Hello! I'm 19 and as you can see from the title - I'll talk about loneliness and how I've felt for a hell of a long time. Before I move on to my story, I'll tell you a little more about me to give you some idea. I will start by saying that I do not belong to the stereotype that is prevalent today. I am more or less pretty in the face (at least I consider myself one), I have medium-long hair in sky blue color (I love pastel colors and for the 3rd year I always dye in such colors), my facial skin is not the most -problematic, but it happens that I get another pimple or blackheads appear. The body - 169 I am tall and I am 54 kg, I do not train, so I am a little relaxed, but I do not consider myself fat, because I am really completely in the norm. I am talkative, I have no problem communicating with people. My style of dress is quite unusual - I like to mix black clothes with pastels (something like pastel goth), I like metal / rock and from time to time I listen to rap. I have a few tattoos (not big) and a lower lip piercing. I work at a cash register in a supermarket and take 700 leva, which is quite enough for me, strange as it may sound. I've just been taught to save and spend wisely since I was little, so I know how to handle it. And now to my problem - boyfriends. I have absolutely never had a boyfriend, I have never kissed, therefore I have never had sex. At first, when I was in school I thought it was normal, despite the fact that many of my girlfriends were starting to have boyfriends bothering me I told myself there was time. I have 4 best friends - two of them are my age, the other is one year younger than me, and the latter two years younger. We share a hell of a lot and I know absolutely everything about them down to the smallest detail. Everyone has already done it, some of them even with 3-4 boys, have extensive experience with boyfriends, only I stay isolated and alone. I'm terrible. Nothing happens to me. They tried to match me with a boy and finally the boy told them that he didn't like me, that I wasn't pretty, etc. I will never forget how one of my friends called a boy to meet me and he literally said " You, if you're going to match me with this ugly one, you didn't know, "I burst into tears and left. I have the feeling that I will always be alone, that no one will like me and I will die alone. some of them, even with 3-4 boys, have extensive experience with boyfriends, only I stay isolated and alone. I'm terrible. Nothing happens to me. They tried to match me with a boy and finally the boy told them that he didn't like me, that I wasn't pretty, etc. I will never forget how one of my friends called a boy to meet me and he literally said " You, if you're going to match me with this ugly one, you didn't know, "I burst into tears and left. I have the feeling that I will always be alone, that no one will like me and I will die alone. some of them, even with 3-4 boys, have extensive experience with boyfriends, only I stay isolated and alone. I'm terrible. Nothing happens to me. They tried to match me with a boy and finally the boy told them that he didn't like me, that I wasn't pretty, etc. I will never forget how one of my friends called a boy to meet me and he literally said " You, if you're going to match me with this ugly one, you didn't know, "I burst into tears and left. I have the feeling that I will always be alone, that no one will like me and I will die alone. I will never forget how one of my friends called a boy to meet me and he literally said "You, if you're going to match me with this ugly one, you didn't know me", I burst into tears and left. I have the feeling that I will always be alone, that no one will like me and I will die alone. I will never forget how one of my friends called a boy to meet me and he literally said "You, if you're going to match me with this ugly one, you didn't know me", I burst into tears and left. I have the feeling that I will always be alone, that no one will like me and I will die alone.
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I'm a 20 year old boy and sometimes I think the same as you that there is no girl who could like me. I suffer from a lack of self-confidence, especially when there is a girl next to me and I lose my mind and my words, I don't know why. And I haven't had a girlfriend before, I haven't. We never know what fate will offer us, life is unpredictable! Upside down, as it was sung in a song By the way, I also like rap music, and sometimes I diversify with rock songs.
You just have to find a boy who is as desperate as you are, obviously you can't attract someone with a choice. But if you really can't find someone to just have sex with, then you're having a bad time. I've seen far uglier women than you describe who can at least find someone overnight. Not that you have to have sex. Just because your girlfriends do it doesn't mean you have to.
