I'm afraid he'll be disappointed in my body. I see a boy and we are already at the stage where we will have sex, but I am very worried about the imperfections on my body, which I basically cover with clothes. I know that his previous ones were real models - tight bodies, flawless skin, big breasts. The only thing I excel at is maybe the face in parts. I am already thin, but some time ago I lost 25 kg. and my breasts have disappeared and are no longer full and beautiful, stretch marks have appeared all over my body and I am still struggling with the remnants of cellulite. He doesn't know that. My thighs and butt are fluffy and somehow don't match the lack of a bust. With a lifting bra you can't see it with clothes, and he expects something completely different. I'm afraid he'll be disappointed and that will make me feel disgusting. What do you think I should do - discuss how I feel with him or "surprise" him and see what happens? I know that self-confidence is a big part of a woman's sex appeal and such a conversation about complexes is likely to ruin his impression of me, but the other option seems terrible to me, I just can't help but feel his disappointment.
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Hello dear. It is very bad that you put such complexes in your head. Like you, I was overweight, but I lost 15 kg and of course stretch marks appeared, but believe me, this is the last thing he will look at in bed. Are you going to have sex or what? I'll tell you something from my experience - before, when I had great complexes, I always tried to have minimal visibility - to always be under a blanket, to have the lamp turned off ... There is no such torture, do not cause it! Learn to live in harmony with your body, whatever it is! Buy sexy lingerie to feel more confident and not only think about your shortcomings, you also have advantages! The important thing is to feel good in your skin, because otherwise there will be other fouls .. You will feel a tension, he will also worry .. and you know what's next. And last, which made me personally not ashamed of my body anymore - If a man wants to sleep with you, then he likes your body! He won't go on expeditions to look for your stretch marks and squeeze your skin to see if you have cellulite ... Up your head, I know it's hard to look at yourself positively, but otherwise it will bother you all your life. A woman who has experienced it tells you :) Good luck, darling.
You don't care at all! Break it from sex!
Hello! I'm almost the same case ... If he really loves you, he won't care what your body is! I don't have a flat stomach or weak thighs, but everyone tells me I'm thin, he too ... I don't have any self-confidence and I'm trying to lose weight and boost my self-esteem. I suggest you do the same, eat healthy, run, exercise, exercise and so on. I wish you success!! Moni
We men do not like this type of "surprises". It is best to discuss with him how you feel and what you are afraid of. If he is smart - he will understand you, if he is not - he will be disappointed and will probably withdraw, but this could happen if you "surprise" him. So just hope he really loves you and wants to stay with you. My answer - Tell him everything =]
Do not worry. Make him a French one and everything will be fine.
My girlfriend felt the same way before we did it for the first time. She told me that she was ashamed and that she preferred to be in the dark for at least our first time. I love her and I have not seen the so-called imperfections at all. Not that if I had them, I would make a scene or change my attitude, but I don't know what kind of person your friend is. I don't think take a chance and talk to him about it. It will be uncomfortable for sure, but it is preferable to the chance that your self-esteem will fall to the ground. USA
There are stretch mark creams as far as I'm concerned. And once you are together and love each other, your body and who knows how important and yet it depends on how he will perceive it. In your place, I would share it with you, just tell him that you need a little more time to press to take the next step. And in the meantime, do something for your body when you don't like yourself.
25 kilos is not a small amount. Unless they have interfered with your health, for fashion reasons it is stupid to get complex now from losing weight. Or you can regain a few pounds for a fluffier bust;)
Look, if your tits hang down and you don't have tissue in them - it's really a lot of naughty clothes and whatever bras you wear - they won't fill up and your sagging skin will go home. But for stretch marks - I assure you that you do not know what it is to have stretch marks on the body. Are you asking me? I have it all over my body. My skin is not elastic. I had a lot of weight loss. You just assume you don't have perfect skin and that's it. And about tits - how do you know what tits he likes? There are men who adore sagging, or even lack of bust. Abe has people for everything in this world ...
Sweatshirts. I don't think you should have lost weight. I prefer a fluffy chick with a beautiful face and big breasts to a thin girl without breasts.
If you have been together long enough and he understands and supports you during this time, you can share your worries with him. If he loves you, he won't mind. I also have a few stretch marks that have almost disappeared, I had a little cellulite only on the buttocks and upper legs on the back, but for months I squeeze 1 grapefruit every morning on an empty stomach, start doing it, also avoid sugars, pasta, fatty foods - in 2 words, eat healthy and exercise (at home or elsewhere, I exercise at home). If you talk to him, don't forget to tell him that you are currently doing what you need to do to eliminate these shortcomings, but you just need time to see the result. Stretch marks may not disappear, because as far as I understand they always remain, but mine are now much less visible than before, almost somehow not even visible. So you can delete them as much as possible over time. If he is disgusted with you and doesn't want you anymore, then he doesn't love you and it's not worth being with him. If this happens - overcome it as fast as you can, tighten your body (in the sense of becoming what you want, take care of these things) and then let him look at you with his finger in his mouth and find out what he missed. I talked to my boyfriend before having sex for the first time, we had talked to him many times before and I was so insecure about my body, we talked once and I told him that I was worried because my skin is not perfect because I gained weight 4 years ago quickly and I got stretch marks but now I have lost weight, and I did not like kg then, now a few months later I am weaker and cellulite can be said to be gone, and I said about stretch marks. He completely understood me, even he mocked me for struggling for such nonsense, etc. he didn't care about these things at all. He loves me and it is as if these things are invisible to him. I don't know if it's because we used to be best friends or because he really loves me, and maybe because of both, but I'm really happy with how it went with us, and now when we have sex I don't worry about my body or anything and I'm more relaxed, everything is wonderful. I hope it will go well with you, good luck :)
Tell him !!! Tell him and show him what you were like before. If he withdraws, then he is not asleep, he only wants sex for you, and that's it. Good night, goodbye, thank you, let the next one come, who will evaluate you as a person, not as a body.
