Hello, here is my story in brief. I am a 27 year old woman. A year and a half ago, the management of the company I work for was changed. A new branch director, a new deputy director, a new assistant, new consultants, etc. have started working. At the highest level, all employees have been replaced. I am a consultant for partner organizations, so thank God, I was not fired. The new people turned out to be good colleagues and professionals, the work went normally. It made an impression on me that my direct supervisor - the project consultant, who was also one of the new ones, started to visit me more and more often in my office, to talk to me, to invite me for coffee and a cigarette during the holidays. I did not draw any conclusions because he is a family man, prudent in appearance. Everything was fine, until we had to work together for a long time on a project - then the boss showed his horns - he started throwing various obscene remarks at me, touching me, as if by accident, until at one point he told me in plain text that very soon he should we go to a new level in our relationship, where he touched his crotch and grinned impudently. I was angry ... not that he was not a nice man, but such impudence came to me more - he was not interested in my opinion on the matter - just put it to me, as he gives me a job. I told him that we could only have a professional relationship, and he replied that it was good then to orient myself to another company ... That was a week ago, since then I have been avoiding it - I'm just running away. I don't know who to turn to and what to do. On the one hand, I don't want to work as a prostitute in the workplace, and on the other hand - I do not want to lose my good and well-paid job in this crisis ... An acquaintance recommended me to file a complaint, but I strongly doubt that this will help ..., the company is private and any inconvenient employee , it's just going away ... I decided to try to deal with the boss without involving institutions, but I don't have a clear plan - I ask women who have been in a similar situation to give me advice on how to proceed. Thanks in advance.
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Looking at the job description - the company is not small, and your direct boss probably has no ownership in it. Aren't there people above him in the organization? In a sense, if he starts firing you, I guess there's someone to turn to. And if you want, next time ask him if he wants his wife and bosses to know what happened and if he wants you to sue him for sexual harassment. And it is best to consult a lawyer. A more capable person can solve your problem. It may even issue a disciplinary action against the individual in question. Good luck and you are not afraid. But
It is clear that the situation is very delicate ... In my opinion, now that he is more scared than you. You need to make it clear to him that if he takes action against you, you will not keep your mouth shut - remember that he also has something to lose. Being a director does not mean that the owners of the company will close their eyes to his impudence. Attacking him is a risky strategy, but I think it's better than sitting and waiting for him to take you down. You're on his blacklist anyway.
Hi, why don't you try to write it down, there are so many ways and means, just the next time he comes to your office and tells you so directly, you will have it in black and white, and as people before me told you - there are people above it, even more if you have it written down, you can also contact the relevant authorities :)
Number 3, you can't just record conversations like that. It is illegal and punishable. For this I wrote, it is best to consult a lawyer, the right is on her side. Sometimes the media is much more dangerous for a company than the law. No business owner will be particularly pleased to hear such an incident, especially if the girl is eventually fired. But
Such things happen. I even know them a lot, but I have to tell you to just take your complaint where and to whom you need it and I think the problem will be solved. However, the one who will leave the company will not be you. Don't be afraid / ashamed. Just do it. Turn to someone above him. Ralph
Listen to my girl. I speak to you as a father because I can be like that to you. Go and meet his wife! You have nothing to lose because he will turn the earth upside down and do everything possible to get revenge. It's too late. The problems are either solved with a frontal attack or you pay the whole bill in the end. The stress you are subjected to can trigger an illness, keep that in mind. People constantly come to me for help who have been victims of psychological violence. get there. And nothing will happen with complaints. Only decisive actions! No one has the right to do that to you !!!