Probably your eccentric look repulses boys, not that you're "ugly" (I'm sure you're far from that notion), but that doesn't mean there aren't people who don't like you. You just have to find them in the right environment. Visits to a rock bar or a rock / metal concert would help. You can always follow a band you listen to, whether it will play in Bulgaria, raise money and go to their concert. There you will find quite a few like-minded people with whom you will like, but you should be ready to start the conversation first, if necessary. On Facebook (if you have one) you can send out invitations to such single guys and start a conversation. Working in a metal shop can also help you, but I don't know what the pay is there and whether it will suit you. In the summer you can go to the sea to start working in a rock bar or metal shop, but there are a lot of foreigners there, and as far as I know, most free people there are not looking for something serious. Another option is to radically change your vision, but this is unlikely to happen. You can start going to the gym, not because you have a weight problem, but to gain confidence. Confidence is always evident, and you seem to lack it. Black Sabbath
I will say it softly, not to protect your feelings, but because I really don't find it striking, everyone has the right to express themselves through their appearance. Girl, you have a special appearance and this is the situation - thin, tall, blue hair, piercings, a few tattoos and pastel goth style. Well, not bad, you like it, but your style is not very common, especially in Bulgaria. It is normal for some people to look at you askance, wonder and not find you attractive because you do not meet their standards of beauty. A girl like you is not seen every day, not perceived by everyone, that's it. It's hard for me to give you advice, because I'm not one of those people who will tell you to merge with the table to be liked. I just want to give you a side perspective that will explain the situation to you. You don't have to change, if you like yourself, but you have to understand that many people judge by their appearance and if they don't like it, they won't give you a chance. Especially when it comes to relationships. I've noticed that every second person is characterized by their boyfriend ... your boyfriend did something, you're exposed, your boyfriend looks like you, shame on you. This is nonsense in my eyes, a person is responsible for himself and his children (up to one age), but not for other people. It happened that my boyfriend did something stupid and all our acquaintances lined up to talk to me and judge me, as if I had something to do with what happened, and I was not even present. I defend him, even though he is wrong, but I wish I didn't have to be responsible for other people's actions. Not everyone is able to understand that couples are not one person, but two separate ones. There will be boys who will like you, but they will be ashamed to admit it to friends and family. This is the rough truth, in part I want to save it for you, but I think it's better to know it and accept it now. Among the mass of people, of course, there will be those who will be very happy. Somewhere there is a boy who likes the same things and will find you extremely attractive. You have not met him, you have not found yourself in an environment in which you feel completely free to be yourself. Look for this environment for yourself and life will seem brighter to you. You are 19 years old, do not think that you are already an old girl, because you have not lived 1/2 of your life. Don't get depressed now, it's too early for you, you have a lot of time in front of you to find the right person and be happy. that it is better to know it and accept it from now on. Among the mass of people, of course, there will be those who will be very happy. Somewhere there is a boy who likes the same things and will find you extremely attractive. You have not met him, you have not found yourself in an environment in which you feel completely free to be yourself. Look for this environment for yourself and life will seem brighter to you. You are 19 years old, do not think that you are already an old girl, because you have not lived 1/2 of your life. Don't get depressed now, it's too early for you, you have a lot of time in front of you to find the right person and be happy. that it is better to know it and accept it from now on. Among the mass of people, of course, there will be those who will be very happy. Somewhere there is a boy who likes the same things and will find you extremely attractive. You have not met him, you have not found yourself in an environment in which you feel completely free to be yourself. Look for this environment for yourself and life will seem brighter to you. You are 19 years old, do not think that you are already an old girl, because you have not lived 1/2 of your life. Don't get depressed now, it's too early for you, you have a lot of time in front of you to find the right person and be happy. in which to feel completely free to be yourself. Look for this environment for yourself and life will seem brighter to you. You are 19 years old, do not think that you are already an old girl, because you have not lived 1/2 of your life. Don't get depressed now, it's too early for you, you have a lot of time in front of you to find the right person and be happy. in which to feel completely free to be yourself. Look for this environment for yourself and life will seem brighter to you. You are 19 years old, do not think that you are already an old girl, because you have not lived 1/2 of your life. Don't get depressed now, it's too early for you, you have a lot of time in front of you to find the right person and be happy.
