Lonely, without friends, I sit alone at the computer every day and watch matches. At 31, with a good and stable job, salary, with a girlfriend I don't know what to do with. I don't do anything else, not because I don't want to, but because I can't find a hobby ... I've been closed in on myself for many years, firstly, because until one moment the people I dated stayed on the same level and continued with drugs, then, because I graduated and did not remain friends with any colleague, my grandmother died, and after her I stayed for a long time without a job, alone at home again. It's clear I'm depressed, but I don't know how to get out. Professionally I feel confident and strong because I know and I can, but personally I am a complete 0. I just share, hoping to find a way out after I write it ...
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I am without a job and without a wife hahaha. Go on vacations and excursions and enjoy
"because I can't find a hobby ..." - the hobby is not sought, it just emerges in you. Do what you like best! You say you have a girlfriend, pay attention to the definition - FRIEND !? Having a girlfriend means a pleasant activity, what else do you need if you have a nice person next to you. It turns out that young people are smart, but without logical thinking, they do not know how to use their knowledge. What better hobby do you want besides spending time with a loved one? Go on excursions and everything will be fine!
Yes, I have your problems. Seriously. Give them to me and take mine.
Watch your girlfriend and career and know from me that there are no 2 good people in life. Try to keep what you have so that you do not regret it afterwards. As friends of those years, I can hardly tell you that you will be able to find it, especially in our vicious and divided society. Something needs to connect you, and at 31 they are much harder to find than at 15. And let me ask you what your friends are for. Every day I am convinced that a man needs 1, 2 childhood friends, what is his name to go out, 1 for a business that is his right hand. The first 2, in my opinion, you must know them for a long time to be able to share about things in life. The right hand comes after that and only talks about business, career and work. That's what I think, obviously you miss these people. Especially with those with whom you can hang out and drink beer.
You have depression.
Well, congratulations, you have a conscious problem, which means you officially have half the problem. Try a psychologist, it helps many people realize the reasons for their condition and find a way out of "hopeless" situations. It's bad that you shut yourself in. Think about it. You are a young man with a stable job and a woman next to you. Pay her a little attention, try something new together. You can travel on day trips, sign up for something, go out more, or just spend time together. It will surely cheer you up. When you are with her, her company should be pleasant to you and make you feel better. Tell her about these problems of yours. She is the woman next to you and she deserves to know the truth. If a person does not want to be helped, no one is able to lend a hand. You don't talk about these things, you shut yourself in, and you need help. That's enough, tighten up and be honest. We all fall into such states, it is not shameful. Turn off your computer and leave it for a week. See how you will live without him. Make it a rule. You can have fun for an hour a day or not do it at all, the important thing is to stay alone and not have internet. You will be convinced that new and new ideas for entertainment will start to come to you, and you will even start to communicate more with the people around you and you will want to go out more often. If your girlfriend does not want to look for hobbies with you, then you can try new things yourself. A cooking course, a language course, a fitness course, or whatever comes to mind and you've ever wanted to try. Take it this way: you learn to cook to make a romantic surprise to the woman next to you and to have something new to talk about. Every household activity is something which can become a fun endeavor from a higher level. When I'm sad, I pretend to be a pastry chef. At home, some biscuits, cakes, cakes are tossed and my relatives spread all the work. With people like you, change often turns out to be the solution. Refresh your home a bit. It is both a useful activity and then it will please your eye. Change the colors of the walls, buy new bed linen, some other decoration. Rearrange your furniture, renew it. Change something. You can live with your girlfriend, start taking new steps in life and develop more personally. Get a cat, a dog, a hamster, a fish. Make a long-awaited change. With people like you, change often turns out to be the solution. Refresh your home a bit. It is both a useful activity and then it will please your eye. Change the colors of the walls, buy new bed linen, some other decoration. Rearrange your furniture, renew it. Change something. You can live with your girlfriend, start taking new steps in life and develop more personally. Get a cat, a dog, a hamster, a fish. Make a long-awaited change. With people like you, change often turns out to be the solution. Refresh your home a bit. It is both a useful activity and then it will please your eye. Change the colors of the walls, buy new bed linen, some other decoration. Rearrange your furniture, renew it. Change something. You can live with your girlfriend, start taking new steps in life and develop more personally. Get a cat, a dog, a hamster, a fish. Make a long-awaited change. to start taking new steps in life and to develop more personally. Get a cat, a dog, a hamster, a fish. Make a long-awaited change. to start taking new steps in life and to develop more personally. Get a cat, a dog, a hamster, a fish. Make a long-awaited change.
That sounds like a joke to me. Can't find a hobby? And how do you look for it? If I tell you to go rock climbing or diving, how do you feel? Or drawing Japanese miniatures? Or to learn Swahili? A person either likes something or he doesn't like it, how can we understand what attracts you, even if this is a huge problem for you. And he didn't know what to do with his girlfriend :-) Sex for example? I've heard that people go for walks, vacations, excursions, I know ...
Well, I don't have a wife, a normal job, because I was bored and I have almost no friends. At the moment, as I write it, I have BGN 1.8 in my pocket and I ate a pie. I'm just wondering if I should eat another one. But I get a salary on the 25th. My biggest plus is, I'm still 26 and I can change things. Brother, let's stop as long as we roar. As you can see from my story, there are people where, where worse than you. So appreciate what you have. He had no hobbies .. You have a wife, you have money, you are healthy .. You are richer than half the world's population. Travel, read, smoke cigars (my hobbies) But as long as you complained that your life was very bad, that you have no idea what some people have been through.
From the author to 4. You described me without knowing me ... I have no such friends, which I regret all my life. I sit at home and drink beer alone in front of the computer, watching a match. There are some guys we see on the weekends, but only then. Only our table is the fulcrum. Neither our careers nor our everyday life are connected ... Obviously I am also a hypocrite.
So what to do? I am 31 with a good job, but without a girlfriend. What should I do then? At least you have a boyfriend. He had no hobbies ... he found me. I play the guitar, I enjoy it.
To the author: buy a home camera, several spare batteries, a memory card and a tripod! Go with her to concerts, ceremonies, take your boyfriend! That's enough for you to have a good time and feel the holiday! As long as you are not from a small town! Great artists usually perform in the district cities! When you get home, transfer the recordings and one night watch them both on TV! You will have an unforgettable evening! Get out of depression, don't be afraid of anything!