Hello! I am a girl of 25 years. I've been dating a man recently and ... I'm in love as a student, I can't sleep at night, etc. He's the first to be so careful with me, so kind, and he's unique in every way. However, this is happening to me for the first time and I really don't know how to act so as not to cost everything! Let me explain how things went - he is a client of the company I recently work for and we had business commitments together. From the very beginning, despite the strictly formal environment, our communication started more than fun - with a lot of laughter and jokes, the conversations went somehow smoothly. He made several hints for us to go out, but I coquettishly escaped and finally accepted. Before we went out for the first time, we wrote to each other and talked for a few days almost non-stop, but without any hints or anything like that, just pleasant and meaningful conversations. We went out and I had a great time, he behaves like a real gentleman. We continued to hear each other non-stop, we went out for the second time, at the end of the evening we hugged. In general, he shows me in every way that he is interested in me - call me, if I need something he comes right away, he is interested in how my day went, he compliments me, from which it is clear to me that he likes me, he is jealous of me ( playful), etc. Everyone has so far tried to sleep with me on 2-3 dates, and he does not show such a desire. I'm so fascinated by his way of thinking that I'm worried about making things worse. The initiatives for the meetings so far have been his, but when we go out together, for example, we decide what we will do. I'm embarrassed that he always pays - I'm not used to it. I'm hesitant to call him to dinner at our place, that we haven't even kissed? What do you think?
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I think hold on. Don't invite him to your place because you will have sex. Keep that pleasant thrill and nervousness still. He also enjoys it. Don't rush. Isn't everything ok for now?
Wait for it to come to you. Let things develop naturally.
Call him
At home, I don't think it's a good idea. He'll think you're inviting him for sex.
Call him at home and cook him something, he may be pleasantly surprised and things will get more serious. The years go by and such men do not meet every day.
Just when you invite him to your house, you can make things worse - if he is looking for you and invites you, then everything is fine, all you have to do is settle the issue with the payment of the bills. stubbornly you can always think of an occasion to draw. Everything else is OK, over time you can diversify the meetings, for example with a day trip or something else that you enjoy. The important thing is to understand what he is excited about and whether you will have enough points of contact in the future - but it takes time, it takes patience, you need to see him in different situations. If you are born with luck, fate itself will offer you options, but do not rush to conclusions and do not think that if you do not let him after 2-3 meetings he will give up on you, and if he gives up you will be sure,
It is not said to call him to your house, but to invite him! In general, you look quite naive and you will see that the first time you let him go, you will be uninteresting to him. All women have not learned that such "princes" invented by you do not exist, you just choose someone who you think looks handsome and has money, and then grumble when the jester beats you and say that there were no "decent" men. And you don't even look at such men, just because, in your opinion, they either don't look good or are unworthy of your highest personalities!
I don't understand this mentality of pulling and making difficult. Once someone shows you attention and good attitude, there is attraction and you understand that the more you procrastinate, the more likely it is that nothing will happen, everything will return to its usual boring course and they will be upset and hurt again. With these things, there is a certain "window" of opportunity, if you miss it, things are gone. I would not worry that you will confuse something, but rather that you will miss the opportunity due to meaningless procrastination, reasoning and the like. I have had similar cases. I show attention, I make the woman feel good, I make a gesture, I extend a hand, but instead of her returning the gesture, making an effort, she plays it difficult. Amy sorry, but my interest quickly fades and things don't go anywhere and then there are the bitter ones. Things happen when they are easy, pleasant, convergence is easy, fast, without obstacles and efforts as with you so far. When they start to set boundaries, barriers, to postpone, when the balance in the relationship is distorted and distorted, when one has to pursue and the other to pretend to be persecuted, then everything goes down a spiral until just one decides that he just doesn't it is worth the effort and that instead of dealing with dramas and receiving insults, because refusing in any form is an insult, it is better to deal with things that give him pleasure. When you have the opportunity for something good and good, try to use it, if you procrastinate you will lose it and then you will regret and accuse yourself of being so cowardly. when the balance in the relationship is distorted and distorted, when one has to pursue and the other has to pretend to be persecuted then everything goes down a spiral until one just decides that it's just not worth the effort and that instead of dealing with dramas and he receives insults because refusing in any form is an insult it is better to deal with things that give him pleasure. When you have the opportunity for something good and good, try to use it, if you procrastinate you will lose it and then you will regret and accuse yourself of being so cowardly. when the balance in the relationship is distorted and distorted, when one has to pursue and the other has to pretend to be persecuted then everything goes down a spiral until one just decides that it's just not worth the effort and that instead of dealing with dramas and he receives insults because refusing in any form is an insult it is better to deal with things that give him pleasure. When you have the opportunity for something good and good, try to use it, if you procrastinate you will lose it and then you will regret and accuse yourself of being so cowardly. because refusing in any form is an insult, it is better to do things that give him pleasure. When you have the opportunity for something good and good, try to use it, if you procrastinate you will lose it and then you will regret and accuse yourself of being so cowardly. because refusing in any form is an insult, it is better to do things that give him pleasure. When you have the opportunity for something good and good, try to use it, if you procrastinate you will lose it and then you will regret and accuse yourself of being so cowardly.
Well, I don't agree with number 7. And in other topics I said it: I personally don't take a woman lightly, just because she let me go quickly. And a man if he has serious intentions, ie. either he has them or he doesn't have them, he won't back down just because she let him go after the 2nd or 4th meeting. And to hang him, if the goal is only sex, then he will beat his jester or look for her only for sex. Men are also artists. I hope he is a decent man and you really came across a man.