I am a 25-year-old man, my girlfriend is 23 and we have been together since the second year at the university when we were in a common company. Our attraction was instantaneous, we liked many things, we have common views on almost everything and we never get bored. My first serious relationship is. Before that I was intimate with only one, nothing serious. The other only flirtations and children's dumps. I'm telling a few unnecessary detailed, but that's because people often say that you have to gain experience and not centralize your world in one woman. But I have gold next to me and I don't want another. She is wonderful in every way, she is definitely my soulmate. It's like a diamond in bran, as I would put it. In fact, we have been together for 5 years, sharing a shared accommodation for 4 years. However, she has decided to leave for Italy next year. Her brother lives there, works in a high position and there he received his higher education. He is married to an Italian woman. My friend has been there many times, not only on trips, but all summer she has stayed. She is in love with this country. Learn the language perfectly, know English perfectly with perfect accents even. She mentioned several times before that she imagined us living there one day, but she didn't say anything about moving, at least not seriously. This year she is taking a bachelor's degree and recently told me that she will be pursuing her master's degree in Italy and plans to live there. Offer me the same. Now I can't argue, she's not just leaving for financial purposes, but she's very ambitious and I'm sure she will succeed. Apart from the fact that there is a safe home there, hers encourage her as well, and they are much wealthier than my family, she can afford to study at the best university, and she is very intelligent in general. She doesn't like Bulgaria, she loves it as a homeland, but she is tired of everything here, the thinking of the people ... and I understand it to some extent. I have no right to separate her from her dreams. But I do not want to part, nor do I want to part with my homeland. I don't think I'm a pseudo-patriot. There are both very good paintings in the country and ugly ones. Very bad people, as well as very good ones (I dare say that I have met the lowest people here, but I have also met the most cordial and warm, which I have not met elsewhere). I have been abroad, not as a worker, but as a guest with invitations for high-paying and stable work. Both in Italy and in America. I had the opportunity to stay in the second. I just can't be far from my homeland. She needs a change that I will personally fight for. And I'm not looking through pink glasses, I just want to at least die, where I was born. Honestly, I'm not so connected to my hometown, but I'm in love with the Black Sea coast and a small remote resort right there - I've even set aside money for a place to live. I don't care about abroad. I was in Paris and it was really beautiful, but my heart didn't beat. Like when I'm in Rila, for example, in many other places in the country. Many people would be against you if you were an innovator, but if there is no difference, there is no change. I have a very liberal mindset, but I do not want to export, but to stay here and observe and help the growth of a new social psychology. We do not consider the financial dimension of the topic at all, I am talking about my wishes. I love my girlfriend infinitely much, but why do I have to sacrifice my whole dream life The same goes for her. Whoever makes the sacrifice will one day, though deep down, regret it. Isn't individual happiness above everything? And she won't be happy if she stays and fucks her whole plan, with an apology. But here is love. She's my wife, practically. I do NOT want another. How do I release it? How can she let me go? At the same time, no one wants to let go of their dreams. After all, we are two strong personalities - a typical Leo (me) and a typical Scorpio (her). I do not know how true this is, we have always been in harmony, but when it comes to the development of the individual and the development of love, which should be chosen? Everything is very ironic. My topic is not a provocation, but a consultation with people, please refrain from biting tongues. All the best! I do NOT want another. How do I release it? How can she let me go? At the same time, no one wants to let go of their dreams. After all, we are two strong personalities - a typical Leo (me) and a typical Scorpio (her). I do not know how true this is, we have always been in harmony, but when it comes to the development of the individual and the development of love, which should be chosen? Everything is very ironic. My topic is not a provocation, but a consultation with people, please refrain from biting tongues. All the best! I do NOT want another. How do I release it? How can she let me go? At the same time, no one wants to let go of their dreams. After all, we are two strong personalities - a typical Leo (me) and a typical Scorpio (she). I do not know how true this is, we have always been in harmony, but when it comes to the development of the individual and the development of love, which should be chosen? Everything is very ironic. My topic is not a provocation, but a consultation with people, please refrain from biting tongues. All the best! which one to choose? Everything is very ironic. My topic is not a provocation, but a consultation with people, please refrain from biting tongues. All the best! which one to choose? Everything is very ironic. My topic is not a provocation, but a consultation with people, please refrain from biting tongues. All the best!
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You can try both there. And abroad also gets tired, the important thing is to be well and whether it will be enough for you to be together, and the other does not matter.
You stay in Bulgaria, your girlfriend to follow her dream, you do not have to part. Meet, keep in touch, time will tell how your relationship will develop.
