Hello. I am 19 years old, a first year student. I know that the question of who is torturing me will seem absurd and hellishly funny, but, nevertheless, this is an anonymous site and that is why I want to share it. I am embarrassed by the fact that most people commit when they are still students and, accordingly, do not have the authority of people who have completed excellent or at least very good education. In my opinion, a person can feel the joy of having a boyfriend only after graduating, or even better if he has a doctorate (I will apply for the latter), because it has the authority of a scientist. Accordingly, the boyfriend has achieved these things, in case there is a difference in age. At least for me? Why don't others think that way?
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I'm embarrassed by individuals like you. How is it possible that someone is so blown away? F, 27
I am embarrassed by the fact that most people commit when they are still working and therefore do not have the authority of people who have money and who have seen what it is like to work all your life. In my opinion, a person can experience the joy of having a boyfriend only after he finishes work and collects money, or even better if he has worked 2-3 years after retirement age (I will try for the latter), because that is how he has authority. to a man who knows what he wants from life and has money. At least for me? Why don't others think that way?
This is absolute nonsense ... There are no such things "AFTER"! In life, everything must go PARALLEL! And learning, And boyfriends, And sports / hobbies, And even work, And ..., And ..., And ..., And ...! One does not learn relationships from one relationship, it is normal to have several failed ones until one learns. Or try several partners in a row until you finally meet the one that's right for you. But it seems to me that the problem with you is different - you have no experience or have any complexes / fears in this area, so you constantly procrastinate, justifying such stupid reasoning ... One does not learn from reasoning, but from action - from trial and error. I fell in love for the first time at the age of 15 (and even at the age of 10, but at that time I still didn't understand what it was all about). And what, I had to be 30, to confess to the girl? To learn to kiss? And one more thing I will tell you in silence - the more time you procrastinate, the more sharply the number of decent girls decreases, who are at the same time uninvolved in relation to someone! So stop the nonsense and fears, and find a boyfriend! It may itch, it may hurt, but you will learn! Otherwise you will forever remain a wooden philosopher and a virgin sexologist :)
By your logic, let me become a complete person (which will take some time - more than your doctorate;)) before I have a serious relationship where the world will go. No wonder why everyone else does it. The problem is in you, it remains for you to understand the reason. I can guide you slightly - you have a serious problem with self-esteem and confidence;) Look for the problem in your childhood and help, it's not scary. Good luck
Because both things are possible together. There is nothing stopping you from having a boyfriend and studying at the same time. High school students are a little more enthusiastic, they sometimes get distracted by the boyfriend, but students are already used to this thrill and manage to combine learning with love. It's all up to the person and his priorities. I'm a sophomore. I live with my boyfriend and I'm not the only one on the course. Some of my colleagues are already married. We all go to lectures regularly, take our exams and hand in our term papers within the specified period. Everyone enjoys their love when they meet it and it does not happen in a strictly defined period of time.
The topic written in this way sounds like a kind of provocation on the topic - those who get married sooner or later are losers, and those who get married later are intelligent. Apparently someone is trying to impose a new model on us because it cannot fit into society? I have many acquaintances who got married in the year they graduated and are very successful and have families and a good job ... This doctorate is an obstacle to finding a job outside a state institution, and it does not speak of authority at all. You will become like those mice where at university they are very open as teachers, but outside there are full mice. These are old bachelors and maidens.
When you get your doctorate, come and call me how many boyfriends you've been authoritatively. An idiot.
Right after you become a professor! And those with secondary and basic what to do?
In 4-5 years we expect the topic "Help, I'm 30 and I'm a virgin".
The only way! And when you become a Nobel laureate, you can get married.
Wow, your people have definitely tried to instill in you how extremely fundamental something higher is.
Strange thinking is definitely this. A boyfriend is caught when you meet something appropriate, not when you are no longer learning anything. Well, you really won't have that much time, but still be careful not to miss the train
It's even better to wait for your professorship to pass and then look for a boyfriend. It will be even more authoritative if you become an academic and find a young academic, about 65-70 years old. And others don't think like you because they're not that brilliant. I will wait with interest for your next topic "At the age of 50 and without experience with women, help."
This is your choice and others must respect it, just as you must respect their choice. And that with falling in love and commitment sometimes just happens. If you now met the coolest and sweetest girl with the same enthusiasm and love for knowledge and learning at university, would you drop her and give someone else a chance to take her until you finish your doctorate?
You think differently from the others, but you are still too young and have no life experience. I will try to explain to you where you are wrong. First, university education is sometimes necessary, but never a sufficient condition for success in life. Much more important are the traits of character and emotional and volitional qualities, and they are not acquired with a diploma. You may be a great technical specialist, but if you don't want to take risks and deal with organizational problems, you can't become an entrepreneur or a manager, and someone with a lower education degree than you can do it, become your boss. and to determine your salary, and then you will complain on the forums about what simplicity reigns in BG and how no one appreciates the educated staff. Who do you think the boyfriends will attack more? Second, this with a doctorate is complete nonsense. I had the opportunity if I wanted to start a doctorate in Germany and even for a moment I did not consider it a good alternative. Doctoral studies are currently a mass and very low-paid profession for laborers who will do the routine work of their professors, ie to have publications in order to have a budget. Most doctoral students are left with only a doctorate, which means that they have wasted 5-6 years of their lives in a low-paid position for one title, which does not guarantee them anything in the labor market. The big trick in a scientific career is to become a professor, but for that, apart from purely academic achievements, the same qualities are required as for a leader or a politician - to be able to contact the right people and attract them to your side, because otherwise no one will support and you will remain a technical genius in the closet. That's what a man of high intelligence tells you, who at one time also thought that with his education he would secure social superiority. Later I realized that I was the ninth hole in the flute. So my advice is to drop your prejudices and focus on your boyfriends as soon as possible.
Is that what your mom told you?
See what ordinary people do - they get married first at the age of 18-19. and then whatever came ...
When a person is in love, he does not think about how old he is or whether he has completed a doctorate. The feeling and happiness of being shared in love is incomparable to anything else in the world. This is a gift of destiny, it does not happen according to a pre-prepared plan and schedule, nor at will!
I'll tell you right away why the others don't think so. Because being a professor is prestigious only among a group of conservative uncles who are so far from reality that they become the total anti-social jerks that society has to endure. There is an exception, of course, but the exceptions professors do not crack with their title. Everyone needs some kind of identity. Some are looking to take the perfect selfie in the bathroom, others are metal, still others are trying to change the world by convincing people of veganism ... and there is one breed that learns for life. Image is a bad thing, especially if it has crossed extreme boundaries. Try to be somewhere in the middle and stop planning your life.
They do not think so, because when they fall in love they want to be with the man of the heart here and now. Nothing else matters. You obviously did not fall in love and did not enjoy shared love. I wish you soon
Apparently you haven't fallen in love so far, so you think you can arrange your personal and professional. I advise you, if love appears on your horizon, not to hinder it because of your philosophies, but to let it happen. Because a scientific title is simply hollow if its holder has no value in itself. And personal qualities develop through personal life, not professional life. The early creation of a family and its preservation speak well of the personality. It is no coincidence that political candidates are mostly "married, with children", which shows their stability and sound principles.