Last week, my father kicked me out of the house because I admitted I was gay. From a young age I hid it from my parents and I had decided that it would be better to tell them, but alas, this was my biggest mistake. I knew my father was against gays, but I thought he wouldn't get that far. My mother wasn't fascinated either, but she still said it wasn't such a big deal, she just said not to tell everyone. When I told him (I told them separately) he shouted at me and said that I was almost an adult / I was 17 / and it was time to get away from us. He collected my luggage, gave me 80 leva and called these were from your mother, not from me. I already have only 30 leva and I don't know what to do, I guess when I run out of money I will throw myself out of a building. I talk to my mother on the phone every day and she keeps telling me she wants to take me home, but my father won't let her. I haven't told my other relatives because I'm ashamed. I don't have any real friends to ask for help. Until now, I slept in a dilapidated house in a remote area, but it was quite cold there at night. It's weird how for a moment your life can go to hell, and yet my father called me today and said if I thought about what I was like to go home. My question is what to do? To go home and endure the horrible treatment and shame of ours and pretend to fuck women or die on the street? I also suffer from depression for about 6 months, if that matters. How would you do? It's weird how for a moment your life can go to hell, and yet my father called me today and said if I thought about what I was like to go home. My question is what to do? To go home and endure the horrible treatment and shame of ours and pretend to fuck women or die on the street? I also suffer from depression for about 6 months, if that matters. How would you do? It's weird how for a moment your life can go to hell, and yet my father called me today and said if I thought about what I was like to go home. My question is what to do? To go home and endure the horrible treatment and shame of ours and pretend to fuck women or die on the street? I also suffer from depression for about 6 months, if that matters. What would you do?
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At the age of 17, unfortunately, you can't work without the written permission of your parents, you can't rent a house, you can't even go to a hotel. In general, you have 2 options until coming of age A. You tell yours that you are confused / joking. You are looking for yourself and you are not aware of your own sexuality, because you are a virgin blah blah - lie to them something to have a roof over your head. You can also go to relatives, but if you have not gone, then there are problems here. B. Turn to "Child Protection. “Some kind of social services in the settlement where you are registered. They are obliged to place you in a sheltered housing and will fine you for evicting you under the age of 18. You can also use the last BGN 30 to find a way to get to the village of Novi Han with Grandpa Ivan and live there until you turn 18. d. Look for gay organizations, who help homosexual people. I don't know if there are any in our country, to be honest. After 18, it's easy - you can do whatever you want and where you want, rent a house, complete your education by correspondence and so on. Yours are absolute fools, including your mother. Don't take offense, but they are simple people. However, ordinary people can be manipulated and lied to as much as you want. They do not deserve truth and frankness. Lie to them to finish high school and then cut off all contact with them, including your mother. However, ordinary people can be manipulated and lied to as much as you want. They do not deserve truth and frankness. Lie to them to finish high school and then cut off all contact with them, including your mother. However, ordinary people can be manipulated and lied to as much as you want. They do not deserve truth and frankness. Lie to them to finish high school and then cut off all contact with them, including your mother.
