Hello, I am 31 years old and I am married to several. We have been trying for a baby for almost 2 years, but apart from the fact that it does not work, a problem constantly appears, which further distances me from the dream of a baby. I have two younger sisters who are not married but live with their friends and have children. My relatives don't understand me and I even get insults for being selfish and obviously I don't want children if I don't have them yet. And my husband and I go to checkups non-stop. Not only that, but all sorts of people put their noses in our things with stupid questions "What are you waiting for", "When are you ???", "Why did you get married and you don't have children", I have the feeling that I live among idiots. However, my main problem is that I am constantly getting sick. It just reinforces one, another comes. I already have thyroid disease, which is difficult to bring to decent levels. I'm treating an allergy now, bacteria and cystitis. I was told at least 2-3 months of treatment, and until recently I was treated differently :( Yesterday I had an appointment for a reproductive clinic (the 3rd we were going to visit), instead I went to a nephrologist :( I feel desperate now, is it just me ?
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I hate such insolent reptiles the most - they can't see beyond their noses and think that once you find a mate, the child automatically falls from the sky. They don't care if you don't have a health / financial problem or just don't want children. I am one of those who do not want to create a generation, I have decided that this is good for me and I consider my comfort the most important, so I do not pay attention to other people's grunts and expectations. I answer rudely, sharply and impudently, they become uncomfortable and do not raise the issue a second time. It's probably a lot harder for you, because you want to, you try, but you don't succeed, and impudence doesn't stop pouring oil on the fire. Such people do not understand explanations, and you are not obliged to give them an account. The more you defend yourself in front of them, the more fiercely they will impose their opinion and claims on your body. If you tell them that you cannot have children, behind your back they will call you barren, inferior and crippled. Fixing such vultures is the direct and rude approach. They need to understand that you are stronger than them and they have no right to jump on your head. You sniff them if you have to, and get on with it, but right now, they're the last thing you need. A child is not made with nerves and rage. They are a tumor that you need to cut to help your personal recovery and the creation of a child. Do it for your own good, for the sake of your marriage, because these problems are certainly reflected, and for the sake of your future child. These people are a poison you don't need now or ever. They look at you as an incubator whose human value is measured in how much you can give birth to. Know that a woman has not been measured by this criterion for a long time. Separately think about what individuals your environment consists of and whether it is worth maintaining a relationship with them. Even my mother, who is from the old and conservative generation, never allowed herself to insult, criticize and ridicule her friends, who for one reason or another failed to start a family. Think very well about this, about your values as a person and what these "relatives" of yours have. Success!
You are right that you live among fools. Why don't you shoot them with the truth next time? When they ask why you don't have a baby, say "because it doesn't work, I'm being treated". It will be super uncomfortable for the questioners, they will not raise the issue anymore. You have nothing to be ashamed of. In order to get pregnant and to be healthy in general, you must be calm and in a good mood. If you achieve this, the rest will also be fine. Success! Alpha, w. 29 years old
You're right, you live among idiots. And it's not just you. Things will happen on their own when the time comes. The more you think about it, the more you will look for guilt in yourself.
No, honey, it's not just you. This is the case with anyone who is treated with allopathic medicine for a long time.
Unfortunately, some people wait for years. It doesn't have to be a fixed idea, treat what you need. Don't think about it, it will happen, eat healthy, exercise ...
Start exercising and eating healthy. Don't care what others tell you - at 31 it's perfectly normal for the next generation not to have a child. The women around me give birth after 35. Being married means you love me and you want to spend your life together, not that you want a child. I would slam the door on your ordinary relatives and not communicate with them. You have to have a child when you are ready, not you. They are very tactless - don't they remember that there may be a problem and it is completely unnecessary to pour salt into the wound? If everyone makes comments to you, then you allow them to. The next time someone throws something like that, just order it - what are you to tell me, who was you, remind me, I'll have when I want, look at yourself, etc. I'm very annoyed by those who interfere where they don't. work and I don't bother them at all. Regarding the pregnancy itself, a colleague couldn't either. He struggles for about 2 years. Eventually she became pregnant and it turned out that her ovulation occurred 2 days earlier than expected and they did it on the wrong day. My friend couldn't either - she had an ovarian cyst (she's on hormones). He is recovering and now has a 1-year-old child. The reasons are many - where physiological, where mental. People around you cause you stress, so either teach them to keep quiet about this topic by cutting, or fuck them and stay away from them. I wish you luck. Surround yourself with people who love and understand you, if this is only your husband :), He is recovering and now has a 1-year-old child. The reasons are many - where physiological, where mental. People around you cause you stress, so either teach them to keep quiet about this topic by cutting, or fuck them and stay away from them. I wish you luck. Surround yourself with people who love and understand you, if this is only your husband :), He is recovering and now has a 1-year-old child. The reasons are many - where physiological, where mental. People around you cause you stress, so either teach them to keep quiet about this topic by cutting, or fuck them and stay away from them. I wish you luck. Surround yourself with people who love and understand you, if this is only your husband :),
You have a problem and it is healthy with ethno-social manifestation. You have kidney disease that will not allow you to get pregnant. In turn, they are sick due to a problem in the gastrointestinal tract. If you are still artificially inseminated without healing your kidneys, you will pass the disease on to your offspring. Especially if the fetus is female, you almost guarantee him the same nightmares in the future, to complete infertility.
I have been married for 7 years, we didn't have children because of other problems, everyone asked me and tossed me without knowing what we were going through. Unfortunately, this is the Bulgarian mentality, just shut their mouths and try not to get angry. I got pregnant when I calmed down, everything will happen when it's time