Здравейте! Влюбих се в приятел на съпруга си. Отначало не ми харесва6е изобщо, но след като той призна че ме обича всичко взе да се променя. До такава степен, че сега не мога ден без да го чуя, боли ме направо сърцето като не съм с него. Той е мъжкар. Преживял е много неща в живота и не умее да показва чувства и топлинка. А на мен това толкова ми липсва...Пример: Аз му звъня, а той не вдига. След 30 минути опитвам пак, Той вдига телефона и казва че тогава не е можел да говори. Казвам му че се държи студено с мен и ме лъже за любовта си. А той отговаря, че ме обичал и не бил свикнал да говори за това. Сега го няма и аз умирам направо. Всеки ден му звъня и си говорим. Но днес първо не ми вдигна, а после изведнъж телефона му изключен. Защо постъпва така, уж твърди че иска да е с мен, но когато навляза малко в личния му живот, примерно му кажа да не се напива с приятели всяка вечер или му кажа да ми се обади на другия ден, той се отдръпва. Много страдам хора, много...
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Why are you punishing yourself with such a person? He makes you a puppy and makes fun of you ... Were you worth it? And you're married, feel a little ashamed ...
Because, he does not experience what you experience and maybe he suffers more than you, which he cannot share. You need to be able to see his grief, not just share yours. Just because you need warmth doesn't mean you've come across the person who can give it to you. Maybe he saw you in a different light before, and now, already in love, you're not the same.
Look at your family and don't look away .. Excuse me for telling you, but you behave like a 13-year-old pickle ... on the one hand I justify you .. love has blinded you and you don't see obvious facts;)
You're married, ... ok. With this passion you betray your husband. And don't you think his friend's betrayal is greater. Maybe he's only now feeling where things are going. Maybe he was hoping to hit a wet rag in his face to make him realize what he was saying. But something went wrong, you responded to his feelings ... Now where? Think carefully about how far you are willing to go and whether it is worth it.
Are you crazy, what are you like? People, we live in the 21st century. What does it mean to be "ashamed. You're betraying your husband." I'm not his property. The girl needs support, not reproaches, and elderly and dissatisfied aunts. It's easiest to "shit" someone, you're like that, you're like that. It is written here to gain understanding and adequate advice. And not funny statements from the 18th century. To the author - I fully understand you, but do not cause yourself more suffering. Can't you talk to him openly. Ask the question - what does he want from you, and how far he intends to go in your relationship. Somewhere I understand that he reacts more sharply when you tell him not to get drunk with friends, men do not like to interfere with them for anything and do exactly what irritates us. Try to step away from it, just swap roles. You stay reserved, you don't pick up the phone, you turn it off. You know that the more you run, the more they run after you. Try it. I know it will be difficult for you. But set it as a goal and I think it will work. At least it worked for me. I wish you good luck and love. Write what happened and how things develop.
To number 5 from the author: Thank you very much for your kind words! You're right that some people can't understand women like me, but they should, because only I know what life is like. I continue to suffer for this man and I tell him almost every day that if he doesn't have real feelings for me, it's better to we share, but he does not want! He wanted to see me and he loved me. I'm beginning to understand that this is really his character. He doesn't like anyone to tell him anything. I will try to be more distant and may God help me to succeed!
it is the same with me, but I did not allow the feelings to prevail over the reason
Ha, sorry. but what kind of friend is this of your husband? Friends have no job with their wives. Apparently your husband has taken the wrong person as a friend. The poor man.
To number 9: Are you happy now? Isn't it better to listen to our heart sometimes?