Hello. I want to complain to you about myself. I am a terrible interlocutor. When I'm out with friends, very often, while they're telling me something, I just relate, stop listening to them, stare at something. My thoughts fly in another direction. Different thoughts keep running through my brain, and it's as if ordinary conversations just can't keep my mind focused. I get lost quickly when I get bored. I'm generally distracted, I often forget things, hours. As if a thought can't stay in my brain for long. What do you think is the reason for this? I want to deal with this problem.
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I felt something like this, as if you are not living in the moment, but you are constantly somewhere else in your head. In principle, I am one of the best listeners I know, and lately I have been so carried away that I heard the voices of the people around me like the buzzing of a mosquito, I fantasized about some things. My thoughts were constantly intrusive, no matter what. Then I started grounding, try it, there are mindfulness techniques.
Well, you're just not interested enough in the topic of conversation. No wonder and it's not just you, the human brain works that way. You don't feel out of place and would rather be somewhere else and do something else. You admit to yourself that your conversations are boring - why don't you change the topic with something that excites you or interrupt your interlocutor, out of politeness, instead of switching off? You better tell yourself directly if you don't care about something - it's not much more polite to treat and slap while they're talking to you. Life is short - do you really have time to waste with people uninteresting to you and fruitless conversations? When the interlocutor is interesting and the topic excites you, you do not have to make an effort to focus - it happens by itself. Do yourself and your interlocutors a favor and stop compromising.
"I get lost quickly when I'm bored." - Change your acquaintances / interlocutors. Some people are more observant, others are not, and others are like me - depending on if it matters to me. I don't think it's a problem if you're not distracted by the things that are important to you - everything is okay. Do your research on vit. B12, hemoglobin levels, eat foods rich in potassium, sodium and magnesium.