You will have to separate, at least until one of you wants to sacrifice yourself ... I am a lioness, I sacrificed my dreams for a scorpion, I hated him with time, he didn't even want / hinder my development where he wanted us to be from fear that I will succeed and take the path I should have taken before. I left it and went where I am now.
A complicated question, really. Whoever makes the sacrifice, then it is very possible to regret it. The other option is if you go to come to Bulgaria often. I do not know...
I understand the author, but perfectly. But I also chose my children and husband to live where I felt better and in greater harmony with the environment. The solution for me is to travel at least 1-2 times a year, still there are cheap flights. And to fall into a certain internal emigration. Because, unlike you, I am not optimistic about our country and I do not believe that the general change will happen from below, from the people. In the challenge of today's globalized world, only strong states survive, with patriotic politicians, a sustainable economy and a preserved national culture. All this cannot come from people, unfortunately.
If you sit in your dream house on the Black Sea coast ... only you are without it forever? What is the feeling? You have to look for a new woman :) to know that the decent ones are few :) I was also in this situation - I sacrificed myself, but now I try to project my dreams only in this country where we are both. I come every 3 months to bg. For now, I don't regret my choice ... in life you always win one and lose another ... lose what won't hurt you so much. However, if you go and try, you can always come back if you don't like it. This is an opportunity.
You are radically different characters. She is a very smart woman whose place is not in this country. There is money and there is a place to live abroad. You either go with her or you break up. If you love her no matter what happens, you shouldn't make her stay and ruin her life. So you can't go abroad and she has to listen to you and fuck her future by staying with you. I hope I never have a boyfriend like you.
Ha, and I'm a lion with a scorpion woman. In a relationship, one always loves less. If you are the one with the most love, dare for Italy, but first clarify your relationship that there are Italians, and if you see she has not seen anything in life. A new university means a new boyfriend 99%. It is inhabited by insects so the two do not see. I have squeezed mine by the throat, but still travels and adventures and is looking for the thrush. He cracks a paw and will calm down. As you love what to wait for, but do you have balls to watch and prospects? I did so, but I stand behind my actions and there is no grunt.
To number 9 - you will not have such a boyfriend, you do not have such a mind ... To the author - it is very sad, but follow both your dreams. The scorpion is ready to let you go, I don't think Italy is blooming and tying, it's one thing to be a tourist somewhere, it's another to live there, she will understand that ... to be alive and healthy. Don't give up on your goals here! You won't like it elsewhere, and it may come back, and it can be realized here, time will tell. If not- Fate will meet you with your girl, give, God Lioness like you! I wish you success!
It doesn't matter where you live in Europe, the important thing is to have money. The goods in the store - the same, the clothes in the malls - the same, the cars are the same, everything is the same in Bulgaria and in Italy. Where did you see the difference? If I have 10,000 euros and I want to buy a BMW, it doesn't matter if I buy it from Bulgaria, Italy or Germany - it's the same BMW. If I want to buy Adidas sneakers, it doesn't matter if it will be from Bulgaria, Italy or Germany - I go to the store and there are the same Adidas. If I want to buy a bottle of Jack Daniels, I go to the liquor store, whether it will be in Bulgaria or Italy - it doesn't matter, Jack Daniels is the same everywhere. Explain to me, what is different abroad? Even the people are the same, there are good and bad people everywhere, whether you are in Bulgaria or Italy, and in this case they even look alike,
Hello! After reading the whole text, I went back to the beginning, where you mention your age. I was amazed by your mature thinking! I am a woman of 23 and I live abroad. I can at least vaguely imagine how you feel. For her, this is the next step in her personal and professional development, and you would feel like a "rootless tree." Staying in Bulgaria, something reciprocal happens. For me, even just as a reader, it is relatively difficult to give advice. If I were you, I would stay here and let her go to Italy, because otherwise you risk blaming the other in the future for your failed plans and dreams. If her family supports her, it's even harder. However, not everyone finds their soulmate and the chicken does not land on every shoulder! Try a remote connection. There are low cost flights to Italy at relatively affordable prices. Don't give up on her easily and fight for this relationship! If your love is strong enough, you will somehow resist and find a solution. One develops and changes one's mind, even more so in one's 20s. He sees how people live in different places, thinks, compares, compares ... This year I was an intern in a company, where the colleague was waiting for her fiancé to return from the USA after 4 years of PhD and together to prepare for their wedding. I blinked at the rags, telling me: D I know, it sounds like a movie: D I also know a Croat whose wife is about to finish her doctorate in Austria. Rare cases, yes, but there are some. I sincerely wish you both to find a way to be together and be happy! even more so in the 20s. He sees how people live in different places, thinks, compares, compares ... This year I was an intern in a company, where the colleague was waiting for her fiancé to return from the USA after 4 years of PhD and together to prepare for their wedding. I blinked at the rags, telling me: D I know, it sounds like a movie: D I also know a Croat whose wife is about to finish her doctorate in Austria. Rare cases, yes, but there are some. I sincerely wish you both to find a way to be together and be happy! even more so in the 20s. He sees how people live in different places, thinks, compares, compares ... This year I was an intern in a company, where the colleague was waiting for her fiancé to return from the USA after 4 years of PhD and together to prepare for their wedding. I blinked at the rags, telling me: D I know, it sounds like a movie: D I also know a Croat whose wife is about to finish her doctorate in Austria. Rare cases, yes, but there are some. I sincerely wish you both to find a way to be together and be happy! whose wife was soon completing her doctorate in Austria. Rare cases, yes, but there are some. I sincerely wish you both to find a way to be together and be happy! whose wife was soon completing her doctorate in Austria. Rare cases, yes, but there are some. I sincerely wish you both to find a way to be together and be happy!
