Hello, I have written many times on this site and I have always received help, please help me this time as well. I'm a ninth grade girl. In the other class there is a girl I know from the second grade, we were in the same school and we are also in high school. She changed a lot - for the worse - she started smoking cigarettes and weed, took amphetamines "from time to time", changed her hair color many times, burned her from straightening every day, wore heavy make-up, naked clothes and school heels. uploads provocative photos on his facebook profile, accompanied by texts from all sorts of chalga, made five big tattoos on his body, has a piercing on his tongue, lip and navel, and is only 14 ... anyway the so-called "muffins". We're not exactly friends, but she obviously trusts me because she tells me what's going on around her when we meet, she hugs me when she sees me somewhere on the street, but that's it - we've never been out, nor is she interested in me, but I don't want to be in her company of smoking and drugged children. The point is that about four months ago I had pain in one tooth and my dentist found a large caries. He had to be sealed, but then my mother was at a seminar, and I was not on good terms with my father, and he refused to give me money, even when he found out what it was for - he said he didn't care. I will post a separate topic for this, as I am not feeling well anymore and mentally because of a lot of things. Anyway, I didn't have enough money for the seal in question, I had some savings, but I needed another BGN 10 and I asked this girl, who I described above. She told me "okay, but give them back to me tomorrow, 'I need them.' The next day I returned them to her, I had to ask my grandmother, but I gave them back to her, I kept my word, as I always do. After about two weeks, just when I had received my pocket money for the month, which my father often "forgets" to give me (and we are not bad financially, not at all), the girl wrote me a message if I could lend her BGN 20. When I asked what they were for her, the answer was - "they are not for me, but for a friend who loves a boy very much". I was skeptical and right, I gave them to her (I was terribly wrong) and it turned out that she gave them to the friend in question to get a tattoo with the name of a boy. I was left with almost no pocket money again and I kindly asked her to return them to me, she said she would return them to me next week. I asked her then and since then, for 3 months now, she keeps getting away and says she has no money and how can she return it to me, as she did not have - but there is money for cigarettes, make-up and weed. Today I asked her again at school, again - "I have no money". And this is not true. Give me advice on how to get it back, I need the money, I'm still not a bank or a millionaire, BGN 20 is not a small amount for me and I want to make her return it to me, as I immediately returned hers to her without postpone. Please advise me something.
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Write off the BGN 20 and be glad that you received a very good lesson at such a fragile age. First, NEVER borrow money from strangers, but NEVER. Talk seriously with your parents, they are obliged to return your money for the seal - I can't believe that there are parents who do not want to pay for their child's seal! Are you sure you haven't lied to them and haven't made them money for other things before? Be honest with yourself and look for a way to regain the trust of your parents. As for your girlfriend - do not deal with her. She has taken a bad path and will drag you. Watch your lessons and move forward in life if you want to have money one day. A scholarship student, in high school I have always taken one for good success - then they were about BGN 20 per month, today they can be more. When I was 13 somewhere I had gathered with very bad company - smoking, even drinking, cracking, and although I did not participate in their nonsense, they wanted to expel me from school. I proved my innocence and abruptly cut off all contact with them. Only one girl managed to escape as well. What happened to the others? One gave birth at the age of 14 (father unknown) One became a scoundrel and beat various debtors for money - everyone in the city hates him. My best friend greatly reduced her success and graduated from some stupid technical school. Then he married a good butcher. I can say that she was saved. The others have failed in life and are barely surviving today. I studied like never before, graduated from an elite university and married a successful businessman. Today I work for an international company and receive several thousand salaries. We leave at one entry in the "Metro" to BGN 500 only for quality food. Neither we nor our children already know the lack of money ... Our teeth are made by a professor of dentistry, the best materials and consumables are used. At your age, BGN 20 was a fortune for me, I went with bad company, but I managed to break away from them and set important goals for my life. I have never taken, but I have never lent money. This is a very important lesson. Be happy that you have been "burned" by BGN 20, because there are many adults who have become guarantors for thousands of levs and today they are repaying foreign loans !!! but I have never lent money. This is a very important lesson. Be happy that you have been "burned" by BGN 20, because there are many adults who have become guarantors for thousands of levs and today they are repaying foreign loans !!! but I have never lent money. This is a very important lesson. Be happy that you have been "burned" by BGN 20, because there are many adults who have become guarantors for thousands of levs and today they are repaying foreign loans !!!
At your age, I met such pathetic girls as this 'girlfriend' of yours. Soon you will quarrel, ie she is with you, because she is from the 80% of the population of Bulgaria, which is hellishly pathetic and funny. Don't be like her just because you didn't satisfy one of her whims. Let her smoke weed, take her "dose", and cut herself like most girls do. This behavior is unfortunate. It's unfortunate that most don't realize it to see what they look like from the side.
Find a friend or acquaintance of yours to "tighten" it a bit. To learn that as soon as he borrows something, he has to return it when he can .. But when I look at what your girlfriend is like .... A healthy fight and you have to realize ..
From the author: №1, thanks for the advice, I learned my lesson from this incident already. The girl is not my friend - if she was, I wouldn't want my money back. We are just acquaintances. My parents are about to divorce, my mother has been in clinical depression for 6 years because of my father - but that's not the point - anyway, I've never lied to her or my father, especially for money, or to them. " got out "and they know it. I don't date this girl, I know she went the wrong way, but I don't care - I don't dictate her life - I just get angry that she uses me like that and doesn't return my money. №2, thanks for the comment - I haven't started to get up like her, I haven't tried a cigarette in my life, and I don't think I will try - I have asthma. №3, thanks for the advice - I've considered it, but I'm not that kind of person. I will try to put it in place with words, if he doesn't return my money within a month. I will be happy for more comments.
Glad you were burned with only BGN 20. Forget about this money once and for all, because you really won't see it. You start with good life lessons, they will be useful in the future. Don't make the mistake of thinking that people are like you. No, unfortunately they are not like you at all and never will be. They are not you. And a psychological nuance to things-a debtor is never favorable to his creditor. Do you think she is grateful for your service? Believe me, he hates you because he has to give them back to you. After a while you will quarrel and he will find you guilty just not to give them back to you. So much rubbish, my girl. Leave her and watch seira. And you forget the coins, don't be humiliated to want them anymore and come out of the situation proudly with your head up and with a new knowledge from the LIFE high school.