I have been married for 2 years. I am 25 years old and I am very confused! A lot has happened in the last 2 years, but the most ... how to say maybe "weird" was that lately my father-in-law likes me. My husband and I live with his parents and mine in a huge house. Once I was coming home from work and I was just taking my iPhone out of my bag and dropping some documents, and at that moment my father-in-law was coming to me, he helped me and while we were standing I looked into his eyes. Then he touched my hand and I got nervous, worried. And so for days and weeks I realized that I was in love with him. I know it sounds like a movie, but it's not, even though I wish it was. I see it every day and the butterflies fly in my stomach as in the first love. I don't know what to do, I can't tell him, but this secret is killing me. I don't love my husband anymore, because I am ashamed. I'm jealous when I see my father-in-law and my damn mother-in-law holding hands! He is 44 years old. Do I have to tell the truth?
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Author, every miracle in 3 days! It is normal to like your father-in-law - look for some literature on psychology or go to a psychoanalyst yourself ... where many things will become clear to you - look for information about the so-called "Oedipus complex" in women or more correctly - Electra Complex. There is a lot of literature on the subject - Look for classics like Freud and many things will become clear to you Otherwise - it is very important to ask your husband to live independently. You are not in love with your father-in-law - calm down. Seek a psychologist and things will become clear to you !!!
so ... hello sweet girl. what I want to tell you is that nowadays love can only be found in its immaculate form in thick books and old photos, so by no means do you worry that you have felt it. yes, it's a little weird really, but is it weirder than love between two men or two women or even three !! you are in love with your husband's father, and is he in love with you? but the fact that you are jealous of his wife and no longer sleep with your husband speaks volumes about the depth of your feelings. Personally, I advise you not to worry about what is happening, just make sure that it is not something temporary and impermanent and if it turns out that everything is as it should be, check if it is mutual. if he loves you as a woman too - I don't see brakes for you to be together. but, I want to tell you one more thing - your difference will be more than 20 years. now you are 20 he is 40 and everything is fine, but in 20 years things will be different. very often the exact age difference is the main reason for the end of a love. but people are different, darling, it's a matter of perception. so my advice to you is the following - if this is really love and you are ready to endure all the criticism and negativity from people - do not wait for anything but experience it. still better 5 years lived with love than 30 with tolerance. I believe in love!!! good luck and write what you decided so my advice to you is the following - if this is really love and you are ready to endure all the criticism and negativity from people - do not wait for anything but experience it. still better 5 years lived with love than 30 with tolerance. I believe in love!!! good luck and write what you decided so my advice to you is the following - if this is really love and you are ready to endure all the criticism and negativity from people - do not wait for anything but experience it. still better 5 years lived with love than 30 with tolerance. I believe in love!!! good luck and write what you decided
I think it's a fictional story. Under one roof to live a family and their parents on both sides. At least I don't know of such a case.
You have to have the courage if you are really an earl in your father-in-law! My advice is to tell him I'm going to kill my mother-in-law!
Yes, and for me it is very strange for you and his homeland to live under one roof, but I know it is probably possible. What is this love with such an old man, in my opinion it is not love, but you want to have sex with him. If you want him so much, are you sure he wants you too? How do you imagine living with his son and doing something with his father? I think it's best if you don't like your current husband to leave him and go live alone elsewhere, but it's supposed that if you want to move out, your whole family should move out, I don't know how things are. And only then can you find out if something can happen between you. I doubt the man will leave his wife for you, at most to become his mistress, and here the question is whether it will be worth it? If I were you, I wouldn't take anything, but you know.
I doubt you're in love with him ... it just turns you on and there's probably chemistry between you. You like him as a man, you obviously like older people, normally. But don't be silly and don't forget that he is your husband's father ... This is not a movie, as you say. It would be great if you could have a secret relationship and sleep when you want, but even in the movies, lies always come to light. So ... try to control yourself. And he may not even suspect your dirty thoughts ... and be disgusted by the thought of sleeping with his son's wife!
What is so strange about you that everyone lives together? They can live in a house. At least I have acquaintances who are also ...
Haha, and what is this father-in-law with whom you are only 19 years apart? How old is your husband?
I liked my ex-boyfriend's father too, and I felt the same way you did. Now that I think about it, I loved his father more, and one day sooner or later, if we hadn't separated, I would have slept with his father. Otherwise I am a very modest girl but some things do not depend on us.
How will an old man be 44 years old, that's enough ... At this age a man can radiate masculinity / sex appeal, security and stability even much more than 20 years. youth. What it is is individual, to the person. And I like my father-in-law - magnetic, charismatic, stable, accurate, radiating a specific charm as a man and a man. But just like that, come on ... I wouldn't cross the line of decency. This is not .... But I prefer my husband-son, his copy .... and sequel. I'm glad I have the chance to be part of their great family.
Of course not ... you're silent and that's it