The story is classic. I was dating a girl, things didn't work out and we broke up. I wandered around, I suffered, I thought about her all the time, I finally recovered, I started training more, learning more and doing constructive things in general. It wasn't long before I began to recover. I decided to go out with another girl in order to forget the first one. And so it happened, but I fell in love and things got much deeper. We went out all summer and finally broke up in a super dumb way. I realized that I had been humiliating myself all the time for some nonsense. In the end, in the separation itself, I was also humiliated. I just saw that things would not work out and instead of paying attention to these signals, I, like another carp in love, passed them by and ... the result is clear. So ... I wanted to share because I have the feeling that I have a lump stuck. Instead of forgetting the first one, I now have the feeling that I am in a double trap. Of course, I'm not one of those blind fools who doesn't see their own guilt in the situation. Rather, I am one of those who see guilt primarily in themselves.
My problem is that I cling too much to the girls. I just desperately need someone by my side. I want to hug someone, take care of someone, and just know that someone, somewhere, loves me, in this whole world. The more time passes, this need becomes bigger and bigger and more and more repulses the girls around me. The problem, of course, is not only in me, but also in the girls, but in the end, I chose them, so it's basically in me again. So ... It's like there's a hell in me right now and I wanted to share it to make it easier for me. In a site where no one knows me. who does not see their own guilt in the situation?
Rather, I am one of those who see guilt primarily in themselves. My problem is that I cling too much to the girls. I just desperately need someone by my side. I want to hug someone, take care of someone, and just know that someone, somewhere, loves me, in this whole world. The more time passes, this need becomes bigger and bigger, and more and more repulses the girls around me. The problem, of course, is not only in me, but also in the girls, but in the end I chose them, so it's basically in me again.
So ... It's like there's a hell in me right now and I wanted to share it to make it easier for me. In a site where no one knows me. who do not see their own guilt in the situation? Rather, I am one of those who see guilt primarily in themselves. My problem is that I cling too much to the girls. I just desperately need someone by my side. I want to hug someone, take care of someone, and just know that someone, somewhere, loves me, in this whole world. The more time passes, this need becomes bigger and bigger and more and more repulses the girls around me. The problem, of course, is not only in me, but also in the girls, but in the end, I chose them, so it's basically in me again. So ... It's like there's a hell in me right now and I wanted to share it to make it easier for me. In a site where no one knows me.
I just desperately need someone by my side. I want to hug someone, take care of someone, and just know that someone, somewhere, loves me, in this whole world. The more time passes, this need becomes bigger and bigger and more and more repulses the girls around me. The problem, of course, is not only in me, but also in the girls, but in the end I chose them, so it's basically in me again. So ... It's like there's a hell in me right now and I wanted to share it to make it easier for me. In a site where no one knows me. I just desperately need someone by my side. I want to hug someone, take care of someone, and just know that someone, somewhere, loves me, in this whole world. The more time passes, this need becomes bigger and bigger and more and more repulses the girls around me. The problem, of course, is not only in me, but also in the girls, but in the end I chose them, so it's basically in me again. So ... It's like there's a hell in me right now and I wanted to share it to make it easier for me. In a site where no one knows me. so it's basically in me again. So ... It's like there's a hell in me right now and I wanted to share it to make it easier for me. In a site where no one knows me. so it's basically in me again. So ... It's like there's a hell in me right now and I wanted to share it to make it easier for me. In a site where no one knows me.
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Alcohol. You need that.
The problem is only in them, not in them. Such a pathological need for a person next to you is detrimental to any relationship. You have to be an autonomous individual who doesn't need anything else, but it's nice to share SOME moments with another person (until they live together). When you try not to need another man, then you will have hope for a healthy relationship with a woman. Brother.
You have an internal, mental problem, which manifests itself as the need to have a man next to you, and no matter how hard you try to solve it through external factors, your problem will remain, because no woman is obliged to cover your needs. Sticky, obsessive behavior is the most repulsive. You have to solve the problem from the inside, and for that you have to be honest with yourself and admit what you are compensating for. Human behavior is usually compensatory. Someone didn't love you as a child or you need to be taken care of by being the first to get the same in return. Only you know what it is. As number 2 told you, until you become self-sufficient, you will never receive the love you would like to have. It will all be a deal - "I hug you and take care of you, and you will be by my side and love me in return." I, as a woman, I would not want to be responsible for a man's happiness, because I will feel guilty if I cannot respond to his feelings and do not meet his expectations. If I feel that he sees in me a solution to his needs, I disappear in an instant, because soon there will be requirements and claims to me, and no one owes anyone anything. Man alone is responsible for feeling good. This is what you need to work on.
