Hello! I was 33 when we met. And he's 52. I don't know how I fell in love with him. We had a relationship for 7 years as in fairy tales. We lived together. But the problem is that he was very jealous of me. He started following me. It hurt like hell to doubt me. I once went to a colleague's birthday party. He knew, of course. We were all colleagues. Me and the other girls stayed to sleep at the birthday party. A spectacular scandal awaited me the next day. I explained and explained. He told me not to call him. He didn't call me for three days. Then one morning I saw him watching me from home to work. It bothers me. I told myself if I didn't trust him why I should be with him. I didn't call him again. He didn't call me either. He is very proud. After about 2-3 months he called me - he was crying on the phone - how could I dump him in the most difficult moment for him (health problem). I started explaining again. So gradually we started meeting again - just as friends. He behaved again as before — terribly kind. We started having sex after about a year of friendship. Let's help each other again. One day I called him, but a woman picked me up. It hurt terribly. I texted him that I did not want to interfere with his future and if I knew there was another I would never meet him. He immediately called - I did not say nonsense and that he only loves me. Our meetings continued. I was trying to find out if there was a serious relationship. He said no. But she was ringing. Then he told me that he could not forgive me for running away from him and that he thought I had cheated on him. And I swear by everything holy and to this day I have not been with another man. Except he doesn't believe me. He loves me so hard. He cheated on me. I know. It hurts terribly. I want everything to be the same as before. But we meet or hear on the phone as if only as friends. I ask - after claiming that he loves me why he is not with me again. I can forgive infidelity. It's hard for me, but my love is more salivating. Please tell me what to do However, the difference in our age is not small. I can not live without him. I can't be with another man. I'm not even sure if he loves me anymore. I don't even know what he wants. For all these questions I ask him, I do not get a specific answer. S says he loves me. But this is not always the case. He told me recently - let it hurt you to see what it is. Is he doing it for revenge? I want him to love me as before. Sorry, my letter took a long time, and maybe a lot of confusion. But it hurts terribly and I need your help. What should I do? I want to be with him and I only love him, but I can't understand what he wants. This situation does not suit me at the moment.
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And I think I'm going to die of love. It turns out that life can really be complicated and not what we imagined it would be ... I will not give you advice. I also have a personal drama (like everyone else), I've written here, I've read a lot about it, I've consulted with friends ... I don't even want to talk to my girlfriends about it anymore. They irritate me by giving advice - as if their advice is the right one ... I don't know what is right, but I will understand it one day ... Listen to your inner self ... maybe it will speak ..
Honey, this is not stupid at all. Call him to see you and tell him you want to talk about something very important. When you meet, start straight. Ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection. Tell him you forgive him for the infidelity and ask him why you hurt him so much that you deserve such treatment. When he starts talking, listen to him carefully and try to put yourself in his place. I think if he is so jealous of you, then he really loves you! Try it, you won't lose anything! I wish you things to get better, because I understand that for you he is everything! Success!
I don't think they will get along that way. If I were you, I would get it back for the infidelity. But in this way, even a world will turn to him. This man seems to be quite spoiled by women. On 2 fronts, to be comfortable for the gentleman. There is no way. Stop yourself. Give him an ultimatum, either you or she, to see how the gentleman reacts.
I support number 3 for the ultimatum!
And I think I'm going to die of love. But I'm more than 45 years old. Everyone gives advice. I have experience, but I don't listen to anyone anymore. I started flirting with an old friend of mine. We don't have sex. He talks to me for hours. She knows about my problem and so on. It has a calming effect on me. I advise you to do as I do. Don't cheat on him with everyone you meet. He may feel dizzy, but you will not feel better. I tried. I'm just waiting for my love to be realized. I will flirt during this time. This is the way. Look for the right man.
Well, he will be jealous of you, being ancient. What do you expect? Find someone at a better age, forget it grandfather. I also had one 20 years older, but one day I said goodbye to him and did not look back. I just found the right age and everything else.
No way. I know another woman 20 years older. And he constantly suspects and is jealous of her. He understands how easily someone else can remove him and he is afraid. And you do not die even from love.
He will be jealous of you. And I know a single woman who is 20 years younger. In the end, she cheated on him with me. I am 15 years old. smaller than her ...
He will be jealous of you ... Find a suitable man.