Hi, I'm a 16 year old boy and I really want to share something with you that bothers me so much. A year ago I met a girl with whom we left quickly but also quickly broke up. She tore me apart for the simple reason that I didn't pay enough attention to her and I had a hell of a hard time. I am an emotional person, sometimes I think of it as a positive thing, but now I hate that I have such a quality. We started writing to each other again in December, her birthday was on January 8th and I gave her a huge bouquet of roses as well as 52 cards with things I love in her ... but she didn't appreciate it ... February broke me when and I offered to give me a second chance ... now April 30 he wrote me that he wants us to start over and forget the old quarrels. I agreed ... we started writing to each other more often ... she started writing to me that she loves me more and more often. I invited her to my birthday (20. I have the feeling that she is playing me, just to get along with my friends who hated her when she cut me off .. she is already reconciled with them and now she has started again with her cold attitude towards me as before .... Tell me what to do, please, because something is really happening to me, I am constantly dreaming about it and thinking about it ... I am very much asking the moderators to share this story because it is really very important for me to hear the point of view of such competent people in this forum! Thank you! ; ( I am very much asking the moderators to share this story because it is really very important for me to hear the point of view of such competent people in this forum! Thank you! ; ( I am very much asking the moderators to share this story because it is really very important for me to hear the point of view of such competent people in this forum! Thank you! ; (
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No offense, but I think this girl is a bastard who doesn't know what she wants and just plays you. It's not worth wasting time with her, you will find a girl who will really appreciate you. Leave her and don't reconcile her with your friends anymore, they're right to hate her, I'm surprised you don't hate her.
At this stage, she still does not understand herself. And you want to understand her. Did you first try to tell her what you are telling us now and ask the source directly? Why so? But in general: You continue to treat her well. But you will not abandon your tasks. The more he lets you in, the kinder you will be. And when he pulls away from you. You also back away from her. But still do not cut off contact with her.
From the author: I realized the other day that she found me annoying, didn't she want more attention? I don't think I've gone too far with her personal space ... And now she's been ignoring me for 2 days, she doesn't write to me or call me to see the company .... Why is she like that .. I wanted to surprise her, I had bought tickets for the Champions League final and I wanted to take her, but after I started behaving like that .... I don't know what to do anymore ...
Drop it!
Of course you deserve a second chance! But you seem to have chosen the wrong girl. In general, she either doesn't really know what she wants or she just wants to play you. What could be the reason for this, we cannot say, but the result is there - you give everything for her, and what does she give you? Cold attitude and nonsense. When you really like a person, there is no room for such things, believe me. If she really wanted to be with you, she wouldn't poison you for 1 day you didn't answer her, raise scandals and dramatize you, she wouldn't be reserved, she would complain about you to your friends, she would always find an occasion to be angry and dissatisfied with something. This is a typical behavior for a girl seeking attention. Someone who wants you to follow her, take care of her and keep telling her how much you want her, and she can snap a finger, when she pleases, and you are hers. Or not ... just take advantage of you while he can. I think she's always been that way, you just understand it now. I don't see any girl who wouldn't appreciate the fact that you're sorry for your mistakes, that you're willing to fight for her, and you're actually doing your best to win her over. Your biggest mistake is that you thought of her as something she obviously isn't. Think about it, she doesn't even respect you enough to ask you why you didn't answer her, to ask how you are, what's going on with you, whether you don't have any problems ... she's just looking for an occasion to sulk and you to pray to her again and again. How long? !! I advise you to stop everything. Do not write to her, do not look for her, no gifts and surprises. These kind gestures should be directed at someone who will appreciate them, not make fun of them. Believe me, there are an awful lot of girls, who can only dream of a boy like you who is not afraid to show his feelings. Every day that you will harass her and try to bring her closer to you is a lost day. Realize you deserve something much better and more valuable.
Leave her this league, not to think that only you play like that. What's wrong with you boys today? Can't you like a modest sweet girl so much? !!