Hello! I grew up in a medium-sized town of about two cans of gasoline from Sofia (large cans). As a child, I did not miss friends. Over time, my circle of friends narrowed and only the real ones remained. Then I finished high school. I had the opportunity to follow my dreams, to achieve what I had dreamed of all my life, to start climbing the small steps of life. Thus began my story, my long journey to the infinite. Alas, I did not predict a small variable in the equation. My success goes hand in hand with loneliness, that bottomless pit that quietly sneaks up on you and starts killing you slowly but surely. I moved to a nearby town to continue my studies. My student years were pleasant for me. You know how it is - parties, roommates and new acquaintances. Everything was always in moderation. I knew why I was there and why my parents worked hard so I could study. I went home to my friends every week and we had fun together every weekend. I had friends with a big P who were ready for anything for me. Then the story ended. I graduated with honors. It was not at all difficult for me to find the dream job. The problem is that my sector is centralized in Sofia, and only there I had the opportunity for a good start. I moved to Sofia. Colleagues turned out to be wonderful people. It's a fairy tale at work, but when I get home I feel so empty. I like living alone, but I can't live without friends. I can't stand alone Friday night through Sunday and wonder if I should drink whiskey or watch a movie. I fell into a vicious circle. I have no friends around me, I have no one. I have a feeling that even the people on the street feel it, it's like I'm a ghost. I tried to go home to my friends every week, but it didn't work. The road is overwhelmingly long and there are two days off. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to make new acquaintances. I want at least the weekends to have someone to go out with, someone to exchange two stories about for something other than work. To go to a crazy party, to feel human again. What good do I get from a good salary now that I don't have anyone by my side?
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Go to a disco or bar try to meet a girl, along with her friends you will make new acquaintances.
When you don't have friends around, you make them! :) You find a wife and create 2-3 great children who are both your friends and students, and with them you will not wonder for a moment whether to drink whiskey or watch a movie - these things will even make you want they seem like unattainable chimeras! :) Sometimes you will even have to completely forget about yourself, your ego and your whims, especially when they are little. The fan is indescribable in simple words! It may seem a bit masochistic on the side, but I assure you it is not, and besides - the result is well worth the effort and "sacrifice" - at least you know that people will come out as the final "product". Otherwise, with whiskey and movies, a big ... NOTHING will come out in the end! Good luck, and if you decide to follow a similar plot line - write how it is! :)
It's like I wrote it. Unfortunately, the moderators will not allow us to contact you. But I strongly recommend that you enroll in an evening foreign language course. Currently, not many are available in the summer. But in the meantime, in the evening you can go to the gym and have a conversation with people there.
You need a girl and you will forget about everything.
I do not agree with number 2 on this with finding a wife and having children. However, in order to have children, you have to be sure of the person from whom you have them, whether he is the right one and whether you feel ready. Before that, you have to meet this person and he wants to live with you, and this does not happen from today to tomorrow. It takes time and a lot of experience. At least, in short, this is my idea of starting a family. About loneliness. Do not worry. There are such moments in life, but there comes a time when it is possible to meet a very important person for you, he just hasn't happened. And until then - try to make friends with colleagues at work as soon as you say they are decent. Make a group on Facebook and get along on Friday night after work to get together somewhere to break up, to go around on the weekends, and for them to take their friends, acquaintances, so the circle of acquaintance will expand and it will happen in a natural way. Regarding the foreign language course - this will only increase the loneliness in my opinion. There you will hardly meet funny people or more in such a situation. This is my opinion. I'm not trying to impose it on myself, I'm just saying it to myself, everyone has the right to completely disagree with me. Good luck, and you will succeed once you are a successful person!
Create an account on a dating site. Personally, I do not suffer from a lack of friends (for which I am very grateful), but years ago, when I changed the city like you, I realized what it is like to have no one to go out with to drink a beer. For a start, on this site you can kill time by communicating with strangers, and then you can make a friendship. Personally, I haven't done such things for a long time, but since then I have 2 or 3 friends left. Good luck and write how things are going!
This also applies to me, I thought it was just me.
I'm still a teenager and I'm unlikely to be useful to you, but if the moderators let us connect, I would go out for a coffee or go out on the weekends, just as friends. Sometimes I am surrounded by people and I still feel alone, I wish I had real friends, but I never am, they always lie and betray me and it would be nice for at least one person to care about me and obviously if you he had such friends, so you are like that and we could hang out, but otherwise my advice is to get a girlfriend and become your wife, and if you have a good salary, then you can have children and take care of them.
I'm sorry to say, but there's a good chance you won't find any friends in Sofia. I've been here for three years and the friendships I've made have cooled in that time. But you can't go back. I tried. There were no friends left there either. The problem is that the people of Sofia are very cold and suspicious, and rightly so ... Now I am very sorry that I left my hometown. All I had to do was wait for some change. Do not make that mistake. Connect with people with similar interests. Through forums or others. Talk to you, share and you will feel better. If not, the pharmacy sells antidepressants. They help a lot. The problem, however, is not what you will or will not do. The problem is whether you are meant to be happy. Start with something simple and, as funny as it sounds, say "I love you" every morning after standing in front of the mirror.
Brother, it's almost the same with me. I had friends and a boyfriend and it all went to hell. I have money, but I'm not happy. Its end can be seen in me ... I went to doctors, psychologists, I tried sports, I went to women. I tell you to know that there is worse. When I look, you are not as desperate as I am, and I am one step away from pulling the rope. Anyway. My advice is to try the things that people advise you. Spend time with relatives. Sometimes they can help you a lot - talk to them. I wish you success and remember - do something small every day that gives you pleasure in life.
Number 5, because you've tried it several times, so you know how it is ... from number 2
Many people are in a similar situation ... The important thing is to try new things. Fitness, dancing if you will, some foreign language. It's not that hard if you have the desire ...
I haven't had friends for so many years and I learned that you have to look for them yourself !!!
A smart boy like you, I find it hard to believe that you couldn't express yourself emotionally. Life is not just parties and sweet talk. I understand you to the point that you miss your friends, but people like you and me often find themselves in such naughty and confusing situations. This is a part of life, only we are supposed to be smart, but it turns out that we are in the queue. Maybe you haven't lived to see it and want to catch up, or you just miss the old days. And right here, stop and think about where you're going wrong. While you miss your friends, it is these friends of yours who have other (family) commitments. One thing is for sure, the old days will never return. If you want it, it doesn't scare you, but nothing good awaits you. Find a girlfriend. In my opinion, you are alone and hope that life will be as it was before, now they have poured disappointing thoughts. Life changes are difficult, but not impossible. M33
One was making money, he was lonely. Another heavyweight, but the money is not enough, will immigrate. A third caught some problems in the family. Is there a happy person, but completely happy? Your life is a bomb, but you are not a homemaker and you cannot appreciate it.
Hey this is very interesting. There are so many young people in Sofia. How can you be alone at all? My boy lives there and when I visit him we also go to events in the parks - last time there was a jazz festival in the "dog garden". Everyone was very smiling and positive. I see that many of my acquaintances and friends in Sofia go dancing and this is also a very cool way to socialize. Nice young and positive people in one place. Just open your heart. Don't get caught up in the problem, but relax and smile :) Good luck!