Hello everyone. Until recently I was with my friend and his friends, the time is 01:29 and at the moment I am so confused and desperate that sleep does not catch me and I have no idea how I will fall asleep. We have been together for 1 month now. For more than 1 year I was looking for and was waiting for a person who would truly love me and of course respect me. I always found the "right" one in handsome and muscular boys, but I never found it. So I decided to look for something real and found it. My friend is from another city and is neither handsome nor muscular, but he loves me really much. He tells me it and shows it to me every day. I also supposedly loved him a lot and I also showed him everything was fine until 6 days ago. I was on the beach for 1 day with my parents since then I got sick. We haven't stopped seeing him, but something has changed since then. I don't know what's going on, whether the initial love affair passed and I got used to it or I just don't have feelings for it anymore. When I'm here I don't even want to think about him, and at other times I say I like him. I also talked to my mother. She convinces me that I have feelings for him, but just falling in love and those really strong initial feelings are gone. I wish it were true, but I don't think I like it anymore. I don't think about him constantly as before, I don't write to him or call him, I don't want to kiss him, I forget to say I love you, which makes him very angry (I forgot again tonight), I look at other guys (and they in me), I write to other guys, I think what would it be like if I was with one of THEM even though I know I won't be better, but it still goes through my mind. Last night we were together with 2 of his friends, one of whom is a great friend. When he was there, my friend stayed in second place and I didn't pay much, much attention to him, but I tried to disguise the situation. Tonight he came again and just looked at me all the time, I tried not to pay attention to him and to focus on my friend as it should be. Today I was much colder with him than other times and he of course felt it and he asked me what's nice, I told him nothing, what to tell him, well, I don't know if I still have feelings for you. I also want to point out that I'm a virgin and I haven't slept with him yet, because he said he wasn't in a hurry, and now that I'm in this confused state I have no idea how I'm going to sleep with him and I don't even want to kiss him. Can anyone tell me if he had such a problem and if you think I really have no feelings for him anymore. I don't want to leave him, because I know that I will not find someone better than him and someone who loved her so much and then I will regret it, and at the same time I do not know how it will be with him as I do not even want to approach him. Give me advice on what to do and please don't spit on me because I really don't know what's going on with me and I want it fixed.
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You're fooling the boy, and you're fooling yourself. You better separate, I've been in such a situation, and the more time passes, the harder it becomes to end, and the other person clings even more than the fact that you are more withdrawn from him. But think about the fact that the option to "rediscover" it after you split up is not to be ruled out, but then it's more complicated.
You said it all started when you got sick. Maybe that's why. Apart from the fact that everything is grayer and nasty when a person is ill, there are diseases that have a hormonal effect. Even if that's not the case, wait a few days before beating the jester of the eventual "True". USA
So much drama in a month that ... You didn't find it. But obviously you don't want it and you want the "real" one, because after about 30 days with him, you are already looking at others. It's a little disgusting to me, but you know it. Let the boy find someone else, and you go back to those with the muscles. Just for comparison. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 7 months and my heart has never stopped beating before we see each other. I look at others, just to make sure I have the best.
I had almost the same problem a year ago. I left a boy who really loved me. Now I have a new friend who is completely different from the previous one, especially in appearance. We were very much in love and I flew with happiness. But things changed after a few months. him a lot of girls and I'm never sure about him and his feelings for me.It's awful.Now I started to feel sorry for the previous one.Now I miss his attention and all the little gestures he made for me. Think carefully about what you want! A person who really loves you or flirting with someone, like that friend of his who looked at you ?! another, clarify your feelings and most of all be smart !!!
I've been watching the story for a week and I'm sure that you've either left him or you're in love with his friend. I'm just wondering why you've been looking for someone like him for so long that you can't keep him. happy and always want something else. I hope I never fall in love with someone like you. God forbid ..
God, God ... why do I always ask such guys who don't appreciate what they have? I have had 3 relationships so far and they all started passionately and with strong emotions, but they also ended quickly. But I never felt that anyone truly loved me. I hope someday I'll have your luck .... let me tell you I'll fight for this man with teeth and nails. As казва5 says, just want to go out with the two of you, make an effort to keep him, don't be fooled by muscular bloated boys ... in life almost everything is fake. As №1 says, I hope you rediscover him, appreciate this boy and be happy with him. But still the choice is yours.
From the author: Thank you for all the comments and advice. Thank you №5 and №7 for the good advice you gave me, I will try to be smart!. Only now I see that my story has been published, I think they deleted it, but otherwise I visit my site regularly. Until №6: I haven't left my boyfriend, nor am I in love with the other, which I'm happy for. But I can't help but go out with them, because they are still friends of my friend, and this boy goes to Italy so..I am trying to regain my previous feelings and I think it is happening, albeit slowly, but I'm happy. I think I love him, too, as soon as I'm jealous of every second person who looks at him: D. Thanks to everyone again :)
I hope things get better with you, because I lost a real relationship because of such moments of confusion and I was very sorry. Think about it - if you break up and then see him with another, how will you feel? I'm sure you'll regret it because you don't get real feelings around every corner. Think about it - if he doesn't want to hug you, kiss you, say gentle words, how will you feel? Now think about how he feels when he sees that you don't want to kiss him? !! It is very important to feel that the other wants you .... otherwise everything loses meaning and disappears !! When he kisses and hugs you, look into his eyes and see the love in them, this love of his, which is all for you! Evaluate what you get. Make an effort to keep this person who obviously loves you very much. Embrace him, think at that moment what you have, what you gain and what you can lose ... This, that you are jealous of him shows that you do not want to lose him and you love him, that he is not indifferent to you. And I'm of the opinion that you should see each other more often. Especially now that you have such doubts in your feelings. You don't need anyone, you are enough to have fun and entertainment. I hope to help with my advice .. I hope everything will be fine between you .. make an effort not to regret like me ... then ..
I'm taking my hat off to you for the title - once I hear it like "I'm crazy, I don't know what I want" - well done! And many women not only understand this phrase and phase of confusion, but also admit it ...