him at a home party, which was attended by about 35 people and was generally crowded and everyone called a friend from somewhere and great fun, jokes, dancing and drinking (you know how it is). We met at the door when I arrived, we didn't know each other then, and when he entered he opened the door for me and smiled. When we entered, he came to ask me immediately if I wanted something to drink and to meet by the way. He began to smile terribly charmingly at me again. At first I honestly thought he was at least 19 or 20 because he was about 1, 90 tall and relatively large. I even asked him which university he was at and if we had met at a disco in a student town, and he laughed a little again and said he was only 10th grade, still 16 years old. So we continued in the evening, drinking, jokes, dancing, some photos, which we then uploaded to social networks, and then in the evening he sent me home and asked for my phone number so that "sometimes" we could go out for a coffee. . Of course, I couldn't refuse him and I gave it to him. Subsequently, we started going out more and more often, he introduced me to my friends, and I introduced him to my girlfriends, everyone tells us that we go a lot and they always ask me why we are still "just friends".
What do you think could be the reason? The years naturally. So ... we continued to go out regularly, for coffee, walks, we even hugged and kissed a few times, he invited me to them one night, he said his parents were on a night shift, and I didn't go. Some time ago he invited me to watch his training (he trains football), of course I went. Then his matches. He wants me to be with him everywhere. It seems to him that he has sunk to my ears. He offered to be with us a few days ago, but I still haven't answered. I told him it wasn't because he was the cause (and it really wasn't), I just wanted to make things clear. He is only 16 years old, still a student, and I am now in my second year at university. He asked me if age was an obstacle, and I was wondering how to avoid his question, but he finally guessed and said that he really wanted to have something very serious with me and that was not an obstacle for him.
He was in love with me. However, he said that by the time he graduated in two years, I will already be 24. He said that even then I might have thought of a family and he was afraid of abandoning it because of some 25-30-year-old stable man in order to start a family. He says he is very much in love with me and would like us to be together for a long time. I feel it too, he's really in love with me, but I'm still wondering - should I be with him?
Will I do not get tired of being younger in time, or will he get tired of being older and want someone his age? Because when he's in his second or third year at university, I'll be a graduate ... I'm really faced with a serious dilemma. I still haven't told him if I want to go, if you can give me some other advice on age and if it will work out between us ... thanks in advance. that maybe even then I was thinking about a family and he was afraid of abandoning it because of some 25-30 year old stable man to start a family. He says he is very much in love with me and would like us to be together for a long time. I feel it too, he's really in love with me, but I'm still wondering - should I be with him? Will I not get tired of being younger in time, or will he get tired of being older and want someone his age? Because when he's in his second or third year at university, I'll be a graduate ... I'm really faced with a serious dilemma. I still haven't told him if I want to go, if you can give me some other advice on age and if it will work out between us ... thanks in advance. that maybe even then I was thinking about a family and he was afraid of abandoning it because of some 25-30-year-old stable man to start a family. He says he is very much in love with me and would like us to be together for a long time. I feel it too, he's really in love with me, but I'm still wondering - should I be with him?
Will I do not get tired of being younger in time, or will he get tired of being older and want someone his age? Because when he's in his second or third year at university, I'll be a graduate ... I'm really faced with a serious dilemma. I still haven't told him if I want to go, if you can give me some other advice on age and if it will work out between us ... thanks in advance. that he is very much in love with me and would like us to be together for a long time. I feel it too, he's really in love with me, but I'm still wondering - should I be with him?
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Why go so much? It's like distance is an obstacle to love, isn't it? If he is so in love with you, do not ruin his "dreams" if I may say so, because at this age his psyche is not yet fully developed and all sorts of nonsense can do them. And you will see, as you said, that he will get bored and find his set. Good luck going forward and I hope I didn't mislead you with something or make a mistake with your choice. PP: And yet what the fuck? !! 6 years difference ...
If you want to catch a "rabbit" in every way - go with full force, but then you will bite, because nothing can give you anything but anger and five minutes in bed. Look, if you were 32-33 and he was 26-27, that's different. But for a young woman of 22 to date a 16-year-old, it's rather strange not to use other definitions. You have yet to build a career, a family, and for him - to experience puberty. Makes a difference. Every pongashor wants a poop, but that's just to scratch their scabies, to brag to their friends, to look big. When I was 20, I had a girlfriend who was 28. She literally stabbed me. I was a student, penniless, a haiman, just partying and having sex in my head. She was a teacher, a settled woman, and a party girl. But he wanted serious things from me, for which I was not ready at all, but nothing. After a 3-4 month relationship, I got tired of her, even though she took care of me, constantly took care of me, did everything in bed, etc. I'm tired. I wanted to be with my friends, my company, my peers. I was forced to make a play for her, unfortunately in front of many people, that I allegedly caught a friend a little younger than me, etc. She became very ill, very sick. Like me, of course, but I had no choice. Just this age difference, her attitude (almost maternal) towards me, it all suffocated me terribly. We parted, each going his own way. We remained friends, although we saw each other very, very rarely, because I went abroad and she moved to another city. In general, this is waiting for you. I hope I'm wrong, but all the boys (because I was like that then) are the same.
Number 1, yes distance is a pretty big hurdle for a love, just like the big age difference. ;)
4, who wants to do, build something finds a way. Who does not want - finds an excuse ...
My opinion is that there are no limits to feelings, but yes - age still matters - in terms of experience only ...
6 years is not so much. I have an acquaintance who goes out with a woman who is 2 times older, and her child is 5-6 years younger than him! I wouldn't do it, but everyone has a taste. 6 years is not a big difference.
Um, I'm a 17-year-old boy. I have an older brother (12 years difference). He met the woman with whom they now have a child and have been happily married for 6 years, when he was 16 too. They are 8 years apart, then she was 24. That didn't stop them and they are still together and they love each other. Age cannot be an obstacle if you really love each other. However, this remains your choice, I hope you make the right decision. Success! ^^