I am like that myself - without much self-confidence, not very walking ... I would even say unassuming, shy ... The interesting thing is that I am contactable and funny with friends, but I am incredibly much in the presence of men. And as a cover ... I fall for people like me, insecure and indistinguishable men, how ridiculous! How do we get to each other when we both can't take our eyes off the top of our shoes? Men, if you don't have the necessary self-confidence, how do you approach an insecure woman like you? How do we know we liked you? What signals would you send us to relax in your presence and respond a little bolder to your interest? I was interested in a man who was not very successful with women ... When I hinted to him about my interest in him, he cut me off so treacherously, cruelly and aggressively, that I literally lost my mind and my words ?! And I lost all desire to take the 1st step towards a man, better alone than abandoned to the whims of fate as the last intruder! So I ask you, men, what signs do you give to a woman you like if you are one of the more closed, shy and lack self-confidence? I can't stand direct and rude dumps, where they don't respect my opinion, but push and press me instead of regulating the overflowing testosterone ... I'm not guilty of dying for romantic, gentle, modest and unobtrusive men ... male arrogance repulses me! I look forward to the opinions of sophisticated and unobtrusive men like me! What signs do you give to a woman you like if you are more closed, shy and lack self-confidence? I can't stand direct and rude dumps, where they don't respect my opinion, but push and press me instead of regulating the testosterone flowing everywhere ... I'm not guilty of dying for romantic, gentle, modest and unobtrusive men ... male arrogance repulses me! I look forward to the opinions of sophisticated and unobtrusive men like me! What signs do you give to a woman you like if you are more closed, shy and lack self-confidence? I can't stand direct and rude dumps, where they don't respect my opinion, but push and press me instead of regulating the testosterone flowing everywhere ... I'm not guilty of dying for romantic, gentle, modest and unobtrusive men ... male arrogance repulses me! I look forward to the opinions of sophisticated and unobtrusive men like me!
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Insecure people are insecure precisely because they do not believe. In this case, they do not believe that anyone can love them. That's why he cut you off so unceremoniously. He probably just couldn't believe that someone really liked him (especially if you're more attractive), maybe he even thought you were carrying something. It is possible that he thought that he was not able to build a relationship with you and therefore put an unequivocal end to your relationship, even if he had sympathy for you. In my opinion, if you want a relationship with such men, you should not hurry. First get to know each other as people, become friends.
We don't give signs to the woman we like, or at least I don't. Somewhere I agree with number 1: Where do you think this fucking self-confidence that all women fall for comes from - well, from success with women, from somewhere else! When you know you're not a playboy, there's no point in sending any signals, because the only thing you can do is become a laughing stock. You can't stand rough dumps, but 99% of women can't stand rough ones. And when you act rudely, there are two options: If you are beautiful, you get sex, and if you are ugly - a slap. You understand that the ugly just give up the game at some point.
I am a boy of 24 years. I am also insecure. In a female presence even more. I don't consider myself ugly or beautiful. I have a pretty nice and interesting job, I don't lack money, I have a car, but I had whatever I wanted, except for a girl next to me. I wrote to at least 4 girls who told me they liked me (They always wrote to me first, I never started first). But because I'm insecure and I'm starting to dodge, even if I liked the girl at this stage. I lead a rather closed life, but what can I do that I don't like going to dumb country pubs, listening to chalga, and even watching beatings ... I have no idea what I would do if the girl is also insecure and I have to I take the first step, but personally I would never be rude.
"How to know we liked you." This is the problem for both men and women. The desire to please people and behave in accordance with their requirements is the greatest simplicity. I will give you a new tactic, be yourself in all your beauty. Love what you are. Everything you do, you say whatever it is and never ask yourself if someone likes what you are. When someone likes you, he will see your independence and self-sufficiency. You can't control who likes you, when and how. This is nature and it happens by itself. Of course, you have to take care of your appearance, play sports and develop intellectually, this develops self-confidence, but even if you are not perfect, you have to move your imperfection and like it. When Jeanne Dark attacks the fortress walls, the generals tell her that they will not follow her if he does, and she replies that she will not turn to see if anyone is following her or not. It's all about the character and experience of the time, I believe you will succeed and you will succeed.
I am the same - and by that logic I run away from men as they run away from me, again for the same reason. So don't be surprised that the young man reacted that way. I don't know what I will do ... What will we, the insecure and shy ones, do ... These are psychological barriers that I wonder how to deal with ... Who is to blame? Me, modern society, my upbringing? What do I see? Increasingly insecure, unhappy and lonely women and men afraid of the opposite sex. Once upon a time it was like that? Not at all. Simply because now things are wrong, perverted, and abnormal.
"When I hinted to him about my interest in him, he cut me off so treacherously, cruelly and aggressively that I literally lost my mind and my words ?!" - Men are also faced with such rude treatment and then there are women who accuse men of being angry. Wonder why? Anyway. You have to overcome your craving and open up outside. This excessive cunning and caution cuts off all possibilities, there is simply no way for someone to come and patiently try to break through the defense to reach you. In most cases, a man who is attracted to a woman goes and gives her a moderate signal that he likes her and if she does not give the same sign he drops things and leaves and what is left to try and insist with a curled girl who is insecure and pulls?
We ... have fun. Seriously, I'm not fucking. Look at the situation from a different perspective and without taking it very personally and inwardly ... just try to have fun while flirting. Without a fixed idea that it must be done with the right person at all costs.
Um, so insecure men just give up the game, right? !! It's a pity ... Because the arrogant turkeys where they inflate and win easy sex don't excite me at all! I wish the modest boys would at least try to break the ice with their eyes ... it doesn't work, damn it! The girls shrink and wait for the first sign from the man, the boys literally abandon the game because they are afraid of failure ... well, where will it end then? !! We will run away from each other ... this is the story of my life .. And then "be yourself" ... As I am myself, they pass me like a small train station, and there is no other way to be? !! Here, I am learning languages, playing sports, developing ... And am I still invisible? !! I can't have fun with the whole situation, because I'm not happy at all for men to literally look through me all their lives ... or look at their shoes! Any other tips to have? !! Just like this, a gram of hope to give me that I will not be left alone ...? !! the author
I'm number 6. There is always hope for an author, but it goes through your personal change. Behaving in the same way and expecting different results makes no sense. Besides, if they don't get reciprocity, it's not the insecure men who give up immediately, but the confident, insecure ones don't even try :-) Let's go back to hope :-) I told you how to change in your previous comment. You need to attract attention and interest, then you will have more chances and more chances mean that the probability of learning things with you becomes greater. Furthermore, he does not think that confidence and insecurity are related to the desire for one-time experiences or for multiple experiences, there is no such connection. And finally - do not be prejudiced and do not wait for things to sort themselves out and do your part.
"And as a cover ... I fall for people like me, insecure and indistinguishable men, how ridiculous!" I thought that nowadays there is no woman who falls for us insecure - alas, it existed :) As difficult as it sounds to you - do not lose faith in yourself and in the fact that there will be someone who will appreciate and love you as you are. Against the background of all this "Muffins", which has conquered young girls and women, well ... what can I say - I prefer just such a SMART, HUMBLE, HUMAN, LOVE WOMAN. M25