Hello .. My story is somehow strange in my opinion and I ask for advice or opinion. I have been married for 20 years, I would be happy to say two children and a beautiful wife, in the marriage over the years, as with everyone, there were small quarrels and then everything was normal. We have a medium business private apartment and two cars, one for each, the wife does not work or more precisely rarely comes to the company. She is mainly engaged with the youngest child who is 12 years old. goes to the gym to a hairdresser and to coffee with friends. About a year ago she started chatting on Skype with someone very often and this was not her habit before. He answered my questions that he was writing with a friend until one day I found out that he was a man, we quarreled and she deleted the suitor's Skype in front of me. Not to be banal, I will shorten it a bit, about two months ago the gym started to last an average of about 5 hours, I doubted. We quarreled one Sunday because she wasn't there from 12 to 5 and when she came home / because I called her on the phone to tell her that Sunday is still a family day / she started shouting at me that I was limiting her. Just to add that I have never limited it. From Monday I started to follow her and on Thursday / when she was at the gym again / I saw with whom and where she trained, they did not use a gym but an apartment. I was devastated, it never crossed my mind, I just love her very much and I thought it was the same with her. I did not have other relationships after the wedding, it was sexual enough for me. It is clear to you that there was a scandal, we said many things and yet I forgave her and said that it was an accident and fuck fuck. After I swallowed the humiliation came what I wanted advice for.
Last night, in a frank conversation and in shaping a family future, I told her that it was difficult for me and that the thread had broken and she answered .... she broke up with you now, and she's broken up with me for years, I can't have sex with you, the chemistry hasn't been there for years, I'm doing it by force just because of you .... And now the plans for a family future have already collapsed. After a sleepless night, I don't know what to do. I asked her if she could continue living with me and she replied that she did not know. All the time, however, he claims that he loves me and can't live without me, and when asked how he loves me, he doesn't want sex, he answers ... ... Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which way to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and yes don't touch her. Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... and for me it has been broken for years, I can't have sex with you, the chemistry is gone for years, I do it by force only because of you ....
And now the plans for a family future have already collapsed. After a sleepless night, I don't know what to do. I asked her if she could continue living with me and she replied that she did not know. All the time, however, he claims that he loves me and can't do without me, and when asked how he loves me, he doesn't want sex, he answers ... I love you as much as I want children to hug you, to caress you, but you don't attract me sexually ... there is no chemistry. ... Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which time to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and yes don't touch her. Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... and for me it has been broken for years, I can't have sex with you, the chemistry is gone for years, I do it by force only because of you .... And now the plans for a family future have already collapsed. After a sleepless night, I don't know what to do. I asked her if she could continue living with me and she replied that she did not know. All the time, however, he claims that he loves me and can't do without me, and when asked how he loves me, he doesn't want sex, he answers ... I love you as much as I want children to hug you, to caress you, but you don't attract me sexually ... there is no chemistry. ...
Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which time to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and yes don't touch her. Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... I can't have sex with you, the chemistry is gone for years, I do it by force just because of you .... And now the plans for a family future have already collapsed. After a sleepless night, I don't know what to do. I asked her if she could continue living with me and she replied that she did not know. All the time, however, he claims that he loves me and can't do without me, and when asked how he loves me, he doesn't want sex, he answers ... I love you as much as I want children to hug you, to caress you, but you don't attract me sexually ... there is no chemistry. ... Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which way to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and yes don't touch her. Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... I can't have sex with you, the chemistry is gone for years, I do it by force just because of you ....
And now the plans for a family future have already collapsed. After a sleepless night, I don't know what to do. I asked her if she could continue living with me and she replied that she did not know. All the time, however, he claims that he loves me and can't do without me, and when asked how he loves me, he doesn't want sex, he answers ... I love you as much as I want children to hug you, to caress you, but you don't attract me sexually ... there is no chemistry. ... Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which way to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and yes don't touch her. Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... And now plans for a family future have collapsed. After a sleepless night, I don't know what to do. I asked her if she could continue living with me and she replied that she did not know. All the time, however, he claims that he loves me and can't do without me, and when asked how he loves me, he doesn't want sex, he answers ... I love you as much as I want children to hug you, to caress you, but you don't attract me sexually ... there is no chemistry. ... Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which way to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and yes don't touch her. Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... And now plans for a family future have collapsed. After a sleepless night, I don't know what to do. I asked her if she could continue living with me and she replied that she did not know. All the time, however, he claims that he loves me and can't do without me, and when asked how he loves me, he doesn't want sex, he answers ... I love you as much as I want children to hug you, to caress you, but you don't attract me sexually ... there is no chemistry. ... Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which time to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and yes don't touch her. Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... All the time, however, he claims that he loves me and can't do without me, and when asked how he loves me, he doesn't want sex, he answers ... I love you as much as I want children to hug you, to caress you, but you don't attract me sexually ... there is no chemistry. ... Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which time to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and yes don't touch her.
Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... All the time, however, he claims that he loves me and can't do without me, and when asked how he loves me, he doesn't want sex, he answers ... I love you as much as I want children to hug you, to caress you, but you don't attract me sexually ... there is no chemistry. ...
Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which time to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and yes don't touch her. Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which time to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and not touch her . Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance .... Now I have two options to separate and stay with her but without sex and we are 43 and 42 which time to catch and please tell me some can he live with his wife who is beautiful and good looking and not touch her . Her relationship on the net and in bed with the other man lasted almost a year if I have a chance ....
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Stop the money and let it out. In 2 months it will be yours again. At 42 she may have been preserved, but not Miss Bulgaria. While at this age you are in the prime of your life!
You have no chance. Either you wait for it to pass or you break. But if you raise scandals against her and press her, you will be on the losing side.
he goes to spa hotels alone if he needs to catch his mistress. She will be angry if you explain to her that you love her very much, but you are a man and you have sexual and other needs to see how she will sit on the mint. Then he will appreciate that it is not possible without you.
1, 2 and 3 have written you the right things, just to add that if you leave a person without a job, he immediately kills him with nonsense - tested over the centuries. When she finished chemistry, she left her to deal with life on her own. f. to work / and hit her lover with all her sultanate and he endures it - it may look perfect, but he is not 25 - I am curious how long the great chemical love will last. Winnie the Pooh
Point? the door, do not be humiliated. Boronia
5. Point? the door, do not be humiliated.
Stop money and pampering necessarily.
Yes, Winnie the Pooh is right, but everything they have was acquired during the marriage and she will anoint more, because the children stay with her. The business is common, the properties are common. It should not happen that she has to show him the door, and then the lover moves in with her and ... "lived happily ever after". Everything must be well thought out.
Stop the "tap" and, as Pooh says, see then how long the chemical love will last!
After the chemistry between you is over, consult a lawyer - how did the chemistry with OOD (EOOD or ET and she fictitiously sells her share to you), how to finish the chemistry with the dormitory with the least benefit for her (transfer it to the company , and after the divorce - again in your name), Ask her for divorce by mutual consent, and in case of divorce she gives you the children, otherwise divorce due to her fault (take pictures with her lover, but proving intimacy - a kiss, for example). Send her what she came with. I know that both contribute to the family "Blago", but I have not read such a thing. On the contrary, while you were wrinkling, she lived carefree that she had even learned the basics of chemistry, but she missed hours. Let her go and she will learn other chemistry lessons. That as there is no bread and water, the brain cannot think. Or for some goods it will become what it is - a prostitute. But now you "pay" her, and she will have to work harder. It may be rough, not like Winnie the Pooh, but that's life. Either you have sex with a beauty, or you have real sex - the second can overlap with the first, but with another woman. The smart woman appreciates the fact that her husband gives her the means to be happy and supported, and does it for him. The fool thinks only of herself, to caress her ego, and something else ... To look for another fool, if it will be at the expense of another woman.
5 hours of fitness is a serious thing. Why don't you start entering the hall too? And this is just infidelity. He eventually goes home. You can't expect chemistry for a lifetime. People change - some for the better, others the other way around.
Maybe in time you will have a chance, and until then you can find a side connection. Before you think about yourself and her, think about the children.
What kind of children were people? What will this whore teach them?
I sympathize with you, man! I know what you're talking about. Did she continue this relationship or did she calm down after revealing it?
Thanks to everyone who commented on the topic, on №14 I replied that they ended the relationship and I think I was / meek /. We are trying a new beginning ... as far as possible, for now she is making great efforts to restore trust and make me feel good. I will follow the next comments thank you again.
I write from the point of view of a married woman. It has never happened to me to have someone else, but I never said it would not happen to me. I think everyone has the right to a second chance, and everyone can make a mistake in their life. HUMAN. Don't judge her harshly, give her a chance, everything can be fine, and you could be from her position and she should have forgiven you, right? She had an adventure. OK. Let's see if he realizes his mistake. If she starts again then just show her that you can too, they wrote to you above, pour out have fun so she will realize that she really loves you and doesn't want to lose you. Sometimes we humans have to be hurt to see. Stupidity but fact.
Every marriage has its crises. If they do not cause it to end, they can heal it like nothing else. I know from experience that after a mistake we become somehow more tolerant of other people's mistakes, which helps a lot for the adjustment between the spouses. A long marriage is inevitably doomed. It is easiest to leave the sinner, but it is far more worthy to forgive him and accept him back. I wish success to the new beginning !!!