The thing is, the men I really wanted in my life went one way or another. I fell in love a lot with a man who later turned out to be married, in fact I didn't know and accidentally found out. And he talked about how much he loved me, how much he wanted us to live together, and generally a bunch of lies. I have been separated from him for 2 months, but I can't forget him. I really wanted to start a family with him, and then what I found out I totally lost faith in men. The thing is, I'm currently dating a great man who does everything for me, we get along great, but I still love the other one. She doesn't have this thrill and this crazy attraction ... I don't know what to do, I don't want to give him a chance and then run away, but I don't want to regret that I missed him. I just really don't know what to want. I am afraid, of myself, I am constantly wrong.
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To tell you the truth, I'm fine and I don't know what to do, I can't give you advice, time will tell. You can pick the other one and get things started with your boyfriend. But if it really doesn't come from inside you, why not bother with it.
Hello! How long have you been with the married man and since you have been separated has he been looking for you? Do you have any relationships at all? Also, have you clarified? - this is an extremely important condition for a person to be able to move on. I say it from personal experience. I am more or less in your situation, but there is no new person in my life, because my consciousness is totally devoted to the person with whom I think I have not clarified at all ... If you can answer my questions and I will give more -detailed opinion about things with you.
And I know what it's like to love a person, but for one reason or another, he can't or doesn't want to be with you anymore. You want to experience the same thrill of someone replacing him, but when you think they are still there, you can't. I'm dating another man too, but she doesn't have the thrill and I'm afraid I won't be happy with him, but I don't want to be alone because it's worse. I don't even know if I'm making another mistake in my desire to replace him. I don't know what advice to give you, because I don't know what to do for myself. But if this - the other man really loves you, he will make you fall in love with him. If it fails then it is not for you. Success!
For the married man - I have no illusions, we haven't been together for a long time, maybe 2 months, otherwise I would probably have found out sooner. He worked in my city, but his company terminated his contract and he had to move. Then I saw by chance in one of the photos he sent me that he had a hulk and he did not deny that he was married, although I had asked him many times before and he always told me that he was not. But I doubted because every Saturday and Sunday he ran home. Then we wrote to each other many times, he wrote to me that he would divorce and a bunch of lies that he knows I want to hear. Now I know that he found a job near my city, but he doesn't tell me where, and the last time he found a job he stopped writing to me, about a week now, so the situation is hopeless, and to write to me and not to it says - it's hopeless. And the other - just nothing is the same,
Time must pass, you will certainly not find the same as him almost, so it is better to reconcile in time so as not to lose the present, which is worth it!
You will certainly find many others like him, but why are you? If he has lied to you this way so far, what do you expect from one in the future? The love you are talking about is like a drug addiction. Give yourself time to forget it - giving up any poison takes time. And while you're waiting to forget it, think carefully - what makes you happy.
This is because you haven't forgotten it yet. Just don't expect new developments - this prolongs the agony. Married people do not divorce because of their lovers, I know this from the experience of my sister, who has been waiting for a man for 8 years to divorce and has not yet waited for him. It is best for you now to work, save something to study, play sports, take care of yourself, nurture your side interests and hobbies. This way you will get rid of this ghost imperceptibly.