Hi, let's start from the beginning. G. I am 21 years old and I have a boyfriend of 1 year, (he is as big as me) my problem is that I am terribly jealous of his ex-girlfriend. I recently saw him add her to a friend list. As far as I know, they broke up because she cheated on him. They met for the second time and after a while she was a jerk to him, with the excuse (they were not for each other). She tells me that they broke up in a very ugly way, that he insulted her and so on. They haven't written to each other for a long time, but I expect that soon. He tells me that he will never love another as much as he loved her. This hurt me a lot. I made a mistake, recently took his phone to read everything they wrote and sent. I saw no argument, no insult, nothing. I just saw how pathetic he is and how he explains himself to her in love and that he will never stop loving her. Because of this mistake, I started posting her profiles everywhere and trying to look like her. I'm sick, I'm sick of playing the role of a second violin. I feel disgusting. It hurts me to know that he doesn't love me as much as he loved her. And I do everything for him. I bought him a car, a guitar and what not. I look at it like a painted egg. I do my housework, I get a good salary (more than that), attention, love, and yet I don't get that attention and love that she received. I don't know how to feel and what to do, I don't know if he loves me or just uses me to forget her. Any advice will be helpful. Thank you! that he doesn't love me as much as he loved her. And I do everything for him. I bought him a car, a guitar and what not. I look at it like a painted egg. I do my housework, I get a good salary (more than that), attention, love, and yet I don't get that attention and love that she received. I don't know how to feel and what to do, I don't know if he loves me or just uses me to forget her. Any advice will be helpful. Thank you! that he doesn't love me as much as he loved her. And I do everything for him. I bought him a car, a guitar and what not. I look at it like a painted egg. I do my housework, I get a good salary (more than that), attention, love, and yet I don't get that attention and love that she received. I don't know how to feel and what to do, I don't know if he loves me or just uses me to forget her. Any advice will be helpful. Thank you! Any advice will be helpful. Thank you! Any advice will be helpful. Thank you!
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He uses you to forget her and tries to move on, but almost all people do. Don't try to look like her, he doesn't want a copy of her, she hurt him after all. I am 34 years old, an experienced woman, so if you want the boy so much, be what he wants, in the sense do not copy her, but deepen to like your boy, over time, the memory of her will fade and hit your class, of course, if you care about the boy de :) My husband was engaged before he met me and had said that he would never propose marriage to another woman, but here he not only proposed to me, but also married about me :)
Apparently she is his first and only love and he will never stop loving her, nor will anyone be able to replace her. No matter how much you please him, it is in vain. And the stars to take off his love is not bought. Leave him and seek your fortune elsewhere.
A man or woman who talks non-stop about his ex has not overcome his separation and feelings. Go directly to them! I was already sipping this potpourri and roaring like a dog. You can't start a new relationship and explain to your ex how much you are in love with her while there is another person in your life who loves you and you hurt him. Ah, you bought him a car ?! Oh my God !!!! To go to his ex and not let her buy him a car, a guitar and I don't know what else there - an absolute fool!
And they keep hinting that the women were gold diggers and exploiters. HaHAHAHAHAHaHaHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Otherwise I do not see what else there ... looking at the misunderstanding male.
Send him to her. You have his body, she has his mind and heart. You are redundant.
Okay, how many teams are you going to play !?
It is a sign of bad manners to talk about your past relationships. Apparently he hasn't overcome her yet, and you are tormented because you love him, but then why is he with you and explains himself in love with her? Do not understand it. Talk openly with him. Let him decide what he wants, give him time if you think you have a future. But in general, the past must remain in the past. You cannot build a new relationship while your mind and heart are still in the old one.
from the author ... you're all right, I'm a big fool that I tied myself to his nonsense .. I will endure it a little longer and in the end I will lose it .. No matter how sad and nasty I am, I do not wish anyone so unconscious at the time unrequited love. I love him very much and it will always be so, but I will give a real man a chance to appreciate me as I am.
He uses you to forget her. You are his so-called rebound, the connection that is after separation. They are always unsuccessful, because if he talks about her, writes to her, then he is still in his thoughts. You may be great, but he's deluding himself right now about how good he is. If he writes nice things to her, he is even his friend, things are clear. I also had ex-boyfriends who write me nice things and have a girlfriend. Even one in his profile picture was with her, hugged and in love with the world. But he wrote to me and rang at night. That she was jealous. You have this man's body, his outer shell. She has a mind and a heart.
You have spoiled him, he takes you for granted already, that's why he allows himself that. My case is different, but I also spoiled my ex-boyfriend a lot. I bought him clothes, phones, whatever he wanted, because at one point he started to have claims. He began to impose himself naturally, he subdued me, he began to have self-confidence that I would never leave him, etc. While we were together, he dizzy the heads of 5 girls. After the relationship I realized that they were much more than 5. My mother has a story - Tear the cat's head and throw it to the ground in the beginning. This is true here in full force. It has climbed on your head and will not come down from there. Either you treat him a little harsher and stop supporting him, or you leave. Otherwise, the relationship has no prospects. And you will draw your own conclusions as to why he is with you, having cut the money on your part.
Such gestures are NOT made to a man - cars, excessive pampering and the like. The man must know his role and feel like one. Never open up and give away so much, because you quickly become uninteresting. Men love it when you disobey and don't always agree. Some may deny it, but it is so. Even if you lose the current one, you have to learn a lesson, because next time you will attract this type of person. Pay more attention to yourself and your self-confidence - beautify yourself, read, practice your hobbies. Yes, it's good to cook for your husband, but not to become his slave - to clean him all day, to wash him, and he does nothing. At some point, everyone gets bored. Don't belittle yourself, you deserve much more.
I thought that only I had a problem with my ex's ex. :) With the difference that my handsome man flirted openly with other women on the Internet. He caressed his ego and insecurity. Now I'm sorry, but I'm moving on.