I am 20 years old, my friend and I have been together for 7 years ... But I have been writing to his friend for a year now, and from base to base it has happened that we both want to see each other. He because he wants us to be together and have sex, and I because I want to see how I feel if I go out. We talk on the phone and write to each other, but when it comes to seeing each other, I always run away from the question. I want to leave my boyfriend because we have many differences and for so long I have realized that we have no future together. But I can't ... I know he loves me and I can't do it to him, but I punish myself by staying with him out of affection ... And I feel terrible about what I'm doing behind his back with his friend. I don't know what to do, I want to go out with his friend, but I'm sure someone will see us, and I don't want that to be the reason for us to break up ... and then to go out to the bottom ...
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You're obviously as easily in love as I am. When another boy wants any contact with me, I cut him! Because I don't want to hurt my friend. Lately, however, I've been saying to myself that this is scary, and if I cut everyone, then I can't handle myself, so I started dating others, but only as acquaintances. So my thought is: I know that if you go out with his friend you will experience the butterflies in your stomach as it was in the beginning with yours. This is because you are dating someone you don't know. If you get to know him over time, things will change. However, when you think about leaving your friend, you obviously have nothing to do with him and you want a new beginning. If you think it's worth hurting the man who loves you out of curiosity, do it. But then if things get bad with his boyfriend, you'll realize you had someone really by your side, and you dumped him for your stupidity! Think well worth it? !! Tell a friend, she can advise you wisely.
Do what your heart tells you. Your friend may love you, but you are the most important. You have to do what you want and what will make you happy! And I have a girlfriend with whom I constantly quarrel and I'm already tired. If I come across a girl for my style, I will not hesitate to be with her. You always have to look at yourself because you are the most important! When I look, you're not very happy, but you want to be, right? !! Then do what will make you happy. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years, but things ran out in the first few months. With one person, if you don't fit in, of course. I'm with her just so I don't sit alone, otherwise I'm telling you, if I come across a girl with my interests and she's nice and good and impresses me, I'm going straight with her. My girlfriend loves me a lot, but I don't. The good thing about you is that you have found another person and if you do not act he may get tired of waiting for you. Now, I'm not forcing you to attack him. Judge for yourself. This person where you write to him and is a cheerful person and makes you smile, it's not bad to see him. Once you see each other, you will judge for yourself what's next. If I feel butterflies in my stomach, the work is clear. :) Good luck, I hope you find joy and love.
It's not worth dating his boyfriend, he only wants you for sex. You will only lose your friend like that
Honey, when you're down, you can't come out clean! What can I tell you, since you know yourself?
Realize whether you still love him or are with him only out of one regret ... by answering the question, you will know for yourself how you should act. People separate if they are not for each other ... there will always be hurt, that's life after all. Doriana
Do not give me love by mercy - no, I know the terrible price of love! That your friend loves you and will suffer ... is not clear, it can only be in your head. If you think about sharing with him, break up with him now, for no other reason. Do it for yourself and not to hurt a man by being with him because of one regret and some doubts and fears about the injury. Aren't you hurting him now? And when you break up with him - break up with sex with his friend if you want, catch a new friend and stay alone - do what you want. But first solve your own problems, do not interfere with a third person!
I can only tell you one thing, you want something different you want when someone touches you to feel the thrill, because with your friend everything is already your habit. I am 23 years old and I have an 8 year relationship. I have NEVER cheated on my friend even though I wanted to! My advice is look at the boy next to you and be honest with him, there are many things you can diversify so you don't get bored !!!
I just didn't understand what future you have with your friend ... ??? You didn't get married, you already cheated on him. Imagine you have 5 years or more of marriage ... you will not stop to .... Take it leave yours ... that it does not deserve it. You're a big rag.
Thanks to everyone for the comments. I just want to say on number 9 that just writing and talking on the phone doesn't mean I'm cheating. I've been with him since I was 14 and he's my first and last, so don't tell me I'm a rag, it's something I'm sure you can't brag about