Author, if you want to be together, you will find a way. I would advise you to go to Italy at least for a while and see how you will feel there, and she. As some of the above comments say, there are several options. One is for her not to like it there and to go back together. The other is for you to like it too, no matter how hard it is for you to imagine it now, because you haven't really lived there to know and still be together, but there. Ah, the third option is for her to decide that she wants to be in Italy, and you in Bulgaria to separate. Sounds nasty, but better that way than one blaming the other. I have seen many such families. One of the two, whether the man or the woman, says, look what, I don't like it here, let's go back home. And then either the other compromises or they split up. Number 13, you think a little superficially. It is true that finances are important, but you are not quite right about the quality of the goods, nor that everything else was the same. If you follow the news, you will remember that there was a recent scandal that food products in Western Europe in the big chains like Lidl and Kaufland turned out to be of better quality than those in Europe. Even Coca-Cola produces a different car for each country and in one country it is sweeter, in another not so much. This is just an example. About the fact that everything else is the same, let's not talk now. One of the reasons I immigrate is money, it's true, but there are many other factors. In Bulgaria, the sidewalks are full of cars that have stopped illegally, the streets are full of potholes, with peeling buildings, etc. In most countries of Western Europe, this is not the case. After 22 for noise, forget it, the police come and the fines are solid, the garbage is recycled and so on. In Vienna, Mozart sounds in public toilets, no kidding! And in Bulgaria there is a hook from the wiper transistor. Not to mention the arranged parks, public transport, public services, quality and really free health care, etc. And what about the children's schools and kindergartens, what do you say, are they the same? !! The children are rude, the teachers are sullen and depressed, the equipment with desks and blackboards from the 80s, not to mention the teaching methods. In Western Europe, go to a school and see what happens. In a neighborhood ordinary school in Madrid they have not just English, but whole subjects that are taught in English from the first grade, in each classroom a huge tactile screen on which they learn and how to play chess, each child with a laptop donated from the municipality, hot breakfast and lunch ... It was only when I entered this school and it became clear to me that we were light years back! And yes, I want my child to study in such a school next year! But, by your logic, there is no difference, the same people with black hair and dark eyes in Spain and Bulgaria. Now it remains to say that in Sofia and in Milan or Rome there is the same architecture and museums. Why then did the staff of the European Medicines Agency choose to move from London to Amsterdam and not to Sofia? !! Did you see the difference in the candidacies of the two cities? !! In Sofia 2-3 metro lines cross, not to mention buses and trams with electronic boards with schedules, etc., dusty gray streets, old unmaintained infrastructure, insufficient kindergartens and schools with equipment at European level, no programs for integration of children from other countries, who do not know Bulgarian in the first year of school, etc., etc. Do not you think that people graze grass and do not see these differences? !! If it was only the difference in money, many Bulgarians would return to Bulgaria, but it seems not so. Why do even our opera singers prefer to be in Italy and Austria and not in Bulgaria? !! Can they from Bulgaria travel to operas around the world and make good money? !! Why does Grigor Dimitrov live with his whole family in Paris and not in Sofia or Haskovo? !! Can he travel from Bulgaria to all tennis tournaments in the world and make the same good money in dollars and pay low taxes in Bulgaria? !! But they don't. Everyone just smiles and says - we love Bulgaria very much, we are proud to be Bulgarians, but at the same time they do not change their permanent residence from Vienna, Milan or Paris to Sofia. Don't you think that people graze grass and don't see these differences? !! If it was only the difference in money, many Bulgarians would return to Bulgaria, but it seems not so. Why do even our opera singers prefer to be in Italy and Austria and not in Bulgaria? !! Can they from Bulgaria travel to operas around the world and make good money? !! Why does Grigor Dimitrov live with his whole family in Paris and not in Sofia or Haskovo? !! Can he travel from Bulgaria to all tennis tournaments in the world and make the same good money in dollars and pay low taxes in Bulgaria? !! But they don't. Everyone just smiles and says - we love Bulgaria very much, we are proud to be Bulgarians, but at the same