Hello! I am a 21 year old girl and my story is as follows. I haven't been engaged for 2 years, and since my relationship was very toxic at the time and I decided to give myself some time to recover, I maintain a friendly relationship with the boys, without intimacy. I am focused on my student life, my professional realization and I spend time on my hobbies, and also the superficial relationships make me nervous. In the past year, men aged 30-40 wrote to me on Facebook - some were family-oriented, others were looking for an intimate partner or just a joke. They made proposals for meetings that did not materialize because I had no interest and refused. I often ask myself the question "why" - why does a man not mind having a relationship with a girl (or as some will say - 20-year-old girls are not " TV series, music, our dreams, we share ideas, we like to spend our free time equally; for topics such as health, family, children, education we have the same or complementary opinions. I can't ignore the fact that we live in a city, we haven't met yet, and it will soon be 6 months since we wrote to each other. That's half a year. To be more precise, he actually offered to meet - in a month. And in a month - it will be half a year. I admit that I did not expect it, because usually the meetings happen earlier. I could not take the initiative precisely because of the communication problem I felt. At first it managed to attract my attention, but at one point I began to hesitate and doubt it, and I really wanted to get to know it more ... Now I have an interest, perhaps in affection, in the fact that I managed to write with him, even on days when we just exchange a few remarks, but I don't want to be fooled and invest in vague relationships. I didn't ask him why he was offering this after so long, but I asked him why he wanted to see me in a month, not sooner. He told me that he wanted to meet earlier, but he was busy with work, after he finished his main commitments he would be able to take time for me, and he also wanted to prepare mentally - whatever that means. Besides, he knows which university I study at and I know that he went there ... According to him, he is not engaged, married or divorced. He wants to have a family and a good partner by his side. He presents himself as a sincere and responsible person, trust is important to him, etc. He knows that I have some doubts, but according to him I have nothing to worry about. I need to share because I feel confused, with conflicting feelings and I can't handle the situation. I would be happy if I could build a serious relationship, but it would hardly happen. Only my closest friends know about this man, who assume that there is another girl or woman. I beg for your opinion and advice! Thanks!
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If you have doubts from now on, do not expect things to change in the future. Your intuition tells you that he has no feelings, or even if he does, he is not a person you can get along with easily. The rumors that he had a job and needed time for mental preparation are complete nonsense, however. That's the only reason it's worth breaking off contact as soon as possible before he turns your head with more nonsense. No man needs 1 month of preparation to see a woman he is interested in. He's probably 1-2 more at the moment and he's mostly busy with them, and he's playing a slower game with you, maybe as a backup eventually.
Докато не се видите очи в очи само ще гадаеш Дългите писанки по социалните мрежи са за тийновете, а и двамата не сте деца Пише се мах месец и след това на живо, а той наистина реално толкова време, странно, може да крие нещо, но не ти пречи да излезеш с него, ще стане ясно в последствие
He has a girlfriend, that means. If a man starts to say that he even needs mental training, he has a girlfriend. There may not be photos of her, statuses, but there are. For the first time, I hear a man mentally preparing for a date with a girl, as if he were going to war. It's just that men are more playful at 30 or so and know how to lie. Especially when you don't know each other, anyone can become an angel and a lover of serious relationships. But serious things do not happen to everyone, they are pure luck. I'm 27, and I've heard tales of seriousness and honesty from everyone, but these are just tales. Men repeat them because they sound good to them and because women want such things. Joke with this one, what exactly does it mean to prepare mentally, that I found it interesting.
The man is playing you, how are you sure he's not in a hurry?
You sound incredibly cliché. I read a chamber of superficial things and even wonder what you really meant. And besides the fact that at the age of 20 you are a woman ... dear, at the age of 20 the box over your shoulders is still too small. It is easy to fill. When a person's box is full, it gives the feeling that he knows everything. From now on, watch both your box grow and do not rush to fill it with clichés. Friendly advice. A recipe for happiness.
God, what reassurances ... Just go to the meeting, what are you wondering so much. Wise sea buoy head.
Great development, great thing, for six months of writing it was decided to see the seventh. And you have nothing serious if you are already deceiving each other and not being sincere. You twist, instead of putting things straight and finding out who really wants what. And every relationship and friendship is built on mutual trust. Nothing will come of this waste of time.
Author, this one is either married or has a few more like you. Do not waste your time.
What are you wondering so much. He doesn't want to because he has a wife. There is no, but absolutely no reason for a man to postpone his meeting with a woman he likes for half a year.