Hi, I need help. First of all, let me say that I am married and have an 8-year-old son. I have been in a relationship with a colleague for almost 5 years. At first, everything was perfect. And he had a serious relationship and many other lovers (which I knew about). But then he broke up with the woman he lived with. And I tried to replace her. But alas, it did not work. In fact, he is a free man of 40 years. who has the right to see as many women as he wishes. However, I want him to want only me. I know he has feelings showing me it all the time. However, I can't put up with the fact that there are other women. I know I'm wrong. I know that most will accuse me of suffocating him and making claims to which I have no right. I realize it, but I can't fight my feelings. There are times when I feel crazy. Out of jealousy. This relationship burdens me terribly, and I can't leave her. I know he doesn't deserve a minute of my attention. I know he uses me and at the first opportunity he will rub me. I'm confused. It hurts.
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Why do you live with your husband? Get a divorce! Don't go out with us for your child. You have an 08-year-old son and a 05-year extramarital affair. So your child was 03 when you started cheating. At the moment you are wasting your time, that of your husband, and if you want even your child. The lover is nothing but a fucker who is given various emotionally unstable women, unfortunately you are among them ... It is obvious that you do not love your husband. Divorce and start your life fresh, but without this mold your lover. Success, M 41
Problem with the author's self-esteem. You do not value yourself, respectively no one else values you. You are not confused at all - you know what to do, but you leave some first-rate nonsense that is between your legs to affect you. Well, that's it. You won't get love from this one, and if you don't love your husband, it's time to do the right thing for him and separate. Don't make excuses with your child at all, because he is not as blind as you think he is and he is certainly aware that things are not right and he feels uncomfortable about it.
Why should I leave you? I think he loves you and you are his trusted person and he would like to have you permanently in his life, as a special woman. And the others will come and go or some will stay, but you will always be by his side. That's how I see things. I have some observations. However, it hurts and I do not know what to advise you about it. Reconcile and when he shows you that he loves you, trust him. Don't pay attention to the vicious comments, these people are not in your shoes. With more confidence and forward.
You go to bed with your husband for 5 years and you cheat on him. What kind of upbringing do you give your child? These are the questions you need to ask yourself, not why your lover is not just yours.
And why don't you get a divorce? Or does it not grip you like most in your situation? Otherwise big claims, but you are pushing for sure!
Haha, I have feelings for you and 10 other women like you, I apologize for the expression (fools). You knew he was a womanizer. So what do you expect? Just as he dumped his wife, he will dump you too! I can't believe how stupid some women can be and ruin their lives, their future, their families, the well-being of their children. Where in the whole picture is your husband? Think about whether there is any small chance that you will return to him, whether he will accept you. There are many statistics that show how a child experiences divorce and a separate life for their children. There is even such a story on the site - it was said that I am not a child of divorced parents, something like that or it is not me. The family was created and its author does not like divorces at all. Think ... do you believe in God?
And for a wife - not a word! Well, let it hurt, you deserve it. For the record - I am a woman, married for 25 years. I wonder at the infidels, how do you manage to live like this, how do you go to bed, how do you look into your husband's eyes ?! And he is probably a decent, patient and kind lover. I rule out the option of not knowing, such a long relationship can not but come to light.
I totally agree with number 4 - this one will never give up on you unless you give up. That who is crazy to run away from the safe, you are always at hand, even if somewhere to smear his skis, even if they do not let him, having you will never be dry. Don't pay attention to the villains who tell you about your husband and child, they only envy you. Watch your life, enjoy the moments when the 40-year-old bachelor thought of you and let you go. Forget about the other women, they are some kind of time, they will turn their tails, they will take advantage of the kindness of your chosen one and when they find out what kind of product it is, they will smear his skis - then it will be your day or time, then it will be only yours ... until the next. But if you are faithful to him as before and after the next one you will be his alone again, it may be for a moment, but only you. Remember my word
You know, she's been cheating on her husband for 5 years, and she's sitting screaming for someone who doesn't shave her for anything ... female logic ...!
The woman writes that the man has invested feelings in their relationship! Hardly, human relationships are so simple, number 10! Sometimes it happens to men to put feelings into a relationship.
So that it doesn't hurt, stop seeing it. There are men who will give you what you want, why waste your time with this one?
Well, you're really fucked up. It seems that this person gives you something that you lack in life - thrill, passion, I know ... The only way out of the situation is to find another source of strong emotions, but not another person, but some activity, occupation, hobby. You are currently addicted to the emotion this person gives you and you feel trapped for it. But the moment you realize that you are looking for the thrill in your life, not necessarily the man in question, or any man, things will fall into place.