Hi, I need advice because I'm in a pretty miserable condition and I'm going crazy. I was not lucky enough to be a parent, my childhood did NOT go very well. My father was not present for most of my life, which affected my self-esteem. I didn't have any friends at school, which helped me have difficulty communicating with people. For years I only heard: "you are not good for anything", "see your brother and see yourself". My mother constantly compares me to my brother, and she always condemns me. I'll be 21 soon and if it doesn't change I really don't know what I'll do in the future, I don't even see one. The fact that I haven't had a girlfriend so far and I haven't made my set complicates me even more. Things still don't work out. I try many times to find a job and get away from us, but when I go to an interview and they always tell me: "We'll call you ..." and everything stays there. I'm just throwing money to the wind for the trip to Sofia, I've already run out of money, literally. I need help, I need a psychologist, but I can't afford it, that's why I'm writing here, hoping to get some guidance. I can't believe how nothing good has happened in my life in 20 years, I'm just sorry I was born.
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Dude, I don't know where you're from, but there's as much work in the country as you want. It is difficult to find in Sofia, there are too many candidates there. In the countryside it is the opposite. Well, mostly in the larger (district) cities I mean.
Read the tale of trouble. There is no one else to help you, you have to fix yourself in life. If you can't do only one thing, you can look for the cause outside of you, but if everything doesn't work out for you, the reason is only in you. Become more confident and call for trouble, it will help you, but as in the fairy tale, ie. with your strength!
My mother also used this extremely wrong approach to stimulate you by comparing you to another. Talk to her, if she is understood, she can stop. Mine would not accept any criticism, but I am already big, I have a family and I keep my mother aside and one of the reasons is the rude behavior. Tell her that with these words she discourages and complexes you, makes you indecisive and timid, and maybe she will. you remain complexes going forward. Tell him that too and tell her if she likes to stop you. But to know that she loves you, but still may not stop, and my mother did not stop with criticism and guidance, even though she is now a grandmother and I am a big woman with a family, struggling quite successfully with life. For the job I will advise you to look for a job through acquaintances, not only through the Internet.