Aman from such parents, some just shouldn't have children !!! Ignorant fools, your father is a fool! Don't you have other relatives, grandparents where to go? Another option is to simulate for a while in front of your ignorant father, to tell him that maybe you're just "confused" because of puberty ... I hate to tell you this, but it's for temporary salvation. In the meantime, to look for a job and for a salary to rent a room in a shared apartment with others for cheaper. There is no way to convince him that your sexuality is not a matter of choice, he is obviously one of those simple men who feel it and as a personal failure that they did not create a "macho alpha" and do not understand that you are still a man. it does not take away from your manhood. There is nothing to be ashamed of relatives, on the contrary, it is the male who has declared who you are and you bear the consequences at the moment because of your father's primitive thinking. But this moment will pass. So you have made the most important step in your life, you have openly and boldly stated something that, unfortunately, some primates in society do not accept. And they do not accept because it has been PROVEN that homophobes have well-hidden inclinations towards their own gender, but they are timid and will never have the same courage as you. That's why they attack so fiercely! 1- you talk to grandmothers or other close relatives for temporary accommodation 2- you temporarily simulate your father's delusion, sometimes it is necessary with the fools to behave like fools. Big and strong hug from me! I am a mother of two sons and at the moment they show heterosexuality, but if either of them turns out to be homosexual, I will surely love and support them in the same way! Do you know why? Because I do not express myself through them, I do not want them to prove how "great" I am, I just want them to be happy! Your father has serious mental problems, not you! You are ok! Calmly, in time you will remember this stage of your life and you will pat yourself on the shoulder with a smile and a thought of how well you can handle a situation in which many can not. And your father ... well, sooner or later he will accept you like that. She is ignorant, she is complex, but she loves you in her own way, she proves that she hopes to at least lie to him, that she can take you home to a safe place and that she can pretend to believe you! Good luck and don't think about nonsense, take care of you, you're a man! You are ok! Calmly, in time you will remember this stage of your life and you will pat yourself on the shoulder with a smile and a thought of how well you can handle a situation in which many can not. And your father ... well, sooner or later he will accept you like that. She is ignorant, she is complex, but she loves you in her own way, she proves that she hopes to at least lie to him, that she can take you home to a safe place and that she can pretend to believe you! Good luck and don't think about nonsense, take care of you, you're a man! You are ok! Calmly, in time you will remember this stage of your life and you will pat yourself on the shoulder with a smile and a thought of how well you can handle a situation in which many can not. And your father ... well, sooner or later he will accept you like that. She is ignorant, she is complex, but she loves you in her own way, she proves that she hopes to at least lie to him, that she can take you home to a safe place and that she can pretend to believe you! Good luck and don't think about nonsense, take care of you, you're a man! that he can take you home to a safe place and that he can pretend to believe you! Good luck and don't think about nonsense, take care of you, man! that he can take you home to a safe place and that he can pretend to believe you! Good luck and don't think about nonsense, take care of you, man!
I agree with the previous comments, just lie to him and you be yourself, he will not follow you with whom you go and with whom you sleep! Are these people strange to me who think that with terror they can change the orientation of someone in which century they live? It is terrible that such primates still exist, they are not normal! Alec
I can't understand why gays push to discuss sexuality with parents aged 15-16. Not necessarily! No parent will be happy to hear it, especially fathers. Couldn't you last that much until later in life, when you're independent and you can't be chased, for example. I am writing this for those who are about to announce it, not for you - you have already done it. In your case - I hope your mother will help you get home, and your father - to think
I'm sorry, buddy. I am a man of 39 and I have two sons and a woman who loves us. One of our sons, who is now 18, recently admitted to us with tears in his eyes that he was bisexual, and I did not glow with happiness, but I hugged him and congratulated him for having the courage to be honest with us. My thought is that even if he was pure gay, I wouldn't love him any less, let alone throw him out of the house, this (with an apology) only the most heartless freak would do.
At your age, I found myself in a similar situation. When I told my father, who was a sworn alcoholic, he slapped me a few times and kicked me out. He and my mother are divorced, but we don't hear from her. On the second day I got a call to go home and because I had no other choice I went home. We didn't talk and one night he went to a pub and when he came home he made me keep drinking with him. Then we talked a lot and laughed, finally he said to me "hey son, don't fuck me one night" and I had never laughed like that.
I am also driven from home, but when I was exactly 18 I gathered my things and there is no more smoke, I no longer live with our
You have nothing to be ashamed of - your parents should be ashamed! As No. 1 says, "they do not deserve truth and frankness." They deserve to be lied to until you finish school, find a job and save money - try to save money even if you lose your job. Secure yourself well. Then dump them. They deserve it.
Why do you share such things with them? These are very personal and intimate things. Tell them you're kidding and go home. Or go to relatives without telling them the reason. You don't have to blow it at all. This is your job.
I support №4 and I also want to ask a question. Why the hell do you think your parents or people know your sexuality at all? Why do you want society to know how and with whom you sleep at night? And I don't mean to hide, not to parade! I don't think a heterosexual teenage boy can share with his father who, when, how and where he fucked, even though you know your fathers are against different sexuality, you go and tell them you're gay. Why? In my opinion, if someone sits down to talk about his sexuality without being asked, whether he is hetero or homo, he parades.
You shouldn't have shared it with your father once you knew he was adamantly against it. All you have to do is pretend that you have decided not to be gay, and that's it. Your mother is a weak-willed woman, obviously when she lets your father impose his opinion on everything.
It's best to go home and act like everything is ok, but prepare well, study diligently and try to save some money and when you turn 18, you find a job and move out. I know it will be difficult for you until then, but really now you can do nothing but just prepare well so that you will not depend on anyone soon. Success!
