Hello! I would very much like to read what you think about the following situation: I fell in love with a friend of my husband. He is from another country / Latvia / and came to visit us. As we walked with him in the park (while my husband was at work) I felt truly happier than ever. Then we went to visit him. The first week after we returned, I was unconscious ... my husband noticed this and in a drunken state called his friend and told him that I had fallen in love with him. I have problems with my husband - domestic violence, he broke my nose ... when he is sober he is very caring and helps at home. But I don't love him anymore and I think a lot about this blue-eyed friend of his. And he told my husband that he liked me very much. We have two children and only because of them I have not expelled my current husband so far. My house is in my name, but somehow I can't deprive my children of a father. It is very painful for me ... for the first time in my life I feel so good and at peace with someone - when I communicate with the friend in question. I miss. Thanks to everyone who will answer me!
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Women like you are always attracted to bullies. If he is a friend of your husband, don't you think that they are the same type of men, with the same thinking and behavior - that's why they are friends ... Therefore, if they are friends over a cup, it is most likely that this Latvian gets drunk to beat a woman you are. Break away from this vicious circle and either find a decent man or look after your children. Don't think that they are happy to watch their father break their mother's nose ...
She immediately broke up with her husband. How long will you let him beat you? And it's terribly stupid to stay with a bully because of the kids. He may start beating them someday. And as you get older, you will regret wasting your life with him and you will blame your children for it.
Talk to your husband and let him be a part of your life and have fun all three and you will refresh your relationship or divorce if he beats you and sues him, and then does what you want
Very strange? !! Violence is not a reason for you to expel your husband, but now you are in love, and he told your husband that he likes you ... I wonder how your boyfriend reacted? I detected your comments, is your keyboard Russian? .
From the author: I am 43 and my friend is 37 and he is single. Only that he is a religious person, does not drink or smoke. My husband told me that we got married as we wanted ... but they are FRIENDS!
From the author: He doesn't drink anymore - only it is not known how long. And I live with him, because there is no one to look after the children while I work, there is no one to leave them with - there are no relatives nearby ...
Clearly, before you let go of one branch, you want to catch the other. Shame on you? !!
Number 3, what advice, no wonder you're a bully, with interesting ideas about life. Otherwise, about your husband's boyfriend, I have no idea if it's the right choice. In general, one should look at things soberly, with reason and not with love thrills. The main problem I see here is that your husband is a bully, and whether or not you fell in love with his friend does not play a major role in the situation. In my opinion, the first thing you need to do is break up with your husband. The most sensible thing to do is to focus on your children, you are still a mature woman. Think about the example they set in life, their father beating their mother. It will inevitably affect the upbringing, development and perception of a healthy family. I am sure that it is extremely difficult for a child to see this at home. It's just not a good example. You are a woman and you must have dignity, self-sufficiency instinct, you can't let someone crush you. If you do not receive the necessary respect now, then in time you will not receive it from your children, following the example from home. If your house is yours, this father of theirs throws it away. And look after your children. Otherwise, that Latvian, don't trust him blindly. Do not know him. I fully support the comment on number 1 that it is probably the type of men like your husband. Because there's a saying, "Tell me who your friends are so I can tell you who you are." F 22 that he's probably the type of man like your husband. Because there's a saying, "Tell me who your friends are so I can tell you who you are." F 22 that he's probably the type of man like your husband. Because there's a saying, "Tell me who your friends are so I can tell you who you are." F 22