Hello! My site is very interesting, because sometimes in different stories I see in each of them a part of myself. And so I have a problem and I'm looking for advice. I am 23 years old and I have a friend from about 6 years old. We love each other a lot. We did not cheat on each other (neither did I, and he did not give me a significant reason to think so). At the beginning of our relationship he was very jealous (soft said), which separated us, albeit briefly, because then we reunited. Then our relationship changed, he stopped being jealous, and our love grew stronger and more. My problem, however, is that in the last 2 years I started to be very jealous of him for no reason, without giving me a reason. I cannot explain to myself why I feel such strong jealousy. My father has always been painfully jealous, I have witnessed many ugly scenes of jealousy between my parents. I don't know if that's the reason anymore. My friend and I don't want to be like that and at the moment I'm trying to overcome it, but when a friend or colleague talks to me, I start thinking nonsense and being jealous. Jealousy bothers me and my relationship a lot. Please give me advice? Thanks to everyone who spoke about my story.
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Look, now, this jealousy is a terrible thing, I just don't see why you don't have a reason why you got this disease ??? IF YOU DON'T WANT TO LOSE IT, just overcome it, because it's only a matter of time before he gets tired of it and loses it. CLEAR ??? You decide in the end, but don't be stunned by it, be real, if you were harassed like that, you wouldn't last even 1 hour, so dare her !!!
HELLO! The comment above is very accurate that jealousy is a disease. If you haven't got there yet, get rid of it in time .... From personal experience I will tell you that if you are not jealous then you do not love enough but still there must be a limit .. ..... Some time ago I loved and at the same time I was jealous but not now. But now there is no one to love .. but this is another story ..... And I love one person but he is very distant for me at the moment, ie .he may not know that I still love him but I am like that and I can't admit it to him ... and this man is very jealous of him of all the girls .And I, like you, when I see him talking to someone, I just like him I imagine how he falls in love with her ........ And the man I live with and have had for so many years as a man next to me, I'm not jealous of him - and I think that means I don't love him ........ SUCCESS FIGHT AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE WITH THIS DISEASE AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
Maybe you are afraid that others are better than you? Be confident and you will overcome this stage. Learn to live for the moment. These are just unnecessary complications. If necessary, find some other activities that engage your mind. I have been married for 11 years and I am almost not jealous. I'm not saying it didn't go through my head at all, but I'm trying my best to get it out of there because it gives me unnecessary headaches and I can't focus on the really important things.
And I think if you're jealous of him, then you love him. If your jealousy starts to bother him, I think you should tell him exactly that - jealousy is caused by deep feelings towards a person and it is not dangerous until he starts to express himself in actions. There is no need for scenes. Be jealous of him, but keep quiet and do no nonsense. :)
I know what jealousy is and my friend is terribly jealous. Sometimes I can't recognize him. I was already powerless. But I love him very much. I can not live without him. I don't know what advice to give you. But don't overdo it.
Think about the fact that if he does something with someone else it's not even worth jealous of him .. And I go crazy that maybe the ex was better or someone else is more beautiful and I'm jealous, but if she's with me I have to I stop showing my weaknesses and rejoice that I am standing next to him ... I must forget this jealousy that really hinders and makes scandals for no reason and repulses and loses love ....
Jealousy is a bad thing, in this way you show weakness and naivety, as if you admit your weakness. If you are together for so long, then he sticks to you and loves you. I think there is no point in being jealous :)
Like you, I have the same problem and I try not to pay attention.
Number 8, please do not put after Z and the letter T, it becomes very crowded.
Number 9, please do not write prItrupano, it is written with E :)
If you only know how much your story comes close to mine ... I just want to tell you that "A man is not jealous only when he loves, but also when he wants to be loved!" In my opinion, you are not the only one to blame for this jealousy. that you are experiencing, maybe he is obviously not trying to help you overcome it and to minimize the reasons for it ... I want to overcome this "disease" and I try to look for the guilt first in me and yet My advice is to share with him about your problem and ask him for support.
