Hello! I would like to know what the readers think about the following situation? I recently turned 20, I have a friend of 26, with whom we have been together for two years. In the beginning of our relationship, our sexual relationship was more than perfect, but since we have been living together for several months (and maybe even before), I can not boast of the same. He claims that I like his appearance very much and I attract him, physically everything is fine, he has a normal erection and so on ... but when it comes to REQUEST for sex (always on my part) he is still tired from work and fitness or directly he snores next to me without looking at me. In general, we have sex 1 - 3 times a week, which for some people may be okay, but not for me, especially considering that in the past it was not. And the few times I have sex, it's extremely boring and unsatisfactory, and my friend's low endurance is evident. He is only interested in his own orgasms and for more than once a day not to say a word. I would know if he was tired, etc., but I don't think it is, just a complete lack of even a tiny spark of desire. I don't think he doesn't like or like me, he always comes to tease me, to touch my ass or my breasts, but there is no one for sex! What should I do?
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There is no such phrase "in mind" ... Otherwise, how come you didn't ask once - "what can I do", but still "what can I do". You must be a tuna in bed, the man looks at you as an extracurricular activity ... The average man of those years must have much more testosterone and desire for sex than the average woman, especially when going to the gym. Take him to a testosterone test. There is nothing shameful, it is good for every man to monitor his levels. If everything is normal, sorry, but the problem will be only in you ...
Have you ever thought that maybe he's not that sexy? Was it like that in the beginning? If he is only interested in his own orgasms, then he is selfish in bed. You say you live together, he may have suffered for you. You better talk.
You're tired of him. It's like you didn't wait for the wedding.
Leave an email or phone to solve your problem. Author, the person may be really tired, don't bother him!
It's not about dislike, it's about physiology. Educate yourself about the male reproductive system, its capabilities, and everything related to it. The organism has limits and abilities are not a constant.
Hahahaha then men only thought about sex. Tighten it up a bit, are you 20 or 15?
I am 22 and I have the same problem. If you live with a man, things change. You are always at hand and the thrill is a little lost. Try to make him do something different, maybe in a different place. Something to bring back the thrill.
Well, that's right, honey, when you choose cattle for boyfriends. He was tired of fitness, dear God, laughter! Why go to this filthy gym, not to have it physically after that? I have a colleague who goes to the gym four times a week. Last week they brought the delivery from the cash register with soft drinks to the office and we went to help take them to the kitchen. The dude died at the third box, he would faint. And he goes to the gym four times a week. Four. Laughter ... I, for my part, do not go to the gym, but slap my boyfriend as well as where I cook her free at home. And we have lived together for many years. I like to slap her in the hallway from behind, leaning against the wall, coming home from work, then to cook her something tasty and in the evening to break her from chelastre again. How he only sleeps after that and how he enjoys going to work the next day, I will not explain! The truth is sweetheart, that from the material and from the chandelier, people do not know how to appreciate the real things in life. It's yours. Dare and success, but I doubt it ...
Tell him to stop the gym. It doesn't work well for him.
Start knitting tapestries! Haha, I'm kidding :) Try to challenge it, add variety, toys, role-playing games, etc. If all goes well, you should get yours. But if so, imagine that it will be even worse in the future. So, you decide whether to invest in this relationship. Success!
Lies are what he sees. 100% don't want you anymore, the reason remains to be understood. 1% probably just bored of him, 99% for another woman. Whether he slept with her or not is irrelevant, as long as he has a desire for her, there will be none for you. There is no point in wasting your time with someone who is not honest with you, drop it.
