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I Want To Visit The Home Of My Deceased Grandfather

By amy_ryan July 20, 2020 2 answers Last updated July 20, 2020

As the title suggests, I would like to visit the place that means so much to me, once again, but I don't know if that would be too unacceptable. Of course, the old house was sold many years ago and the idea of ​​intruding on the poor family living there today with crying stories about a dead relative sounds crazy, but still ... I have so many favorite memories of this neglected country house. Would it be too bad an idea to ask people to let me look around and remember a little about Grandpa after all?

(for those who are uninterested in the old memories of a crazy man and want to concentrate on my question can stop reading here)



Yesterday I sat awake for hours unable to sleep because I was suddenly flooded with childhood memories:


In one of them, I had lunch with my grandfather. He stood in front of me and behind him the famous house with its rough country charm. For lunch, there was bread, cheese, and tomatoes straight from the garden. I don't know why, maybe because of the fresh air and the pleasant, calm atmosphere, but it was the most delicious food I've ever tasted. If I could choose between the most expensive delicacy prepared by the French president's chef and my grandfather's bread, cheese, and tomatoes, I would choose the latter.


In another, I am in the yard of the house when I see a hedgehog for the first time in my life. At first glance, his small thorns do not look particularly threatening, so the clever self tries to lift him with his bare hands. Then, too, I understand why it is not a good idea to lift a hedgehog with bare hands. My grandfather was nearby to comfort me.


With these memories, I can probably write a novel called "Memories of an Inexperienced Kid," but I want to stop here. The purpose of this was to give an example of why I so desperately want to return. Maybe if I became a famous author I would be allowed to visit the house that inspired me?

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cumspain40 answered · July 20, 2020
Investigate which people live there. Is there a way to establish contact with them, to get closer, to make friends? On FB or on some occasion. Tell them directly about how you feel and what the house means to you. They may have changed it, it's not as you remember it. If you are lucky, they may agree to sell it for a better amount than the one they bought it for. Success! Your confession made me cry.
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jerkoff411 answered · July 20, 2020
Since this experience is so important to you, I see no problem asking them. If they refuse you, they refuse. If not - you don't have to bother them with yourself and tell them tearful stories ... They will probably let you go around accompanied by someone (because who can be sure if you don't have any hidden intentions or kleptomania ...) . In half an hour, I believe he will endure you. You can exchange a fairy tale, but don't be too insistent to tell everything that your memories and emotions evoke ... In my opinion, the less one looks back, the easier it is to move forward. But you know ... The other downside is that you will hardly find what you expect to find there ... People are what make the home, the house ... the rest is just decor, just a box. But the people are gone ... What would seeing the box bring you?