Hello! I am also very jealous of my friend ...: x I am jealous of him even from the smallest thing. I get annoyed when he goes with a friend of his for coffee in another city in the sense that we are not in the same city with him and that is why I am so jealous of him because of what he does all day when I'm not with him ...; (As some is a disease that sooner or later pleases our partner ... but when we can not avoid it ...: S there may be a way but at least those who are jealous can not find it ... Everyone interprets jealousy differently Some people think that the one who does not trust his partner is jealous, others say that those who love are jealous, others that the one who is not sure that he owns his partner is jealous ... there are many options but I think only one is TRUE ...
if jealous people feel loved enough on the other side and get a lot of attention, I think they will forget about jealousy.
JEALOUSY IS A LOSS OF NERVES! IF HE HAS DECIDED TO CHEAT, GO HIM! With this thought I reduce my jealousy, because I am also quite jealous, but I manage to control myself fortunately.
Everyone can cheat, even when we least believe it is possible! But is this the most important thing! To stand on the forums and to whine and ask, don't we have so much to fill our lives with that the life of the person next to us becomes the center of the universe. Let's rummage through phones and wonder ... There's not that much time to waste. Repeat to yourself "I am unique" And you will see that with each passing day, he will wonder much more than you, with what he deserved you! Good luck to everyone!
Number 16 you are absolutely right. I am suffering a lot at the moment because I broke up with my boyfriend because of his jealousy. It's very dumb because there is love, feelings and we really love each other, but the constant limit is writing. I don't want you to see him, you've done something with him before. I was afraid to see a familiar boy on the street. He goes where he wants, and I always have to comply. Not fair. Jealousy kills a relationship.
let me tell you, I am also very jealous of my friend, but agree, great jealousy can be a disease, but very often it is justified. when you love someone very much and he or she is so contactable and playful with others, how can you not be jealous. for example, tonight someone congratulated my friend's name day, wrote an SMS - 4estit name day, and the number is unknown. he said he didn't know who it was, I called with hidden numbers, but no one picked me up, I'm crazy I know, but I'm trying to explain that. maybe there is a reason.
you have no idea what things human consciousness does. from the elephant fly. it's all in your head. try not to think every second about your partner and you will be better.
You are jealous because you love him. Learn to control yourself, because love breeds jealousy, but jealousy does not breed love. ;) Good luck. PS for a man if he is not jealous, then he does not love. 100%
Hello! I am very jealous of my friend, we have been together for 6 months, he has proved to me many times that he loves me very much, but I continue to be jealous of him, I am ashamed not to lose him. please help me i don't know what to do.
Well done, number 16, you said it right! That's right, we women need to repeat to ourselves every day that we are unique, not to waste time in life in jealousy and ruin ourselves, while they, men, don't care at all what we experience. They even flatter us from our scenes and consider themselves unique. And I'm jealous, I try not to show it and I felt very stupid in moments when I betrayed myself. One must have dignity! No man should know that you can't live without him! He will immediately stop respecting you.
So darling, I'm like that too, I'm a boy and I'm very jealous of him, even from his friends, but it's just not worth it because I was jealous and finally he told me I'm tired already and what happened then ... And then I told him to start from the beginning it made sense to put a new dish to cook because one dish you warmed it up and really in the end and then you heat it again but it's not the same taste of food I'm jealous of it again but it turns out I'm not jealous because I don't want to break and so on if you love him you will stop being jealous of him you may be sick but it will pass and I was so I was very jealous of you but I saw how far he would go and I stopped I am not jealous of him very much even very little :) there is always an open door to stop to be jealous of him is jealous and then you lose a corner you will say to yourself why I didn't stop being jealous of him :) and so
And I'm VERY jealous: (((My husband doesn't look at girls on the street, but I constantly catch him looking at naked women on some sites and I get very angry ...; (
I think I have this problem too ... I'm just going crazy !!!
Hello, I'm very jealous even if he just says hello to an acquaintance, but with that I realized that I have to trust him more, that's why you trust him too :)
I'm also very jealous of my friends but he is not jealous very much washes sucks every day I cry I feel terrible