My problem at first glance will not seem anything serious and who knows what, but for me it is important. I'm 22 years old, girl. The problem is that I can't relax and have fun with people and especially dance. That's why I don't go to discos and I avoid parties and birthdays. And I love music and especially dancing. When I'm alone I dance constantly and I like how I do it, but in front of people - I end up - I stiffen and I'm like a tree that sways in the wind - I'm very crazy. Something is getting tired of my collar, because I lead a retirement life and one day I will be very sorry for the lost time. Now I have to live and have fun. Now is the time. I'm angry with myself. I often dream of going to a disco with the company and I have a lot of fun without caring about how I look from the side. Because that's all I think about all the time. Just don't offer me alcohol because I'm against it. I mean, I want to be sober and do it. Like a time when I was 12 years old. and I didn't care. Now I'm thinking about how to overcome it and I'm shouting - I'm going to become a dancer - that's the way. However, it's a bit like a fur coat, because I've heard that today's dancers don't just work as dancers, if you understand me. Otherwise, I would really like it as a profession, because I can dance 24 hours a day, and I will probably overcome the shame. I don't know what the way is. Please give advice. I want a disco. I want to dance to the point of fainting. because I've heard that today's dancers don't just work as dancers, if you understand me. Otherwise, I would really like it as a profession, because I can dance 24 hours a day, and I will probably overcome the shame. I don't know what the way is. Please give advice. I want a disco. I want to dance to the point of fainting. because I've heard that today's dancers don't just work as dancers, if you understand me. Otherwise, I would really like it as a profession, because I can dance 24 hours a day, and I will probably overcome the shame. I don't know what the way is. Please give advice. I want a disco. I want to dance to the point of fainting.
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It is overcome in practice. Dance a few times without napping and you'll be fine.
the advice may not be very good, but hit a vodka and the muse will come to you: DDD
I'm sorry, but you obviously didn't get me right. It's not that easy. I haven't danced in front of people for 10 years. Only when I'm home alone. When I try to do something in front of people, it turns out to be a "shaking tree", if not worse. I stiffen and can't move. It's as if my body is paralyzed. I tried not one, but more drinks and the effect is a super ugly sight of a drunk woman walking to vomit in the toilet and falling asleep in the booth. It's much more complicated, but I can't explain it, and hardly anyone will understand me ...
why don't you sign up for some kind of dance - in the group you will relax, and they won't know you there either. if it doesn't work out, you can always give up.
Well, go to dance lessons. This way you will not only be among other "swaying trees" with the same fears as yours, but at the end of the course you will overcome the shame and learn to dance properly, which will overcome all your doubts. However, when it comes to spinning corners at cheap discos and chalgar birthdays, it is normal to be ashamed. This is not fun, but exposure.
Hello, I am the author. 3 years later I have the same problem again, I wrote in Google and came across my own topic. I just want to say that I still have the same problem. During this time I went to a disco several times, only once I was afraid to dance and PEOPLE, THIS WAS THE BIGGEST EXHIBITION IN MY LIFE. I CAN NOT BELIEVE! I did some nonsense with my body, I tried so hard to move normally, but my body was doing completely different things. And my face was just like I was in great need of constipation. I was with two boys and two girls and one girl pulled me aside, shouting "What are you doing?", Shouting "I'm not feeling well, I'm sick." There's just no such shame, they didn't believe me, of course. I promised myself never to dance in front of people again, but never. I'm not going to a disco anymore.
How about you stop caring? How does your girlfriend dance if she dances? Watch her and dance like her. Otherwise, I didn't understand why you sign up for dancing - I started as a full tree of swing dancing, a year later I'm much more relaxed, and the parties are very cool.
https: // www. google. bg / # q = how to dance at a party & tbm = vid The Internet has everything. Exercise 1 week at home, two. Tell a close friend (your aunt, your grandmother, your sister, your cousin are also getting up) and call her home. Play music, share the problem, ask them to give you an opinion. I have the same problem, but at one point I started to relax and it got better. I often dance in front of the mirror at home. You can't do it at home, and when you go out to a disco to expose yourself - it means that you are super worried and you can't even have fun like people. Self-esteem is a big deal. And last but not least, find some normal friends who will not look at you crookedly when you try to dance, but will understand you and will try to help you relax. Of those who will laugh with you, and not ON you or they will blame you for exposing them. A little self-irony, baby. As a last resort, why not - try some dancing. Share a problem with a pecan trainer, let him understand you and help. Private lessons 5-6 times, then join a group. There are many things - sports dances (Latin or quo are there), samba, raga jam, hip-hop ... Dare and success! ;)
I understand he was ashamed of dancing because it's a stupid thing, and you're ashamed because you couldn't relax. You expose yourself. What is the point of dancing other than the slipper and the amoeba on the dance floor to make hints with them. Apart from this function, I do not find anything meaningful in these movements, nor do I find them amusing. Can you explain to me what exactly makes you feel comfortable dancing?
I can. If that's all you find in dancing, you may not have seen enough different types of dance. Or have you never danced. Yes, dancing has served these hints since ancient times, but it also serves to express feelings and tell stories. Well, nobody said you had to like it at all costs - they might not be your thing. Personally, I like dancing because, in addition to being beautiful and spectacular, they are a pleasant way to expend energy, to charge with it, to move the whole body, to contribute to health and good mood. I would advise you to try them yourself, but in the end it's up to you ...
Don't worry! You are normal. Oh, if there was a girl in my town who doesn't drink or dance. I could never understand this primitive way of expressing the emotion of "dancing"! I can't understand why everyone associates fun with alcoholism and dancing. For me, this is the most primitive way to have fun! There are many other more pleasant and adequate ways.
Author, I have lived by the sea all my life and I was afraid of water! Everyone in my family swam, and I didn't. I'm 29 and only last year I took matters into my own hands and tried. I swallowed a lot of water. But I can say that I have made great progress. And in the winter I also went to the pool so as not to lose my courage. So it's up to you. You are the power! Believe me! And don't think about who will think what ... good luck!