time they do not change their permanent residence from Vienna, Milan or Paris to Sofia. Don't you think that people graze grass and don't see these differences? !! If it was only the difference in money, many Bulgarians would return to Bulgaria, but it seems not so. Why do even our opera singers prefer to be in Italy and Austria and not in Bulgaria? !! Can they from Bulgaria travel to operas around the world and make good money? !! Why does Grigor Dimitrov live with his whole family in Paris and not in Sofia or Haskovo? !! Can he travel from Bulgaria to all tennis tournaments in the world and make the same good money in dollars and pay low taxes in Bulgaria? !! But they don't. Everyone just smiles and says - we love Bulgaria very much, we are proud to be Bulgarians, but at the same time they do not change their permanent residence from Vienna, Milan or Paris to Sofia. many Bulgarians would return to Bulgaria, but this is not the case. Why do even our opera singers prefer to be in Italy and Austria and not in Bulgaria? !! Can they from Bulgaria travel to operas around the world and make good money? !! Why does Grigor Dimitrov live with his whole family in Paris and not in Sofia or Haskovo? !! Can he travel from Bulgaria to all tennis tournaments in the world and make the same good money in dollars and pay low taxes in Bulgaria? !! But they don't. Everyone just smiles and says - we love Bulgaria very much, we are proud to be Bulgarians, but at the same time they do not change their permanent residence from Vienna, Milan or Paris to Sofia. many Bulgarians would return to Bulgaria, but this is not the case. Why do even our opera singers prefer to be in Italy and Austria and not in Bulgaria? !! Can they from Bulgaria travel to operas around the world and make good money? !! Why does Grigor Dimitrov live with his whole family in Paris and not in Sofia or Haskovo? !! Can he travel from Bulgaria to all tennis tournaments in the world and make the same good money in dollars and pay low taxes in Bulgaria? !! But they don't. Everyone just smiles and says - we love Bulgaria very much, we are proud to be Bulgarians, but at the same time they do not change their permanent residence from Vienna, Milan or Paris to Sofia. Can they from Bulgaria travel to operas around the world and make good money? !! Why does Grigor Dimitrov live with his whole family in Paris and not in Sofia or Haskovo? !! Can he travel from Bulgaria to all tennis tournaments in the world and make the same good money in dollars and pay low taxes in Bulgaria? !! But they don't. Everyone just smiles and says - we love Bulgaria very much, we are proud to be Bulgarians, but at the same time they do not change their permanent residence from Vienna, Milan or Paris to Sofia. Can they from Bulgaria travel to operas around the world and make good money? !! Why does Grigor Dimitrov live with his whole family in Paris and not in Sofia or Haskovo? !! Can he travel from Bulgaria to all tennis tournaments in the world and make the same good money in dollars and pay low taxes in Bulgaria? !! But they don't. Everyone just smiles and says - we love Bulgaria very much, we are proud to be Bulgarians, but at the same time they do not change their permanent residence from Vienna, Milan or Paris to Sofia.
Number 13 is another inspired ignoramus .. About the author .. It seems to me, young boy, that the things you are talking about are hollow eggs. You hide behind them because you are afraid to act. In Western European countries, empty chatter of great throwers is not tolerated, and you know it well. In Bulgaria, yes, there you can fill the heads of relatives and friends with your spectacular plans for years. If you were as progressive as you are trying to suggest to us, you would leave, live in another world, with other people, gain experience ... You are only 25! There is something that binds me, there is a discrepancy. Be alive and healthy. And let the girl develop. And you ... Go crazy where you are. PP: And isn't it hard for you to break up with mom?
I think you've already lost your wife, and with your excessive love - you've spoiled her. And now there is hardly a fix. You, as a man, should be the leader in the relationship and have a vision for the future that you can stand up for and impose your will on - not imperative, but persistent and firm. Safe from ambitious snobs, like your girlfriend. When your children are born, Bulgaria will be a foreign country for them, it loses them as its citizens. Individualism and careerism will destroy us all. I allow a compromise - to follow her in Italy - a really wonderful country - but only for a while, and then to persuade her to return, you are a man after all, you have to impose yourself, because if you let the woman be the leader in the connection, she'll just fuck her sooner or later, that's for sure. The woman is irrational and does not become a leader. She will simply stop respecting you as a man, and from there she will start looking for another. Your task is quite difficult.