I really like such "weird" people like you - with colorful hair, tattoos, piercings, standing out from the crowd. :) I'm a woman and just like you at your age I was wondering why I don't have a boyfriend yet, but that was never a fixed idea for me. The only boy I "dated" for 1 week was when I was in 7th grade (he was a friend of my friend and she actually introduced us) and then we just held hands with him because this whole thing with the boyfriend of my idea it seemed super cool, but it wasn't really my thing. I just had sympathy for this boy and decided to give him a chance. He was 4 years old. bigger. After he dumped me with an SMS (: D), to be honest, it wasn't a big pain for me, because I repeat, he wasn't my man. I stopped hoping and lived my life, I went with the flow as they say. I graduated from high school, bachelor (still round 0 from to intimate and social life) and at one point in 2015. we met a boy, through the box and from there until now, almost 4 years. we will be together later and we will get married next year. :) I never thought I would mind alone, no one will love me, etc. You live your life and that's it. Nothing happens by force, and the Universe knows its job :) Love will find you when you least expect it, head up :) F, 27
You think the middle position is beautiful and the ugly boy has a discrepancy
Girl, you are an unusual and interesting person. You just haven't met someone who will appreciate you. I was the same age, weird and lonely, I felt crazy and ugly, with low self-esteem, until at the age of 20 I met the man who is now my husband and the father of my children. Never, ever underestimate yourself and don't let loneliness crush you!
Hey, I'm your age and in exactly the same position. Well, maybe I'm not as extravagant as you (I used to have a different style, but in the city where I live, having bright hair and different clothes is considered repulsive). Well, as for your worries ... I've never kissed a boy, and I haven't had a boyfriend. Don't feel sorry for yourself, because you should be aware that we are not so late. Two years ago, it was perfectly normal for me not to have a boyfriend. Somehow, when I got up at 17, I realized that at 16, it was normal to have sex. This somehow surprised me, because to be honest, I didn't talk about such topics with my friends then. However, I do not think it is "shamefully" late at all. And the most important thing, in my opinion, is that when the time comes for the first kiss, we who are late should not show, that we haven't kissed. I have been told that even if you have not kissed, if you are with someone you really want, the kiss will be successful and good. As for the boys ... you and I just don't compromise and we'd never throw ourselves into the first one we meet ... that's why things haven't happened yet. I advise you to look around among your peers and guess how many of them look like they are in your position. Well, you will definitely be surprised that they are not so few. I hope I have given you courage, because it is really pointless to be complex. :) I advise you to look around among your peers and guess how many of them look like they are in your position. Well, you will definitely be surprised that they are not so few. I hope I have given you courage, because it is really pointless to be complex. :) I advise you to look around among your peers and guess how many of them look like they are in your position. Well, you will definitely be surprised that they are not so few. I hope I have given you courage, because it is really pointless to be complex. :)
what can I tell you - with such "girlfriends" you don't need enemies just :) change the company, change the environment - start choosing, waiting for them to choose you is mega dumb (upside down, don't be a goat on the market with an apology) men like confident, smiling and positive women. become one and you will be lined up. good luck :)
I am a man and I can tell you that appearance is important, but the inner world is more important and if you have a good, pleasant inner world, one compensates for the other, but if you don't have it ... if you have low self-esteem, you don't have a sense of humor , for self-irony, if you're not social enough, if you're not smart enough, then you need to change that. I'll tell you what I mean. Some time ago I met a girl at university, she was not pretty at all, she was even a little ugly, she dressed strangely ... but it turned out that this girl is super funny, interesting, smart, sociable and cool and not only did I like her, but I fell in love with her .. Unfortunately things didn't go well, but I'm just giving you an example .. Before I thought that appearance is very important, that's right! There is no dispute but both are 50% to 50% .. If you have both it is great, but if you do not have either,
I am a boy of 21. I have only had 1 relationship, 10 months and so on. It was cool, but I can do it myself: D. I only need moral support. Just know that when you're not looking, it just comes and that unfortunate person who insulted you for being ugly can fuck you. (There is no censorship for such) :) No upbringing and culture. Head up ;)
Haha, at 19 what nonsense did she start thinking. If he was already 39 or at least 29 - OK, but 19 ... And with this "pastel" hair color, what normal man do you think will start with you? The first involuntary thought is that you are as artificial inside as you are outside ... When I look at someone else's opinion, you can't stand much, which buries you even more ... BGN 700 is enough for you - are you serious? When will you buy your own home with this money and how many children can you raise with it? !! If they are to live day to day - maybe yes. But don't expect to attract a man and start a family with such an attitude. In my opinion, at this stage, you should pay attention to: your education, your naturalness, your communication with people, and especially with the opposite sex. And don't think that things will just "happen to you" - make a plan and learn to achieve your goals. "By itself" will not happen. Think also about the reasons they lead to the current situation (described above). Success!