No, don't say you were joking, because they won't believe you. If it were so, you would have said to yourself even then, you would not have left. Say that you have been deceived, that you are such that you have been deceived by "fashion", for example. Let it be credible.
I'm the above post (13) - I wanted to say "to look authentic".
It's best to tell your father that you better not go home, he kicked you out, but I'm still sorry you told him who you are, the important thing is that he accepts you as you are, that he kicked you out, nobody don't go back where they don't want you to go back.
You will not jump from any buildings! Evil is enough for him on the day, and life is so short ... I feel sorry for you, but I think your father is right. In my opinion, in this case you are the author of your problems. (By no means do I blame you, I only express an opinion) It's all about thinking. Change your way of thinking and he will change you too. Look into your future and think deeply that the paths to your success will be cleared when you are in your "place", when you are normal and fit. You are normal, I think these thoughts of being gay are momentary, caused by depression or not sharing. My advice is to be submissive and talk patiently with your parents about anything that bothers you. Conversations will help you get out of this mental depression and understand who you are. (Thanks for reading me.) 17г.
But you haven't come home yet? What your father did is absolutely illegal. He can renounce parental rights only in accordance with an established procedure, which he cannot have observed. Contact the police or child protection.
Number 17, I understand that it is illegal, but the boy is 17, that is, he will soon be 18. In my opinion, it is not worth returning home, if the author has already set foot, he can do it himself. At 17 years old he can start working again, depending on where he will be accepted, even if he is still a student. I feel sorry for him too, and if the teachers had understood, would they have felt sorry for him?
To 16 of 17. "I'm sorry for you, but I think your father is right." How can an offender be right? If a child runs away from home, it is an anti-social act, but if a father evicts his son, everything is fine. Is that how we should understand your comment? Because that's exactly what you're writing. Well yes! You are actually saying that he is right to be angry with him, not that he is right to break the law. That every parent has the right to raise their child, albeit strictly. Yes, I already completely and unconditionally agree with such an opinion. But you wrote something else! I'll give you some unsolicited advice, number 16. Another time you give your opinion, try to think before you write anything.
From the author I came home in 2 days and ours behaved terribly and just did not offend. I took some money and went to Lovech with a gay man we met online, I'm fine so far and will start work soon. Our people stopped looking for me, but I don't care.
Author, I'm sorry it happened and yours pushed you to depend on a stranger. I hope he is well-meaning, keep one thing in mind! I know you don't care, but you'll have to make sure you finish high school. You will probably lose this year, but see how things are going with you in Lovech, get the documents from the old school - diplomas and everything and look for a way to enroll in another similar school in Lovech. There is also a so-called "part-time student" program. You periodically go to something like school courses and take exams so you can work in parallel. Many girls who have given birth end up like this, but also many adults who have broken up for some reason. Pity! I am ashamed that there are such parents at all. The most inexplicable is your mother's behavior. How can you carry a 9 month old baby in you, give birth to it, to grow it from a piece of meat and throw it away for such nonsense. My husband has grown children from his first marriage and he doubted that his son could be gay because the boy is more feminine, he had no girlfriends and we talked about what he would do then. Well nothing. He felt sorry for his son's grandchildren, for not telling him his son until now, that he was gay, but he had no intention of changing his behavior toward his son. It turned out that the boy is not gay after all and we were happy, I will not hide him, but in an instant it did not occur to us if he is gay to throw him out and stop helping him financially and otherwise. You have very nasty parents and they don't deserve you. As a mother, I can't imagine expelling my son from being addicted to a stranger who might be using him. My husband has grown children from his first marriage and he doubted that his son could be gay because the boy is more feminine, he had no girlfriends and we talked about what he would do then. Well nothing. He felt sorry for his son's grandchildren, for not telling him his son until now, that he was gay, but he had no intention of changing his behavior toward his son. It turned out that the boy is not gay after all and we were happy, I will not hide him, but in an instant it did not occur to us if he is gay to throw him out and stop helping him financially and otherwise. You have very nasty parents and they don't deserve you. As a mother, I can't imagine expelling my son from being addicted to a stranger who might be using him. My husband has grown children from his first marriage and he doubted that his son could be gay because the boy is more feminine, he had no girlfriends and we talked about what he would do then. Well nothing. He felt sorry