I don't understand now who you're in love with
One forgets over time. Now you suffer from two sections, not one. Obviously you have a problem with yourself that you do not want to be left alone, but there must always be someone next to you. Sometimes one has to be self-sufficient. There is nothing wrong with being alone for a few months.
How you fall in love so easily I do not know. And these dramas ... tighten up.
This brother truly understands everything, merudia on every pot! She 3 and she great psychologist came out. The man did not even write that he wanted advice, but simply to share his grief.
I don't think you have a problem at all. You just haven't found your girlfriend - that's it. Man wasn't created to be alone. He is a social being, in his nature is the need for another person. It is the same as the need for food, water and sleep. And people who deny it have a mental problem. It is true that we must be able to achieve on our own, but no matter how successful we are, if we are alone, the happiness of our success is half. If we are with someone, it will be double. You sound like a decent boy, and people like you are rare, unfortunately. On the other hand, this is an advantage for you and gives you the opportunity to stand out against all male carcasses. :) Someone will always see you and give you the love you deserve. Hopefully soon. Success! F, 22
You invest too much emotionally in relationships, which is not the same as modern culture. Just whichever one you catch, things won't change, because no modern woman has long-term thinking. Everything is the first signal where the wind blows, and finally if something happens - the man is always to blame and they come to save her. And the fact that she was a whirligig, that she was not responsible, that she did not really love this man ... There is a slogan popular in feminism - "women are perfect" ... He draws his own conclusions. I think with age you will understand that women are not what you expected, and it is not worth investing so much. The relationships you imagine are only in fairy tales ...
Would you share how old you are? :)
Week, you want to snort the huang, don't you? Brother.
Dude, gay no one - shut up forever.
Author, it is clear from your story that you will feel good when you find a relationship again. Look for the third one and don't care much! And I advise you not to listen to those who blame you. It's not your fault that you want a boyfriend, we all want that, no matter what gender we are, no matter what moralists we pretend to be. Besides, you clearly said that you understand when you didn't do the right thing. Learn from mistakes, and so .. go ahead;)
Brother is an expert in everything. He has nothing to do all day, and apart from sowing "wisdom" on the sites and catching flies on his ass, he knows nothing else. His father encourages him, because otherwise he gets nervous and when he gets angry, he starts breaking his vibrators and then they have to buy him new ones. He must have broken at least a hundred by now.
I completely understand you. I feel the same way .. I want to find the man for me and I invest a lot in men and I really want to get it, but not always the other is ready for regret :( It's just that people have become very insensitive and cowardly ...
# 17 - in such topics does not pass without the appearance of the female version of the author. For one, women were the reason he was alone, for the other, men were cowardly and insensitive. Only you, Gorkan people, are the top, but you remain unappreciated. Well, they with such thinking will see a decent man through crooked pasta.
№18 - I'll just tell you you're a big hater. This is a sharing site, if you don't like reading real things go to Facebook :)
And I have this problem. Because I was left alone, everyone started and my friends are mockers and curious people. And I clung to the man next to me and when he saw that I had no other life but the one with her, he was completely repulsed until we finally broke up because he fell in love with his girlfriend and now they live together. She said that I had many misconceptions about life and that repulsed her the most. I feel super dumb and I'm sad ..
Number 10, A few years older than you, 28. Thank you otherwise. And your opinion is different from the others. Not that I'm not guilty ... I am. I've been thinking about things every day for several months. One day I think I'm guilty, the next day she's guilty, and so every day. Honestly, I don't care who's to blame anymore. Things are as they are. From all the work, I increased my training and visits to the library, so there is something positive. On the other hand, I became a little gloomy and disillusioned, but honestly I know that this will pass.
To become self-sufficient? Well, since he is self-sufficient, he won't want to be with a woman, what is it for him ... to weigh him down? Now you give him advice on how to find a chick or how not to need a chick? I did not understand the logic. . Dude, they might just want to say you need a little more confidence. That is, more self-confidence than the one you have chosen. That's it. But self-confidence is built with life experience. There is time, you are still young.