Um, reading your story, I think of two main things: - You're only 19, which means you have too much time to despair. She would be left alone - this is complete nonsense, you are still a child, it is too early to draw such conclusions. What should single people of 35-40 say? - It's your own fault for your appearance and for the fact that the boys think you're ugly. According to her description, she turned into a kind of karakonjul. With this vision, you have no chance with men, employers, or anyone. I guess most of them think of a drug addict or something and stay away from you. Piercings, tattoos, painting in blue - these are children's nonsense. Remember, your appearance is your business card. There is nothing more attractive to men than the natural appearance of a woman, and your vision is extremely repulsive. So: Dye your hair in a normal color (or leave it in its natural color), let it go longer, remove the piercing (tattoos too, if they are in a prominent place) and start dressing modern and feminine (no metal, rapper and similar clothes). M, 35
Well change! What is this flashy hair color? !! At one time, bears walked them in the squares with rings on their noses. I also like the way I dress, but others don't. I have a 5 year old son now and I haven't tried to please anyone. Change your hair color with something normal. Put something on you. Let the shapes of your body outline, no matter how much you don't like it. Smile and raise your head to see the men's eyes. Within 1 month I guarantee you that you will not be a virgin. In the future you will decide for yourself how to live. This gothic wear is not very popular.
Abe sikter of the boys, go as you like. It will please those undeserving every time. I personally understand you very well, I also listen to rock / metal like you. I don't wear this style, and I don't see anything but a metal T-shirt, rarely. I used to dye my hair ombre - red, blond. And now that I've read, I'm impersonal to see, I don't care at all. Some apathy. But I'll tell you, don't do this to yourself, to change your appearance, to dress the way you don't feel, just to get those boys in their pants. Sikter ... I'm 23 and I'm just like you. I feel the same, but by nature I'm not vain and for that, I probably don't repel with an eccentric look. But I also have no self-confidence. For me, it is important to come out of us clean and tidy. So from this it follows that it is not the clothes. I don't believe you're ugly, on the contrary, a very sunny and positive girl. It's just that the boys are complexes ... Who are constantly characterized in front of people, with the strongest possible chick, if possible, to compete in front of the others. In practice, people measure themselves in everything in everyday life, in their way of life, in their standard of living, in their material plan, in their educational plan. Everything is ala-bala, if it does not make you happy and does not make you happy, you do not feel useful. I don't know if you are currently studying, what you are doing, obviously the money you take as a cashier, and you are personally satisfied with it, for some is a low bar. It's all a struggle and a lust, to have everything now or never. Where are they in a hurry, as the poor and the rich will go underground. Nothing real mail, no feelings, mail everyone looks at interests .... .. Who are constantly characterized in front of people, with the strongest possible chick, if possible, to compete in front of others. In practice, people measure themselves in everything in everyday life, in their way of life, in their standard of living, in their material plan, in their educational plan. Everything is ala-bala, if it does not make you happy and does not make you happy, you do not feel useful. I don't know if you are currently studying, what you are doing, obviously the money you take as a cashier, and you are personally satisfied with it, for some is a low bar. It's all a struggle and a lust, to have everything now or never. Where are they in a hurry, as the poor and the rich will go underground. Nothing real mail, no feelings, mail everyone looks at interests .... .. Who are constantly characterized in front of people, with the strongest possible chick, if possible, to compete in front of others. In practice, people measure themselves in everything in everyday life, in their way of life, in their standard of living, in their material plan, in their educational plan. Everything is ala-bala, if it does not make you happy and does not make you happy, you do not feel useful. I don't know if you are currently studying, what you are doing, obviously the money you take as a cashier, and you are personally satisfied with it, for some is a low bar. It's all a struggle and a lust, to have everything now or never. Where are they in a hurry, as the poor and the rich will go underground. Nothing real mail, no feelings, mail everyone looks at interests .... people measure themselves in everything in everyday life, in their way of life, in their standard of living, in their material plan, in their educational plan. Everything is ala-bala, if it does not make you happy and does not make you happy, you do not feel useful. I don't know if you are currently studying, what you are doing, obviously the money you take as a cashier, and you are personally satisfied with it, for some is a low bar. It's all a struggle and a lust, to have everything now or never. Where are they in a hurry, as the poor and the rich will go underground. Nothing real mail, no feelings, mail everyone looks at interests .... people measure themselves in everything in everyday life, in their way of life, in their standard of living, in their material plan, in their educational plan. Everything is ala-bala, if it does not make you happy and does not make you happy, you do not feel useful. I don't know if you are currently studying, what you are doing, obviously the money you take as a cashier, and you are personally satisfied with it, for some is a low bar. It's all a struggle and a lust, to have everything now or never. Where are they in a hurry, as the poor and the rich will go underground. Nothing real mail, no feelings, mail everyone looks at interests .... and personally they satisfy you for some are a low bar. It's all a struggle and a lust, to have everything now or never. Where are they in a hurry, as the poor and the rich will go underground. Nothing real mail, no feelings, mail everyone looks at interests .... and personally they satisfy you for some are a low bar. It's all a struggle and a lust, to have everything now or never. Where are they in a hurry, as the poor and the rich will go underground. Nothing real mail, no feelings, mail everyone looks at interests ....
