please help me, give me advice, i don't know how to proceed. He is older than me, I am 20 and he is 29
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100% there is another, maybe even more. How will he allow you to hide for 2 years. You are his mistress. What is your bagpipe from this relationship. Wasting time is in my opinion.
I feel like he's married. Nothing personal, but his behavior is not normal.
hiding for 2 years is definitely not paranoia but a problem. The man is either married to someone else (he may be abroad, he may live in another city), or for some reason he wants to be considered single, or he just doesn't want to be seen with you. In any case, things will not change as long as they are still in this phase. I don't know how you waited 2 years without any development
I think there is another. I'm sorry. And even if there is no future with a person who does not want to be seen with him. In those two years, did he introduce you to his friends? With your parents? My friend introduced me to them in the 3rd month.
Who are you hiding from? !! If someone doesn't want to show up with you, there's a big problem. Either he has another, official girlfriend, or he's super jealous. I wouldn't accept it as a secret, don't you either.
Oh .. most likely "plowing" on another 2-3 fronts. Either he's under Mom's slipper or something ... Abe isn't a literate person, and you understand very well that things can't go on like this forever. And as you can see, they do not change, so the probability of continuing forever is maximum. I know that you are in love, maybe you like sex with him, or in your mind you are building some common future with him, but I think you should focus on ending. Keep in mind that over time, the small things in the other start to irritate, so what's left for the big ones, who already make a strong impression on you ... Doris with a person with whom you feel that you were born for each other, that you are created in the same mold, and that all your dreams and visions of life coincide, even with it over time there are frictions and differences, and what is left for such, with whom do you disagree from the very beginning on such fundamental issues as whether to announce your relationship or not? I'm sorry, but yours won't be ... And it's up to you to understand it the easy way or the hard and painful way (if you keep insisting).
Either he has a serious relationship / marriage with another woman, or he is ashamed to show himself in front of people. I don't think they're both in your favor, so ... Cut and tear, and look for happiness elsewhere.
Are you together on the big holidays? Do you go on vacation for a few days? Is he hiding when he talks on the phone? Does it limit you, is there a time when you don't want to be heard? If you answer these questions you will quickly know if you are a mistress. I think he's married.
How can he love you when no one knows about you? !! This is wrong! Either she is a super complex or she has an official girlfriend. It is not normal to be in such a secret relationship, if it can be called a relationship at all. You obviously don't know what kind of people his relatives and friends are. Do you realize how wrong and abnormal it is? And I was so deceived by one, once he shouted at me who I wanted to meet! Let me see what your relatives are like, how you grew up, with which people you spend your time. So weird, huh? It's just profitable for yours to lie to you for his own strange reasons.
He's married - you can be sure
He's lying to you, he's probably married. Otebi, go on.
Even if you are the only one, does this relationship suit you? Give yourself a deadline (without telling him about the deadline), then have a serious conversation with him about what you expect as the development of your relationship and don't mention anything to him anymore. If something changes - give it a chance. If not - as soon as the term you gave yourself has expired, you break, burn the bridges and don't look back. F31
I also think he is married. Have you ever asked him? I worked in a shop and a very handsome man came to me every night, took me down. He was writing to me, but there was something suspicious about him and I decided to ask him if he was married and he calmly replied "Yes! And so what!": D So ask him or ask someone he knows, look at his Facebook profile.
He is not married people, we know each other ... meaning our families know each other, but of course they don't know that we are together ... everyone knows each other, the city is small, he is not married ... I can't understand what the problem is ... is it possible that he is afraid because of the difference in age ... but this is a long time, it is not normal
What's the difference in your age because you mentioned it? How old are you? I think that even if you are the only one, it is still not normal to hide and thus deceive you. And how can no one know that you are together, isn't the city small? Meaning, do you go somewhere to restaurants, cafes, or just at their place? Do you date other people? Do you upload your photos to the social network, or he? If that doesn't happen, it's a shame.
I will tell you only one thing - if he wants you to hide he has no serious intentions towards you. You say that he is not married - then that is all that remains. A truly in love man will pursue you everywhere. A woman who could be your mother writes to you - I've seen two and two hundred. This is definitely not your man
I'm 19 and he's 29 .. we go out, we drive around, but not for coffee ... that's exactly what I don't understand. If he's not real with me about what he's been cheating on me for two years and ruining my nerves, it's this hiding that makes me disbelieve him
To number 17, the author, from number 15 Apparently she doesn't want to be seen with you, whether because of her age or his madness. Maybe you look naive to him and he wants to ruin your self-confidence. Because you are smaller, not so playful and sunken, and it can manipulate you. Alas, it's like you're younger and less experienced. Someone more poisoned can make you a monkey. Girl, it's not normal not to go to coffee, for example, for so long. Have you tried offering it to him as an idea, or making an appointment with him at a coffee shop? What about the sea, or did you go somewhere out of town? And do you celebrate the holidays together? You don't know how much time you're wasting with this one if the answer is no. I don't know how you drive like that in this hell. Tighten up, and talk seriously! You deserve to have a relationship with a normal boy, not that type!
So I really hate jealousy, but in your case it's justified. The problem is not whether there is another. The problem is, he doesn't want you enough. When a man really wants you, he wants to show off in front of the whole world with you, not to hide. Do you know what happened to me? A womanizer is courting me. He wants me a lot, he wants me a lot. There is the fame of a brutal playboy. However, even he does not hesitate to take my hand, he wants it himself. He constantly shows his friends even personal interest in me. He behaves gently, not in his style. I'm the one who pulled at him and told him not to be boyfriends to hold hands, and he behaves more seriously than me. When a man really likes a woman, he shows it. In front of all. And not just at home in the dark.