Hi, I really don't know where to start, because my story is terribly confused, and I feel worse because I don't know what to do to escape my thoughts about this person. We met on the internet .. we were friends after which we started talking on skype, then I think, naturally and normally turned into liking, etc., it started with text messages and every day calls until we didn't see each other was so much wonderful and spontaneous just to note the boy is not from the city from which I live I am separated by nearly 150 kilometers, (which for me I think do not matter). So we had to see each other one day, but so spontaneously after months of writing we couldn't stand it and we saw each other the day before late in the evening before your scheduled meeting. Before that I had a pretty long relationship I adored my boyfriend we were together for 6 years, but I can't explain to myself this person I'm talking about now is something very inexplicable to me. When we saw each other, we had a great time, we only saw our pictures the first time we met, it felt like we were always together. THE SECOND WEEK came again, it was clear to me that it would be difficult because the distance ... the finances to see each other, I understand, but what bothers me now is that after these 2 times we started arguing constantly on Skype, scandals, quarrels, jealousies and so we started not talking, he stopped calling me and said so many beautiful words to me. Today is 8 months since I have not seen him except for our communication. which I say most often was a scandal + all the injuries he did to me. I can't explain why there isn't a day in which I can't help but think about what he did to me, it is abnormal for him to hurt me, and for me to think only about him, to look for him ... although I know that we will quarrel only and only to have contact with him, doesn't that lead to masochism ???? How can you feel a person so close from 2 meetings that you can't stop thinking about him. I tried with others it didn't work, I tried to talk to him, but whenever I tell him that he doesn't care, he runs away, hides, denies, etc. It so happened that the other day, and for the first time we spoke sincerely, I explained to him that what I wanted was just not to be deceived and to lie not to tell me that he cared about me, but not to find time to see me. He says he didn't have time to work, then I got angry because it's not normal for me. Have you come across this type of people and can anyone give me a meaningful answer as to why they are behaving this way. If it's just sex I asked him to tell me he denied because according to his words only for sex he wouldn't start the car and to come to me is yes, but when you want someone don't you find time for him ??? Yes, I understand that there is a lot of work, but I still can't explain this behavior and the worst thing is that I can't explain my behavior, how can I die to be jealous of him and go crazy about what this man did to me ? Help me explain why he does so I don't see a logical explanation I think it's sex, but I still don't see the logic to keep in touch with me as he's there I'm here, if it's just sex at the same time I can't find an excuse for the time , in which he says he's busy and finally asked me why I didn't go how to go myself after I wasn't invited. I will be grateful for any advice I am very desperate I think
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It's just like that, he was looking for fun, and you fell in love with him. He didn't want that and as soon as he felt it, he just decided to back off. I think the answer is obvious, you just don't want to accept it.
My story is 1 to 1 the same. I have no answer as to why I fell in love so much, but I decided to move on and opened my eyes that this man was not worth it. Now I go out with someone who is from my city and I feel much better. I found another activity before that, which is related to my future; this also helped me. Even now, when I look at him on this Skype and nonsense, he seems super pathetic. I do not deny that I still have a thrill, but I think it will pass soon. Keep going and don't screw up how much you're in love, etc. Look to the sides. Communicate with as many people as possible and so at some point you will forget it. I would be interested to read people's comments on this story because it is quite close to me.
Well - this is usually the case with internet acquaintances - I had a lot of them - chills, midnight chats, playful text messages, fiery meetings, bitter sections. I do not argue that many family relationships began on the Internet, but in most cases it only leads to short-lived experiences, followed by scandals and accusations, especially when there is a great spatial distance - two different people with different lives - a fleeting experience and end. To the author - end this useless relationship - if it brings you disappointments now, think about what would happen next. Life goes on - and maybe while you're digging into this problem, you don't see something real that is very close to you.
Well, to tell you the truth, I think this boy took you seriously ... you saw each other, you liked each other, but the distance separated you :) I'm telling you from personal experience ... accept his decision as correct and look for someone from my city ... good luck :)
Няма правила за тези неща.стават понякога и сериозни връзки-и бракове дори.има 1 но-обикновено тези връзки се развивакогато жената е с по-силен характер,по-злобничка...а мъжа по-шматка..нали разбираш..та знам 2 такива случая прераснали в брак..ама и в 2та случая мъжа е шматката :).аз съм имала същия случай...1-1 с твоя,,,,даже може да си попишем някога ако искаш :).та и моя случай така завърши....но не знампри теб как е накрая-при мен е много много обидно.... Смятам че тъй като бях в абсолютно съшата ситуация-ти казвам следното -И ЧЕТИ ВНИМАТЕЛНО: такава връзка може да продължава така още много дълго време-ще се убедиш сама...ще си на повикване и нищо няма да се промени никога.не си от неговия град-удобна си му -на повикване ше си-и винаги така ще се държи...пиши ако иска6-може да си обменим информация-но съветът ми е такъв-остави го,защото после горчилката е прекалено голяма,унижението също...казва ти го човек който е преживял абсолютно същото.
Thanks to everyone for the advice .. I try not to think it's easy, here we went out again yesterday and I overdid it with alcohol and called him to raise scandals about how many times I rubbed his number and blocked him from Skype and then the same thing again. How can I explain to you that this is quite strong so I haven't seen it for almost 9 months and the thrill and desire I feel for it are not completely inexplicable, I can't control my desire for it. Now I'm going out with another boy who was a friend of mine and he's looking for me every day. He wants us to go out to visit him and I slept with him to try not to think about the other one. But alas, I still think this drives me crazy. STUPID But I've tried since I haven't seen him with a few boys to go out and so on,