Hi, I'm a 16 year old boy. (I'll be as clear and concise as possible) And I need advice because I really can't explain the situation I'm in. In short, I have been in a relationship for 4 months with a girl I have been in love with for a year and 4 months. I experienced a lot of painful moments because of her because she played with me for 9 months, but as I said ... in love and blind. and after those 9 months she broke my heart and I was depressed for 4 months after which I managed to get her back and the best part is that I even won her heart.
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Nothing is eternal and constant - thoughts, feelings, people change. Maybe this passion that you had in the beginning has calmed down and passed with a calmer love and affection.
Once you understand what the problem is?
I really, really didn't understand what your problem was. I will just say that there is nothing wrong with the love you feel. However, as I read the girl does not know what she is doing (meaning she is quite insecure since she has been hanging out with you for 9 months). I'm even more amazed at what you do with her, you will tell me love and such nonsense, but you are only 16, I can't believe you met true love so early.
In general, yes, number 3 .. it was uncertain, but now things have somehow changed and I am grateful for that. So I'm only 16 but I believe that she is because she accepts me as I am just like her, we fight from time to time sometimes for complete nonsense but this is normal and I just do not intend to give up because of this but these feelings (or rather lack thereof) fuck up our relationship a lot and I just need advice on what I need to do to change it
You are moving out of the zone of attraction and conquest and this means that your relationship goes to the next level - comfort and just realized love. Rejoice in that.
You don't have to do anything. It is normal what happens to your feelings and more precisely the lack of them. You're probably tired of this whole game - you're in love, it's playing with your heart. At some point it's already yours, and it loves you too, but you need a break, a kind of unloading from this whole game, a broken heart and other emotions. Be careful not to hurt her when she is indifferent to you, do not behave repulsively, mockingly or arrogantly. Stay together while it's good to be a couple. When you or she meet someone 'new' in your life and fall in love again, you will someday split up and remain friends or acquaintances. You are 16 years old, it is unlikely that this girl is your last love. Be nice to her, be gentle, show her that you love her when you really feel it. Success!