It's not the color of your hair that matters, but does it go with your complexion ?! It is not important the style of your clothes, but how they are combined and whether they are in a cut that fits your body! The ability to be sexy and attractive depends on the harmony that clothes and colors create with yourself. For example, if you do not have a very white and clear skin tone, this sky-blue hair will make you look like a blushing gypsy. If you have a medium complexion, consider a darker color mixed with very dark blue locks. It is important for you to realize that your body and skin tell you what is right for them. You need to carefully choose those things of this style that you love that emphasize your physical strengths and at the same time show your character. Aesthetics is not an easy thing. Now the clothes - look at the advantages of your body and emphasize them. The style the one you prefer can be very feminine as long as you ask. Come on success!
Don't change your look. If you make a muffin and catch up with someone, will you be happy instead of yourself and find someone who likes you the way you are. Personally, we enjoy all kinds of alternative styles.
Do you feel how smart you give the girl? To stay that way was her style, etc. tintiri-mintiri. She was forgiven - a kid's brain, she's 19 after all. Until now, at school it was considered "cool" and "bass cool" to be extravagant and pretend to be a clown. But in real life then it's different. Appearance is the first thing they value. Both employers and potential partners ... A woman must look feminine first of all, then all the doors open for her. There were obviously gaps in the upbringing of the parents. He had a similar muffin recently, he applied for a job with us. Diplomas, education, all six. She seemed intelligent and polite. But he appeared at the interview with a tongue piercing, tattered clothes (with those torn jeans, which are now in vogue among teenagers) and some strange hair color. I wanted to give her a chance and asked her if she was ready to get back to normal if she started working for us. She left offended, we had discriminated against her, that was her "style". Well, I also told her to go and sell pretzels to Popa, and that's all that's possible with this monkey-type - a pretty girl, intelligent, educated, with a great body, and made an alien. How to present it to customers, to the owners of the company? Absurd. with a wonderful body, and made an alien. How to present it to customers, to the owners of the company? Absurd. with a wonderful body, and made an alien. How to present it to customers, to the owners of the company? Absurd.
Who, whatever he did and the whole village can't do it to him. You left the mainstream yourself - then, why don't they accept you in it. Defend your 'style' and stand alone. The choice is yours!
You dress like a scarecrow and then why don't they like you? Screaming colors, non-standard clothes, body deformities, the whole package is present. You want to be different, you take on the consequences of the choice.
To number 20! I'm 36 now! And I kept wondering why they wear these torn jeans, which are only for rags! And what a slave to fashion! Well, when you go somewhere in front of people, dress well, do not show signs of disrespect for others from whom you expect help! To me, this girl has shown disrespect, that's why she did it! There is a so-called "dress code"! How to dress for a job interview - there are plenty of examples of this on the Internet! And the girl, in addition to showing disrespect, also exposed herself! This is wrong for me! First write your homework, as they say, and then argue with people!
I'm 20 again: Well, I was surprised by that too - an intelligent person, and you say that you see, "that's my style". It's like talking to Victoria Beckham. We were all blown away. Fashion - I understand, for a stupid teen it may be OK to wear such clothes. The author is obviously the same - ready to miss many chances in life, because she would no longer fit into the children's league company. It seems to touch on serious topics - work, partnerships, and a boyfriend.
Because everyone thinks they know how the other should live their life, but in fact no one knows how to live their own. Now, there's a lot to write about, but there's no need. You probably have your own style of dress and demeanor, which a lot of people don't like, as if their opinion is very important. I don't know what city you're from, but I'd love to have communication with you and girls and women like you. I do not give five bucks for the so-called moralists and various people giving opinions on everything and everyone. Life is one and everyone decides how to live it. I also listen to rock, metal, and even Wagner, but I also have no success finding such a woman or girl, and there comes a time when I don't care and accept things that I'm unlikely to find. Motorhead