You say that most often you initiate sex. A possible explanation for not wanting you is that he doesn't feel like a man in your company. Think about whether you do not initiate other things in your daily life, whether you do not command it and do not impose yourself on it at any convenient moment. Didn't you unwittingly take on the role of the man in the relationship? This can be seen in the small, banal things and is often unconscious, you may do it and not know that you are doing it. For example, when you want to go out, do you tell him "Let's go somewhere"? Do you remind him many times when he hasn't done some housework? Do you tell him what to do in bed? If the answers to these questions are "yes" - stop doing it. Men do not like to be told what to do and lose all their masculinity when the woman next to them tries to command them. You need to be more passive and let him make decisions that affect both of you. When you become more passive, he will become more active - this is a completely natural balance. He can't play the role of a hunter and want you if you tell him when to throw out the trash, where to go for coffee and in what position to possess you. Many women make this mistake and then wonder why their husbands are not men at all. Remember - it is always determined by the woman where a relationship will go. If the woman is warm, soft, accepting of the man, then he will want to make her happy, to be a man in the true sense of the word and the relationship will prosper. If the woman suppresses him, tries to command him and constantly grumbles, he shuts down and has no incentive to make her happy. he will become more active - this is a completely natural balance. He can't play the role of a hunter and want you if you tell him when to throw out the trash, where to go for coffee and in what position to possess you. Many women make this mistake and then wonder why their husbands are not men at all. Remember - it is always determined by the woman where a relationship will go. If the woman is warm, soft, accepting of the man, then he will want to make her happy, to be a man in the true sense of the word and the relationship will prosper. If the woman suppresses him, tries to command him and constantly grumbles, he shuts down and has no incentive to make her happy. he will become more active - this is a completely natural balance. He can't play the role of a hunter and want you if you tell him when to throw out the trash, where to go for coffee and in what position to possess you. Many women make this mistake and then wonder why their husbands are not men at all. Remember - it is always determined by the woman where a relationship will go. If the woman is warm, soft, accepting of the man, then he will want to make her happy, to be a man in the true sense of the word and the relationship will prosper. If the woman suppresses him, tries to command him and constantly grumbles, he shuts down and has no incentive to make her happy. Remember - it is always determined by the woman where a relationship will go. If the woman is warm, soft, accepting of the man, then he will want to make her happy, to be a man in the true sense of the word and the relationship will prosper. If the woman suppresses him, tries to command him and constantly grumbles, he shuts down and has no incentive to make her happy. Remember - it is always determined by the woman where a relationship will go. If the woman is warm, soft, accepting of the man, then he will want to make her happy, to be a man in the true sense of the word and the relationship will prosper. If the woman suppresses him, tries to command him and constantly grumbles, he shuts down and has no incentive to make her happy.
Ehhh, you immediately attacked the girl, she was guilty that our two money was not worth it in bed. Come on...
I think he's really tired and he's just used to you! He is comfortable with you and not only about sex thoughts. There is always more sex in the relationship first and then less. It's normal. It's not because of the look. It's just that sex is less important than other things. If you want more sex just tell him directly what you think. Say you want more and if there is anything more than that he is tired of saying. Relationship problems are solved only through conversation and openness. Even if it is difficult to tell the truth, if you hold the person, it can be a compromise. For example, if his problem is work you can try when he is on vacation to relax and do it. If he loves you, he will understand and try to make you feel better. And vice versa. Believe it or not, men don't always want sex. Say you think he thinks only of himself and hurry. More time to do it, etc. Say it frankly. If he says you're talking nonsense and it's not true, say it's true because that's how you feel. In a calm tone, slightly anxious. Without saying it doesn't work in bed. Say you used to like it more and wonder what happened, why. Is he just comfortable now and doesn't have to be perfect for you because you're already together. This is usually the problem. They are sure that we will not leave them, they are well and no longer need to make an effort. But it's not like that. You have to say you want something more. Is he just comfortable now and doesn't have to be perfect for you because you're already together. This is usually the problem. They are sure that we will not leave them, they are well and no longer need to make an effort. But it's not like that. You have to say you want something more. Is he just comfortable now and doesn't have to be perfect for you because you're already together. This is usually the problem. They are sure that we will not leave them, they are well and no longer need to make an effort. But it's not like that. You have to say you want something more.
№ 8 is very right! Fitness is not a healthy activity, and see if he drinks various stimulants, anabolics and a bunch of unknown junk that he buys online, which makes him impotent.
You pretend to be unavailable to me for two months and then you wonder why your boyfriends are impotent. Your boyfriend is not sexual, it will not happen. You haven't noticed it before because you haven't been together all the time. If you don't like his reluctance to have sex, find someone else. It's not because you don't attract him. It's just not sexual. Well, at 29, I've slept with at least 40 men, if you think I have no experience and I don't know, follow the advice of others.