The solution is simple, but before that - the size of the bust is not the most important part of a woman's sex appeal (if we have to be precise, the nipples are far above the shape and size of the breasts). It takes a few simple steps to catch his attention as you undress. 1. Pay more attention to his body, undress him first and make him relax. 2. Leave the bra last. If you open your vagina in front of him, first of all, his attention is guaranteed to be won. Make him touch your ass, etc. 3. Once he enters the wave of arousal, even if you are completely flat, you can not disgust him, even the opposite will fall in love with your body. It's all a matter of foreplay. Things to avoid - by no means share this concern with him. This will accomplish nothing but make him think about him all the time. I wish I was helpful.
Don't tell him anything, because that way you'll get his attention and he'll notice things he might not see at all. Yes, the most important thing is self-confidence, so - act like a goddess and do not care.
I don't think you should be ashamed of your body, and if you really look like you wrote, then you have nothing to be afraid of.
Dear girl, don't worry. Whatever imperfections you have, if the boy is right, he would never abandon you for them. Everyone has their shortcomings, as they may have. The most important thing is to like yourself, to love your body and yourself, to have self-confidence. Work on these things and you will be amazed at the result. A woman is best when she likes herself. Whether you have cellulite, whether your breasts are big or small, these things don't matter when you are a good person, when you love and support the person next to you. I strongly believe that everything will be fine, and if what you fear happens, I can only advise you one thing, run with 200 of this boy - he doesn't deserve you. Success!
Just talk to him. Tell him you have a problem with your body, that you don't want to disappoint him. If he decides to take the risk and sleep with you, and then not call you. Then she draws her own conclusions. :) -I
Is the boy in question walking with your body or with you?
If he wants to be with you, he likes your body, whatever it is. Everyone has different qualities and shortcomings. Don't get complex. Each person is unique in their own way. All men like different qualities in a woman. Some one, others another. That's why people are different. I can tell you that a man can be much more attracted to a woman who is not so sculpted than someone from a magazine cover.
Covering up with clothes doesn't work the way you women think. If a woman sees her for 5 minutes, she may deceive me with her clothes, but if I look at her for a few days, I will immediately discover the imperfections. I guarantee you that he knows very well that your ass is bigger against the background of your small breasts. It can very well distinguish pads and raised breasts from natural ones. We men have a look at these things. After all, all our lives we watch women and try to understand how they look naked. I also don't like this type of body, where their breasts are small and their buttocks are big, but a woman is not formed by just one body. There are dozens of other things that make her attractive or repulsive. If her face is very beautiful and her demeanor attracts me, I would sleep with her with pleasure despite this shortcoming. When he's with you, he's done the math. Regarding all his former models - do not bond very, very much. We men like to exaggerate and invent, just to get the big deal out (just like you do). It's best to relax, fuck him with gusto, and let whatever happens. And don't forget that he also has his worries;)
Wow, you were full, now you must have stretch marks. In your opinion, you are beautiful, but who knows what kind of dinosaur is hiding. Let's say you're pretty in the face, being fluffier ... but it still doesn't work. I don't know, I was wrong.
Hello, number 23, specialist. I bet you've never seen a naked woman in your life (except maybe in some cheap porn). To the author, as a man I tell you, there is nothing sexier than a woman who is self-confident. I have been with both thin and full girls. And I have always been most attracted to those who are not ashamed of their bodies. But still talk to him, and NEVER, worry about your own body ...
catch him and ruin him from sex and believe me he won't complain: D
From the author First - thank you very much for the positive comments! I just did not expect such encouraging words from strangers and I was very pleased! For now, I have decided to focus on sports and just try to get used to myself. I haven't 100% decided whether or not to talk to him in advance. It's as if I'm more inclined to keep quiet and force myself to be as relaxed and unpopular as possible, and if he dumps me because I'm not perfect, I'll still experience it somehow. I don't need such a person in my life! to number 24: Let me tell you, they haven't likened me to a dinosaur until now and I define myself as beautiful, because firstly - I have a mirror with which I can see not only my shortcomings, you can't believe it, and secondly - they told me both men and women. And in the end, not all dinosaurs are ugly: D I personally find them cute.
My opinion be self-confident and have wild sex with him and pretend that you don't care and accept yourself that's it. say something about his previous boyfriends and that you are not like them with such a perfect body, if there are problems, dump him, and for a conversation I think you will only humiliate yourself. This is my personal opinion on your question. -27
You are another brainless victim of the fictional advertising consumer world - the mania for weak women is disgusting! What kind of thing did you do when you went against nature! I prefer juicy and Rubens women than skinny nightmares with wrinkled milk bags instead of tits!
It's normal to have sex! Only, however, I advise you to go on this wave, only if you are really ready and you really want it. Once he gets this far, he really likes you the way you are! Come on, get sexy lingerie, provoke him to act. Give him the opportunity to get to know your body manually and orally, do not be ashamed if you want to of course get an orgasm and be happy! Everything will be fine after that !!!
I just forgot to get something! A clean body is a must before going out with girlfriends and / or boyfriends. The shower is a must! Purity speaks of man. You're a woman, and that's perfectly normal, but also the exaggerated complexes of "should I clean up," "what does he think of me now," "I haven't taken a shower because I'm far away," already repulsive. Well, if you are on the road or in a tent, picnic, beach, etc., what will you not let him touch you? This is already too much! Be who you are, no one needs hysteria or anything like that!