for his son's grandchildren, for not telling him his son until now, that he was gay, but he had no intention of changing his behavior toward his son. It turned out that the boy is not gay after all and we were happy, I will not hide him, but in an instant it did not occur to us if he is gay to throw him out and stop helping him financially and otherwise. You have very nasty parents and they don't deserve you. As a mother, I can't imagine expelling my son from being addicted to a stranger who might be using him. there were no girlfriends and we talked about what he would do then. Well nothing. He felt sorry for his son's grandchildren, for not telling him his son until now, that he was gay, but he had no intention of changing his behavior toward his son. It turned out that the boy is not gay after all and we were happy, I will not hide him, but in an instant it did not occur to us if he is gay to throw him out and stop helping him financially and otherwise. You have very nasty parents and they don't deserve you. As a mother, I can't imagine expelling my son from being addicted to a stranger who might be using him. there were no girlfriends and we talked about what he would do then. Well nothing. He felt sorry for his son's grandchildren, for not telling him his son until now, that he was gay, but he had no intention of changing his behavior toward his son. It turned out that the boy is not gay after all and we were happy, I will not hide him, but in an instant it did not occur to us if he is gay to throw him out and stop helping him financially and otherwise. You have very nasty parents and they don't deserve you. As a mother, I can't imagine expelling my son from being addicted to a stranger who might be using him. but even in a moment it did not occur to us if he was gay to throw him out and stop helping him financially and in other ways. You have very nasty parents and they don't deserve you. As a mother, I can't imagine expelling my son from being addicted to a stranger who might be using him. but even for a moment it did not occur to us if he was gay to throw him out and stop helping him financially and in other ways. You have very nasty parents and they don't deserve you. As a mother, I can't imagine expelling my son from being addicted to a stranger who might be using him.
Author, it's good that you don't sleep under the bridge. It is also good that you will work so that you can get on your feet. It's bad to be with a stranger. You cannot be fully aware of the intentions of the person you live with. I'm not saying he's bad himself, I'm just saying you can't trust him completely. We are very vulnerable now. Be careful not to be abused. You were absolutely wrong to leave your home. You are not an adult yet. You have to be under guardianship, and in fact the person you are with at the moment is nothing to you. Even if he is the best and most honest man, he has no right to represent you. And you had no right to leave your home, and your parents have no right not to look for you. You are in an unenviable position, I hope you happen to decent people from now on and find your happiness. Be healthy. I wish you success.
Number 20 - Author - you shouldn't have gone home, why did you do it, now yours too - especially your father behaved horribly and refused to accept you as you are. If you don't care about yours, you've decided well, start some work and don't think about them that much.
Thanks to everyone for the support, I was actually expecting hatred under this post. I am still in Lovech, I work in a car wash and I will start helping my friend with the bills, and I will soon enroll in self-study.
Well done, Author, you can handle it. I hope you have a little more until you are 18 years old. As a woman, I am ashamed of your mother because she failed to protect you and prove your unconditional motherly love. From the mother at least everyone deserves to be loved as he is WITHOUT CONDITIONS. I am pregnant and expecting a son and I just pray he is healthy. I don't care what sexual orientation he will have, what profession he will practice. There are mothers outside who even visit murderous sons in prison and don't give them up, there are mothers of children with Down's disease who look after them all their lives, and your mother raised such a nice boy and in the most difficult moment she is not stood behind you. Pity! Unfortunately, parents are often like that ... there is no excuse for your parents
God disgusting people, I got really angry when I saw what you wrote! These don't come from the 9th century, do they? It's not enough that you told them the truth ... well, they are angry and then they want us to share everything with them ... I have an idea for you, LIE that you are NOT gay. Tell your dad that you were joking and he will take you home and a problem, I hope he will leave ... and when you are INDEPENDENT you will live the life you want! Some time ago I also hated the opposite and now I am ashamed of that fact! I would make friends with you if I had a way .. but you have to hide for 2-3-4 years, get on your feet and live the life you want .. a girl of 20
Really turn to the police, he has no right to prosecute a minor, you did not order to be made ... And they created you like that, you are not guilty .... In fact, I do not see a problem, such is the life of one one is given to him, another to another. For your peace of mind, say that it is not so, and when you finish, go away from such parents. 128
number 29 - is a minor up to 13 years he was a minor history is almost 1 year. I expect to find out what is happening with the author